i have a girlfriend

she was busy tonight

i went out because i was bored and my friends were at the bar

is it wrong for me to hit on a girl, just for fun, with no intention of doing anything illicit with her?

5/3/2008 2:43:58 AM

probably a bad idea to post it on tww

unneeded evidence

5/3/2008 2:45:16 AM

meh, whatever

it's just a further illustration of the point i'm trying to make

whether i'm right or wrong is why i'm asking tww

5/3/2008 2:47:28 AM

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"i have a girlfriend"

stop bragging...

but if she doesn't have any friends in the vicinity, you're good to go

5/3/2008 2:47:55 AM

you just multiplied the number of dicks she's sucking behind your back by like 5x

5/3/2008 2:48:37 AM

if you're cool w her hittin on other guys

5/3/2008 2:58:34 AM

i dont like my girl to flirt with other guys

so im not going to do that with other girls, because i have no intention

it really depends on your gf
my buddy has a gf, that they both know nothing is gonna happen when the other one goes out
never has and i know and they know, it never will
they have been drunk and can flirt and have fun and until it reaches a point, they just have fun
when it gets to the right situation, they will stop it regardless of alcohol level.

you need to determine if she cares you flirt with girls.
that will depend on time together and trust level.
also, what she thinks is flirting is important, not what you think

5/3/2008 3:25:23 AM

depends on what you mean by "hitting on her"

if you just were trying to see if you can pick up a girl, maybe

if you were just bored and chatting, then i'd say youre good.

if you wanted to cheat on her, make sure you don't post about it. they always find out.

5/3/2008 4:06:26 AM

this is why we can't have nice things

5/3/2008 4:20:48 AM

depends on the girlfriend as to whether or not she'll care. if you don't know whether she would care or not, you're probably not serious enough with her for it to be "wrong" either way. i know my wife wouldn't care at all.

the one thing that no one else has mentioned is whether it's wrong for you to string along the other girl if you have no intention of anything developing. if the girl thinks you're cute and wants to hit that, then you're potentially hurting her feelings, and definitely wasting her time.

5/3/2008 4:27:04 AM

^^lol

5/3/2008 4:43:16 AM

this thread was silly

"hitting on" was the wrong phrase

i'll see what my gf thinks of this thread, though

and the OMG MY GF FOUND MY PRON AND SHE HATES IT thread (lol)

5/3/2008 11:22:26 AM

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"i have a girlfriend she was busy tonight i went out because i was bored and my friends were at the bar is it wrong for me to hit on a girl, just for fun, with no intention of doing anything illicit with her?"

No. Not at all. My girlfriend tells me to have a fun time whenever I go out. That means pretty much everything except any kind of physical action(sex, touching, making out). She trusts me and I trust her. I figure I will do anything at the club that I wouldn't mind her doing. She should encourage you to have fun. Also, it's fun to flirt and hit on girls and it's kinda funny when they expect a ride home or some fling one night you bust out the "Oh I have a girlfriend." on them just like how some girls do the "I have a boyfriend" line at the worst times as well.

[Edited on May 3, 2008 at 11:32 AM. Reason : -]

5/3/2008 11:31:31 AM

just tell her you're keeping up the practice for when yall break up

5/3/2008 11:32:55 AM

haha

5/3/2008 11:34:43 AM

it's worth pointing out that when she's at the bar and i'm working there, i find it highly entertaining to watch guys hit on her

that's slightly different, though

meh

5/3/2008 11:54:21 AM

Yeah, you shouldn't do that, Brian.

5/3/2008 12:03:15 PM

five bucks says the next thing he says is about how much sex he's having.

5/3/2008 5:41:26 PM

I wouldn't want my boyfriend to hit on other girls when I'm not around. Being friendly or being funny is okay, but you know when you've crossed the line. Just act like you've got some sense and it'll be fine.

The same goes for flirtatious emails or IMs.

This is my professional opinion.

5/3/2008 6:02:07 PM

I'm one of those girls who thinks it's perfectly okay to flirt when in a relationship, as long as it's some random person who you're not likely to see on a regular basis. I know I have trouble controlling my urge to flirt, so why should I care about his? Of course, this attitude doesn't mean I'm not likely to get outrageously jealous, anyway.

5/3/2008 7:15:19 PM

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"just tell her you're keeping up the practice for when yall break up "

best advice yet

5/3/2008 7:19:05 PM

coming from a girl, yes it is.

would you be ok if your gf went out for a girls night and flirted up guys just for fun?


I don't condone it either way.

[Edited on May 3, 2008 at 7:21 PM. Reason : but it denpends on how serious you guys are. ]

5/3/2008 7:21:18 PM

It would depend on how your girlfriend feels about the situation. If you think she would be upset with you flirting with other girls even if you mean nothing by it then don't do it. If she wouldn't care about it, then go at it.

Also think of it the other way. How would you feel if she went a flirted with other guys and told you that it meant totally nothing at all? Would you feel a bit upset by it, or not care?

You might also like to think if it's something you wouldn't do in front of your girlfriend you probably shouldn't do it behind her back either.

5/3/2008 7:25:41 PM

To me, a little flirting can sort of rejuvenate your relationship. Especially if you and your S.O. are past the point of flirting with each other all the time. You have fun, you gain confidence, which means you go home to your girl feeling good. It doesn't mean you're going to cheat on her (unless you happen to be a jackass). I wouldn't go so far as to ask for anyone's number... and I definitely wouldn't flirt with anyone you think you'll see regularly unless it's VERY clear that you're totally committed to your girl.

this of course assumes that you could handle the same from your girl and that she's not a complete spaz.

5/3/2008 7:34:51 PM

so i told her just to be safe

she thought it was hilarious that i'd even worry about it

we decided to go to the bar and pretend that she was mad

and made a scene in front of our friends

5/4/2008 6:25:03 PM

I'm Barack Obama, and I approve of this message.

^the best thing is to have her get free drinks from guys for the two of you

[Edited on May 4, 2008 at 6:26 PM. Reason : .]

5/4/2008 6:25:32 PM

Whatever you do, you must say, "I am in a serious relationship, but...." at some point

5/4/2008 6:52:44 PM