They try it every year. Last year it only took them until the 2nd day of the legislative session to introduce it. Now that they control the General Assembly they need to be talked out of doing this.*Its a waste of government resources to spend time and money on this.*It's mean spirited, and redundant with the law we already have banning gay couples from getting married in NC.*The constitution shouldn't be amended lightly. The cause should be important and appropriate.I fear that our step towards comprehensive sex ed (that still emphasizes abstinence only until marriage is best, & still gives parents an opt out) will be lost since it was unanimously opposed by the GOP. Although it would have to be repealed, so there is more inertia there.I need to learn to speak Republican. I have no idea how to advocate against embedding social conservatism into the constitution to a Republican controlled General Assembly. Maybe some of you who speak GOP can help
11/3/2010 4:24:57 PM
Marriage is an issue of religion, not politics.Lobby for the reasons necessitating gay marriage (or any marriage for that matter) to be changed (i.e. income tax benefits, insurance benefits, etc).Take away the benefit of being married and voila, it is a non-issue.I guess, what I am trying to say is achieve the same ends with different means. At that point, marriage wouldn't matter....unless you are religious, then that is between you and your pastor.[Edited on November 3, 2010 at 5:11 PM. Reason : ( * )( * )]
11/3/2010 5:09:49 PM
Lobby the GOP to get rid of marriage altogether? I think you're barking up the wrong tree. But if you can explain that strategy more I'll certainly listen.I'm aiming much smaller. I'm wondering how to best advocate for the NC GOP to not write social conservatism into the constitution.
11/3/2010 5:33:23 PM
First I have to ask why you want to be married? Cui bono?
11/3/2010 5:40:00 PM
You can pm me that question if you'd like to discuss my personal life & feelings on the issue.But this thread is for strategies to avoid this constitutional amendment. Now if you want to ask why do I oppose this more on a policy level, I think I've already answered that:
11/3/2010 5:55:18 PM
11/3/2010 8:59:00 PM
The Republicans may try to get this out, but it won't get out of either the Senate or the House. It will require a super majority before it can even be put on the ballot. Don't worry, they'll just waste their time and political sway trying to do this.Then again, it is the NC GOP and they are quite the incompetent bunch, so I could see them wasting time on this.
11/3/2010 9:02:16 PM
11/3/2010 10:29:32 PM
Sadly, I don't think there is any way you can reason with them on the issue. They're so locked in on trying to get this done that it's unlikely anything will dissuade them. We're still in the Bible Belt and most of the GOP people were probably raised to believe that homosexuality is a sin. No amount of reasoning with them is likely to change their minds, unfortunately.
11/3/2010 11:02:29 PM
For people who say marriage is an issue for the churches, and not the state, that is a falsity.First, if I am an atheist, and actively oppose all churches, does that mean that I do not have a valid marriage? If the church has no place in my home, would anyone argue that I should not be able to get married? If you would allow me to do so, then isn't that saying that the church should not be allowed to determine marital status?Also, marriages can be performed by justices of the peace. Remember, the state is who vests the power of marriage in ministers and priests, not the other way around.More importantly, there are a tremendous number of rights and privileges in this country that are specifically granted by marriage. Whether we are talking about tax breaks, inheritance rights, health care privileges, and even duties the law says that you owe as a result of the special relationship existing to a spouse, all of these are legally recognizable rights and responsibilities associated with the relationship of marriage. To say that marriage is a classification and zone for the churches is to ignore that the government has more of a vested interest in marital relationships that any church does, because of the legal implications.
11/3/2010 11:19:57 PM
The numbers I'm seeing say that they need no Dem support in the State Senate to make this happen, and have a GOP to spare.But in House, while they have a majority there too, they need 4 Dems to meet the 3/5ths requirement. I think you're right, religion will probably play a large role in what the law is.But if we can convince almost all the Dems to take a page from the nation GOP and act in lock step, then maybe we have a shot, but I still think we'll need a cross over GOP or 2. Who, even if they wont vote against this measure, will abstain so that the GOP would be required to get more cross over Dems to make it happen. Unfortunately I think there are enough conservadems that more crossovers will go in that direction than the other way around.
11/3/2010 11:23:54 PM
Its never too early to start lobbying the Dems for support against the proposal. Get it on their minds now that they will have to deal with it early.
11/4/2010 12:03:29 AM
You're very right about that. And its something that will be done a great deal.Lobbying a Republican is a new skill that those who oppose this measure are going to need too. And identifying which Republicans might be open to listening is a necessary exercise to begin now as well.I don't know the current GOP incumbents well enough to identify who is best for targeting, but looking at those in the freshman class in the house that won with less than 10%, I figure that is where we might find cross overs if anywhere:
11/4/2010 12:31:43 AM
11/4/2010 1:50:55 AM
Am I a fan of gay marriage? No.Am I a fan of the government saying, "No gay marriage!"? Also no.I don't think it will pass. I hope it won't pass. I will oppose it passing. If it looks close (and I don't think it will -- the issue is far more useful as a flag to wave than it is as an actual legislative victory), I will write my representatives in opposition.
11/4/2010 2:06:50 AM
11/4/2010 2:32:01 AM
My party, such as it is, likes making big deals out of things. I don't think they'll go through with it -- too much trouble. Making democrats look bad is easy enough. Just fail to ban gay marriage and blame it on the left. Zero cost, at least some benefit.
11/4/2010 2:41:21 AM
man if this repubs would drop this forcing their religion shit they would be damn awesome.
11/4/2010 7:36:59 AM
Minority House Leader Stam is a vocal proponent of this amendment. He's an obvious person to consider for getting the head house job now. But it looks like House Minority Whip Tom Tillis, who is anti-gay in other ways, hasn't made a quote on the marriage discrimination amendment (that I have found yet). And he wasn't explicitly for it on his website. He represents North Mecklenburg so maybe that constituency isn't as right leaning as a more rural place.http://christianactionleague.org/news/alienation-of-affection-criminal-conversation-law-weakened-by-house-panel/
11/4/2010 8:08:03 AM
Darn.Senate Sponsors
11/4/2010 8:15:55 AM
Pulling from Wikipedia on some leadership positions in the house for the GOP
11/4/2010 8:28:57 AM
Fuckity fuck fuck fuck.
11/4/2010 8:38:39 AM
something about religion not fucking it up for the rest of us.....
11/4/2010 9:11:40 AM
Only religion that's been "hijacked by the extremists," am I right?
11/4/2010 9:18:24 AM
In the Senate lobby Richard Stevens and Fletcher Hartsell. They are Republicans who did not sponsor the bill last year. Don East didn't sponsor it either, but I don't know how friendly he would be toward your position.
11/4/2010 9:43:55 AM
It looks like Dem sponsor Nelson Cole lost to Unaffiliated Bert Jones.
11/4/2010 9:54:12 AM
Okay, so the potentially persuadable GOPs for the Senate are:
11/4/2010 10:00:57 AM
I saw lots of values talks and crosses on the websites and the importance of bible values in our government, traditional values, family values, and nearly universal mentioning of which churches they don't attend, but nothing more explicit than that. My research is done. This is the team where the cross overs have to come from. We need 3 from the first box & at least 4 from the second:
11/4/2010 10:21:47 AM
Now that I know who the primary targets are, I need a convincing message.
11/4/2010 10:39:28 AM
Don't waste your time on Jim Davis. He is a fundamentalist Christian and the person he unseated was a sponsor of the Marriage Amendment (John Snow). It's a battle not worth fighting with him. don't waste your time on anyone else. I gave you the names of the two people you need to focus on. Richard Stevens and Fletcher Hartsell.
11/4/2010 10:59:02 AM
That isn't enough to stop this. Only 3 GOPs in the entire general assembly didn't sponsor this bill last time they were given the chance. Those were 2 of 3. For my math to work, we'd need to win over some newbie fiscal conservative focused GOPs AND those you've mentioned would have to continue to not take sides.Focusing on keeping 2 of the 3 who haven't taken sides to keep them from taking sides is probably something we have to do, but its meaningless without the rest.
11/4/2010 11:52:21 AM
11/4/2010 12:53:14 PM
I don't know that you can get through to the representatives this way, but you can appeal to the voters sense of distrust for the government. Remind them that an amendment to the constitution which defines marriage simply opens the door for further chances for politicians to define sacred institutions. Ask the baptists if they would be keen on the ever growing number of catholics in the state (yankees from up north) redefining marriage as only between a "catholic man and a catholic woman". The biggest flaw in a democracy is that you can give the government whatever power you want, but your enemy will be the one controlling that power.It may also be worth reminding the newly elected GOP that if they believe it was the Tea Party and backlash against the DNC that got them elected, then a large part of that was opposition to the ever expanding reach of government. Amendments interfering in religious matters are the very definition of expanding government reach
11/4/2010 1:38:19 PM
^Thanks. That's exactly the kind of thing I'm looking for. Different ways to make the case for preventing this amendment.I've got a new list now. Once I realized that if I cut it down to narrow races (in the hope those places didn't lean strongly right) that I wouldn't have enough people left, I decided to just make a comprehensive list of everyone who isn't on the record in favor of this amendment:
11/4/2010 5:22:47 PM
11/4/2010 5:27:07 PM
the fucking cons do this every time. win an election based on advocating fiscal responsibility, less taxes, smaller government...then start to pull this social bullshit, which flies in the face of the whole 'small government' idea. fucking irritating.
11/4/2010 6:08:07 PM
In fairness they won advocating this too. The local nc family whatever group (anti-gays/abortion) questionnaire helped me narrow down the list a lot. As did candidates campaign websites that took stands on this issue.The NC GOP was nearly unanimously advocating for this position as an election issue. This isn't a surprise in the slightest. Only 9 GOPs running this time didn't make it an election issue. The 9 may still oppose it, they just didn't do it vocally enough in the election for me to have found out yet.Also, I found some a fiscal impact note from the fiscal research division suggesting this will cost $5,726,500+ and yet it is still widely supported by "fiscal conservatives"Some other issues from the questionnaire:Should an unmarried couple be allowed to adopt children?Should students have access to contraceptives, including condoms, at school?Should the General Assembly remove the cap on the number of charter schools allowed in the state?(I'm not sure what their interest is here? Is it to have more religious schools? Other than more religion in schools & less sex ed I'm not sure why they'd care about education)Should parents who educate their children in non-public schools be eligible for a voucher, tax credit, or tax deduction from the state?Should an individual's personal religious beliefs influence the decisions he or she makes while serving in public office?Should abortionists be required to supply women seeking an abortion with information explaining the risks of and alternatives to the procedure?Should human embryos be used for research purposes?Should it be illegal to allow the withdrawal of life-sustaining medications or food and water from a person who is in a vegetative state?Should a woman have the right to conceive and carry a child to term for the purpose of selling that child to another individual or couple?Should the current purpose of the state's Alcohol Beverage Control System to limit the per capita consumption of hard liquor be retained?[Edited on November 5, 2010 at 2:37 AM. Reason : .]
11/5/2010 2:32:16 AM
I'm mostly conservative (probably just fiscally these days though...) and I in no way agree with this amendment. It is purely religious based and that has no place in our government.Let's see how I do here...- Should an unmarried couple be allowed to adopt children?Yes- Should students have access to contraceptives, including condoms, at school?Sure, but by donations only; waste of tax money.- Should the General Assembly remove the cap on the number of charter schools allowed in the state? (I'm not sure what their interest is here? Is it to have more religious schools? Other than more religion in schools & less sex ed I'm not sure why they'd care about education)Sure-Should parents who educate their children in non-public schools be eligible for a voucher, tax credit, or tax deduction from the state?Hell no-Should an individual's personal religious beliefs influence the decisions he or she makes while serving in public office?Hell no-Should abortionists be required to supply women seeking an abortion with information explaining the risks of and alternatives to the procedure?The risks and alternatives to ANY surgery should be explained by the doctors... I don't see why abortion is different-Should human embryos be used for research purposes?Yes-Should it be illegal to allow the withdrawal of life-sustaining medications or food and water from a person who is in a vegetative state?No-Should a woman have the right to conceive and carry a child to term for the purpose of selling that child to another individual or couple?No-Should the current purpose of the state's Alcohol Beverage Control System to limit the per capita consumption of hard liquor be retained?Hell no[Edited on November 6, 2010 at 4:24 PM. Reason : .]
11/6/2010 4:24:05 PM
Now that I've narrowed down where support might come from, I've started the process of trying to get some potential allies (or abstainers) on the record. I'm starting with the house b/c that's the best chance to stop it.If I can get enough people on the record that it can't pass without them flip flopping, and then write a thousand stories about it on every local blog, letter to the editor, political site, and everywhere else I can think of then maybe I can stop this or at least delay it.
11/6/2010 5:53:32 PM
it's nice to know our gov't spends time on issues that actually matter
11/6/2010 6:21:12 PM
Hey, it keeps them from planning to build sea walls.
11/6/2010 6:51:30 PM
I got one on the record against the amendment in the house!!!!!!!! I just need one more. And then they'll only be able to reach 71 of the 72 votes needed in the House short of any flip floppers.
11/6/2010 6:58:37 PM
Grats dude! While I can't begin to compare with the personal stake you have in this I can at least appreciate when someone is standing up for something just and proper.
11/6/2010 8:39:50 PM
I'll check into mine and maybe send a message... though they're probably religious freaks and won't listen. while personally I don't care much for your cause ( ), I recognize when the government is overstepping its boundaries and attempts to deny citizens basic rights... and nothing pisses me off more/scares me more than this. The ban on gay marriage is nothing but an establishment of religious principles upon the public, which is in every way unconstitutional... and I in no way can support any policy in direct violation of the constitution (and the current law banning gay marriage is just as unconstitutional).
11/6/2010 9:20:21 PM
11/7/2010 5:46:58 PM
Are surrogate mothers really becoming a political issue?
11/7/2010 7:12:33 PM
With most surrogates the conception happens outside the womb. I don't think the question is directly referring to that since the woman wouldn't be conceiving.
11/7/2010 7:18:20 PM
I honestly think that you are overreacting to this. I don't like Stam, but I don't think that he is willing to throw a lot of vulnerable members under the bus by forcing them to vote on this. I think he is far more concerned with continuing to have a majority. You probably aren't on his (or the GOPs...I don't even know what list I'm on that I get his e-mails, but anyways...) e-mail list, but here is the latest e-mail he sent on election night.
11/7/2010 7:25:58 PM
#1 - Good, but you'll need to run a surplus and then continue to trim expenses and cut fat in order to get state government back to where it should be.#2 - Agreed.#3 - A good, but potentially meaningless plan. We'll see what happens with SCOTUS and other state's challenges to federally mandated health care.#4 - God yes. I'm so glad that the Democrats in DC never got around to trying to force EFCA through, it would have been a disaster. We need to protect our non-union workers and do everything we can (outside of corporate welfare) to make NC a destination for businesses. #5 - Agreed. We need to reduce a lot of regulations. Is there really any reason that people like barbers or florists should need a state issued license? Won't the shitty ones more or less fail due to word of mouth? Furthermore, we need to make it easier, not harder to start a business. Generally speaking, the amount of paperwork required to open a business is inversely proportion to how economically free a state is.#6 - Again, agreed, but good luck. Once bureaucracy is entrenched it is almost impossible to root out.#7 - Agreed, but good luck doing both 6 and 7 without a huge fight from "educators."#8 - I'm not sure if I like the idea or hate it. We definitely need something a little more stringent than just a list of names with no proof required, but I'm hesitant to require a state issued photo ID unless they make them free.#9 - Good luck with all of that, SCOTUS has already shit all over that one.#10 is just laughable, that'll never happen as long as it's the same douches from the same two douchy political parties being funded by corporations, unions, and "special interest" groups.
11/7/2010 7:53:09 PM
http://www.wral.com/news/state/story/8609861/
11/11/2010 4:49:30 PM