Saw this post in http://www.thewolfweb.com/message_topic.aspx?topic=505337 and thought it needed its own thread. It be alot better off in old school but sense im not there yet this will have to do.

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"Right before I got married, an older gentlemen told me to put a jelly bean in a jar everytime my wife and I had sex the first year of marraige. After the first anniversary, he said to eat a jelly bean each time we had sex. I would die with jelly beans in the jar. Now that I am halfway through my third year of marraige and she is 4 months pregnant, I am beginning to believe him"

Thoughts? esp those of yall who are married

[Edited on December 7, 2007 at 4:50 PM. Reason : i would really hate to think this is true]

12/7/2007 4:47:39 PM

WAT

12/7/2007 4:48:51 PM

If that's true, those would be some nasty jelly beans by the time he dies.

12/7/2007 4:49:04 PM

thats why I have to date nymphos

12/7/2007 4:49:48 PM

Bingo.......married two years and I get it three or four times a month for the most part

12/7/2007 4:49:56 PM

It's probably true. Shit, my g/f is in FL right now but even is she were near me, I get home at 11pm every weeknight and the only think I want to do is go to sleep...

[Edited on December 7, 2007 at 4:53 PM. Reason : but I'm a workaholic and burn myself out w/ the long days]

12/7/2007 4:50:10 PM

i'm divorced

and yes, sex slowed down wayyyyyyyyyyy too much for me

12/7/2007 4:52:35 PM

its true

12/7/2007 4:53:31 PM

ha
Jen-

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"I doubt i would want to stay married to a man that didn't nail me to the wall every now and agian."

12/7/2007 4:54:43 PM

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" Marriage and sexy time"

I had always believed these two things to be mutually exclusive

12/7/2007 4:54:52 PM

are you serious or trolling?

12/7/2007 4:55:15 PM

this is part of why I sometimes think I may just want a lifetime gf instead

12/7/2007 4:55:48 PM

my gf and i have promised each other to keep the frequency of sex where it's at long after we are married. for some reason she thinks that she will be the one complaining that she's not getting it enough. i hope she's right.

12/7/2007 4:56:40 PM

I don't know if I necessarily think it's true...

I do remember when my former spouse and I started dating, we had sex a lot. Rush home on lunch break, lots of all nighters, in the car, you get the idea. At least once a day, some days two or three times.

Of course, that slowed down after a couple of months. We got married, and over the course of the next 3 years, it continued to slow down until we had sex once a week if we were lucky. Sometimes once every two weeks.

Quite frankly, I got to where I wasn't looking forward to it a whole lot sometimes. It was definitely one of those times when you feel like you should be bonding with your spouse, but in all reality, wasn't much more than a physical outlet. And I felt kinda guilty for that. It made it that much worse. In all reality, I seriously think it was the slow realization that our relationship and our marriage had been a poor decision from the beginning, and we just didn't get each other.

I think that, in a good marriage, you'll get a chance to eat all your jellybeans, 'cause you'll devote time to other aspects of your marriage besides filling the damn jellybean jar up (though you'll do a damn good number on it), and your interest in each other won't drop so sharply (though I'm convinced you WILL have dull moments) over time.

12/7/2007 5:04:35 PM

he probably died because the jelly beans went bad.

12/7/2007 5:21:22 PM

he might have choked on the jelly bean.

12/7/2007 5:23:33 PM

not past the first year yet but damn i hope that doesn't happen to me - i feel pretty confident it won't

12/7/2007 6:18:38 PM

10 days to marriage but damn i hope that doesn't happen to me - i feel pretty confident it won't

12/7/2007 6:21:14 PM

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"he probably died because the jelly beans went bad."

lol, gg

12/7/2007 6:22:48 PM

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"10 days to marriage but damn i hope that doesn't happen to me - i feel pretty confident it won't"

How long you date?

How long before you had sex the first time?

Hmmm...material for another thread...

[Edited on December 7, 2007 at 6:24 PM. Reason : there goes the neighborhood]

12/7/2007 6:23:51 PM

i just hope my wife doesn't let herself go and get fat

12/7/2007 6:23:52 PM

In fact, by the time of marriage (Dec 17), we wouldn't have had sex for 1 month on purpose, so that we can both explode on our wedding night!

12/7/2007 6:25:40 PM

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"i just hope my wife doesn't let herself go and get fat"

12/7/2007 6:28:36 PM

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"How long you date? How long before you had sex the first time?"

been together for 2 years 9 months, engaged for 2 years 6 months.

we were going to get married in july 2005 (1 month after engagement), but because of legal complications, it didn't work out. after that, we weren't able to for many reasons (legal, working in different cities, etc).

(we are from different countries and different religions, and that creates problems for many countries to get married in)

so finally we are going to mauritius now next thursday. very easy to get married there; just need passport + birth certificate.

we had sex 2 weeks after starting dating.

12/7/2007 6:33:06 PM

Nothing should change after marriage. The only thing that changes with a marriage ceremony is a couple new pieces of jewelry and sharing a last name. Its not some huge deal that interferes with the rest of your life. If you don't plan to at least keep your current rate of sexy time, you need to make that plain before marriage.

12/7/2007 6:36:40 PM

marriage is like when ralphy from a christmas story when he put his tongue on the frosty pole.

12/7/2007 7:07:57 PM

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"marriage is like when ralphy Flick from a christmas story when he put his tongue on the frosty pole."

12/7/2007 7:53:25 PM

I'm never getting married

I'm way too fickle

12/7/2007 7:57:48 PM

I'm never getting married

I'm way too fickle

12/7/2007 7:58:25 PM

^ im beginning to think that i fall into that category

and its not healthy

12/7/2007 8:07:06 PM

The sex does decrease in frequency when both spouses start working full time. When we were dating we would only see each other about once a week so we'd do it 4 or 5 times a day. When we started living together she was still in school and I had a work-at-home temp job, so it was maybe every 1-2 days. We've been married 2 months now and we're both working full-time, so it's about 1-2 times a week. We have healthy sex drives but most days we're too damn tired to do it or there's no time--I get horny in the morning but I have to go to work, or she has to work in the evening. If I'm frisky and she's not she'll let me just climb on top and do my bidniss, which she does b/c she wants me to be happy, though it is a lot better when she's actively participating.

If you're not getting what you need, you need to talk openly about it with your spouse or you'll just get frustrated. If he/she's not willing to compromise, seek counseling. Alienation of affection is grounds for divorce, too, and rightly so IMO.

12/7/2007 8:11:40 PM

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"If I'm frisky and she's not she'll let me just climb on top and do my bidniss,"

I think I'd rather wank. No, scratch that. I'm sure I'd rather wank.

12/7/2007 8:16:50 PM

^^ Wow that's pretty generous of her, though I think it's weird that you find her just kinda laying there in a stupor a turn on.

[Edited on December 7, 2007 at 8:18 PM. Reason : ^my point exactly]

12/7/2007 8:17:35 PM

^She doesn't just lie there like a corpse, she does move around some and touch me, just doesn't participate as actively as usual. I guess what I mean is it's standard missionary and I do most of the work. She still enjoys it, says it feels good, but she's too tired to be really active or make whatever motions are necessary for her orgasm. Sometimes, though, it starts out as just me doing my business and then she gets turned on a few minutes into it and gets more active. For whatever reason, I do seem to turn her on, she often demands we cut foreplay short and get right to the cock.

12/7/2007 8:33:01 PM

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"...tongue on the frosty pole"

12/7/2007 8:38:44 PM

We were together for 4 years before we got married. In the first 3 years, we'd have sex multiple times a day, skipping classes and our piddly part time jobs to do it, and we would do it just about anywhere. We swore that we would never be one of those couples who only had sex on special occasions and holidays.

But it started slowing down when we both started working full time and by the time we were married it ground to nearly a halt. We've been married 18 months and we've probably had sex about 18 times. I've been pregnant for a little over 8 of those months and we've probably had sex 5 times. It's been 3 months since either of us have gotten any and we're both starting to get that desperate look in our eyes, but the baby just will not cooperate with us.

12/7/2007 8:40:55 PM

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"get right to the cock"

Teehee.

12/7/2007 8:42:53 PM

^^After the baby's born I think you both should agree to ignore the baby if it gets fussy while you're trying to be intimate. Put on some loud music to drown it out if you have to. Dropping everything every time the little nipple-biter gets needy sets a bad precedent for the future. Are you going to cater to your child's every need or are you going to make him/her learn from the very start that he/she is not the center of the universe? My wife and I have agreed that we won't let our children run our lives, and they'll grow up hearing us grunt and moan and scream (she's a screamer) in the next room and just live with it.

[Edited on December 7, 2007 at 8:49 PM. Reason : ^^]

12/7/2007 8:47:53 PM

We work completely opposite schedules so when one is ready to go the other is exhausted and vice versa. It's hard but we always manage to find room for sexy stuff, just not as often as we'd like.

12/7/2007 8:49:45 PM

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"If I'm frisky and she's not she'll let me just climb on top and do my bidniss, which she does b/c she wants me to be happy,"

I would hate that. I appreciate that she wants me to be happy, but if she weren't enjoying it, I don't think I could enjoy it either. For me, sex is about both partners being intimate about it. If I want to get off and she doesn't, I'll just go beat off.

12/7/2007 8:50:02 PM

*lol*

The baby is still INSIDE me and has a few more weeks to go, that's the problem. I'm ridiculously pregnant at this point and the baby just makes me feel like crap or seriously gets in the way.

We're not worried about the baby after it gets here. We've already decided that our kid is just going to be emotionally scarred by what mommy and daddy do in the bedroom.

[Edited on December 7, 2007 at 8:51 PM. Reason : my kids are going to tie up the neighbor kids!]

12/7/2007 8:50:50 PM

i'd be worried he's poke the baby in the head

12/7/2007 8:52:54 PM

^Well, it never is purely physical with her, even when I'm just doing my business I still feel the emotional intimacy, we still say "I love you". But she's very attractive, both physically and emotionally, and makes me want to make love to her, so she gives me that outlet so I don't have to keep it bottled up or settle for whacking off.

12/7/2007 8:53:46 PM

^ she sounds like an awesome person

12/7/2007 8:55:54 PM

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"But she's very attractive, both physically "

pics or it didn't happen

12/7/2007 8:56:49 PM

^^ im jelious of couple's like yall. That probably makes me a bitch

12/7/2007 9:02:27 PM

people like jelly beans?

12/7/2007 9:04:31 PM

only the tangerine ones

12/7/2007 9:04:47 PM

I'm never getting married

I'm way too fickle

12/7/2007 9:08:45 PM

I have been married for over two years. I think it is amusing to read all of the posts about how people say that they will be having sex everyday for the rest of their lives or else its just not gonna work. The problem is that before you are married there is waaaaaay too much emphasis placed on sex. Yeah its great and all, but in the grand scheme of things, you have to marry a person for their personality (obviously include a good bit of physical attraction). THe only reason that sex is so exciting while dating is because it is new and each party feels that they need to impress and satisfy the other and that leads to more sex drive. Reality is... once both parties are comfortable with each other sex drive goes down because there is no more need to impress. You will never be happy with a marriage purely based on sex, because eventually its gonna get old. Thats why I say its best to hold the sex until marriage.

Imagine hanging out with your best friend of the opposite sex getting to know them and falling in love.Then you propose and prepare for a really nice honeymoon. and then after the excitement of the wedding, knowing your best friend will be there for the rest of your life... and then doing your best friend. its friggin awesome.

Compare that to meeting a hot girl and doing her, finding out that she is crazy as hell, but not breaking it off because she is better than nothing at all. Then eventually getting married because you can't find anybody better.

Sex is nice, but not all its cracked up to be. You are gonna have to spend a lot more time with your spouse while not having sex than you will while having sex.

The answer to the jelly bean question is: I think its an exageration, but does hold some merit. Let's just put it this way... you may not have as much sex, but when you do, you REALLY like it.

12/7/2007 11:20:24 PM