me and my gf tried to get back together after about a 1 yr hiatus and it crashed and burned like flight 11. i just broke up with an amazing chic ( getting serious/married/no foreign vagina ever scared me into pushing her away) i'm wondering has anyone ever takne a substaintial break and gotten back together?

9/13/2007 9:00:17 PM

its called a breakup because its broken.

9/13/2007 9:00:56 PM

if by successful you mean sex, then yes

if by successful you mean a relationship, then no

9/13/2007 9:03:23 PM

People always break up for a reason. There will always be that reason in the back of your minds. Even if you do get back together, in enough time it will resurface and you will feel even crappier than the first time. Other than screwing around with each other, move on with your life and find another woman.

9/13/2007 9:44:13 PM

i stopped a very promising new relationship to get back together with my ex.

NOT A GOOD DECISION.

I lost on two fronts, my ex being more devastated and the new girl I liked A LOT hates the shit out of me b/c she thinks I was playing her (or that I was using her as a rebound). Which I was not.

It's fucked up. I lost a very good thing and it was all for nothing.

Don't do it.

9/13/2007 10:05:31 PM

I got back with an ex after a 6 month hiatus.

now i'm married to her.

9/13/2007 10:06:17 PM

useless without pics

9/13/2007 10:12:20 PM

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"I got back with an ex after a 6 month hiatus. now i'm married to her."

Similar.

9/13/2007 10:20:31 PM

suscessfully?

9/13/2007 10:32:06 PM

just curious did you guys see other people during the break ?

9/13/2007 11:01:45 PM

Tried about a gajillion times. Some people just shouldn't be together.

9/13/2007 11:18:07 PM

^^ yes, well i did.

9/13/2007 11:19:36 PM

I'd get back with my 4yr ex, no questions asked. But it wont happen.

If you are on equal ground, it's workable. If either of you is in control of the relationship, forget about it.

9/14/2007 1:12:16 AM

I got back with an ex after a 6 month hiatus.

now i'm married to her.

9/14/2007 8:10:11 AM

got back with an ex after a 6 month hiatus, then she cheated on me.

then i got back with her even again


but im finally done

9/14/2007 9:27:33 AM

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"got back with an ex after a 6 month hiatus, then she cheated on me. then i got back with her even again but im finally done"

not exactly, but close enough

9/14/2007 9:34:51 AM

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"People always break up for a reason. There will always be that reason in the back of your minds. Even if you do get back together, in enough time it will resurface and you will feel even crappier than the first time. Other than screwing around with each other, move on with your life and find another woman."

my girlfriend and i of almost 3 years broke up for about a semester and tried again. that quote pretty much sums it up. It was her fault to begin with. Dating for so long she felt like "she hadn't gotten the college experience" aka wanted to fuck around. and did. lost me after the second failed reunion and realized this summer how big of mistake she had made. now she calls me crying. slut

9/14/2007 9:47:17 AM

yeah, definetly not a good idea

almost lost my current fiance (when we first started dating) by trying to reunite with an ex

9/14/2007 10:36:22 AM

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"yeah, definetly not a good idea almost lost my current fiance (when we first started dating) by trying to reunite with an ex"

Dont even talk to exes, they arent worth it I was almost in similar shoes.

9/14/2007 10:44:46 AM

I got back with an Ex after a 4 month break where we both dated other people and now I'm married to him.

9/14/2007 1:43:55 PM

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"crashed and burned like flight 11."

really? you couldn't have thought of any better analogy?

9/14/2007 1:50:54 PM

it rarely ever works. if ever...

everyone thinks they can do it though. but its funny to see them crash and burn after people say its not possible.

but it all depends on why/how you broke up.

9/14/2007 2:01:16 PM

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"almost lost my current fiance (when we first started dating) by trying to reunite with an ex "

yeah definitely sucked...


Leave all the bad shit behind you. There was obviously a reason yall broke up in the first place.

9/14/2007 2:02:27 PM

I got back with my ex after six months.

Its better than ever.

Probably helped that I moved 700 miles away, but we both dated other people (well, I did, and he tried to.) We stayed friends through that period though.

9/14/2007 2:03:27 PM

It depends on which person did the breaking up and why and how long it's been, etc. I think it's a bad idea because it's like going back in time to be with someone that you were already with (clearly for one reason or another it didn't work out). you have to think about how much that other person has changed since you've been apart.

you may have loved them at one point, but people change. Nostalgia might cause you to WANT to go back to that person... but was it really that person you miss or just the idea of them and that phase of your life?

9/14/2007 3:00:11 PM

it completely depends on the situation and people involved.

saying that it either always works or always doesnt is stupid. its obvious it can work as seen by the three people in this thread who are now married to people that they have broken up with in the past.

9/14/2007 3:02:21 PM

dated this girl for about 2.5 years, broke up for around 6 mos, got back together, and are still together several years after that breakup and should be getting engaged soon

9/14/2007 3:27:51 PM

date for a while, broke up, dated again, broke up, dated again, she found jesus and decided everything we did was immoral, broke up

good times

9/14/2007 3:41:57 PM

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"my girlfriend and i of almost 3 5 years broke up for about a semester and tried again. that quote pretty much sums it up. It was her fault to begin with. Dating for so long she felt like "she hadn't gotten the college experience" aka wanted to fuck around. and did. lost me after the second failed reunion and realized this summer how big of mistake she had made. now she calls me crying. slut"

9/14/2007 4:30:09 PM

DJ LAUREN OSNAP!

9/14/2007 4:34:35 PM

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"if by successful you mean sex, then yes if by successful you mean a relationship, then no "

there are girls I'd date again

but no ex girlfriends I'd ever get back together with

9/14/2007 5:44:52 PM

breaking up and then trying to get back together indicates that at least one of you (maybe both) are operating on a mindset of desperation and poor judgment.

i have never EVER had a successful relationship with any chick ive ever broken up with, then tried to get back together with.

and one of those instances, 'bout near ruined 2+ years of my life: wound up dropped out of college, defaulted on loans, maxed out my credit, criminal charges, jail time....

of course, the cocaine might have been a part of it.

but still, don't do it.

9/14/2007 11:58:20 PM

well like i said she was really amazing, she was perfect for me . but at the time i was really afraid of caring for someone that much and dismissed her feelings as "puppy love" lol even though we've been datin for the past two yrs. now that she's gone i'm starting to think i was just lazy and too selfish to commit. now she's kinda dating around (i've been for a while) . i don't want to interupt her dating if that's what makes her happy (and i 'd still do anything in the world for her). but i just kinda wante dot get an idea of the odds if we got back together at some point.

9/15/2007 12:57:46 AM

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"I got back with an ex after a 6 month hiatus. now i'm married to her."

OH MY GOD, GOOD FOR YOU! COULD YOU POSSIBLY POST THIS ANY MORE ON THIS MESSAGE BOARD?

jesus christ... I'm pretty sure I saw a trophy shop on the way to the barber in downtown cary. just an FYI.

9/15/2007 12:59:22 AM

the only good ex is a FedEx

and even that's a little iffy.

9/15/2007 1:19:11 AM

^^Dude, come on...his wife is significantly better looking than him...he deserves the right to brag.

9/15/2007 2:23:17 AM

Not yet. I miss my ex-girlfriend everyday. I would date her again in a heartbeat. Totally can't see myself with another woman.

These are the dangers of not dating 'till you are 22.

9/15/2007 4:08:03 AM

^^^^ here you go, little buddy

"I got back with an ex after a 6 month hiatus.

now i'm married to her"

9/15/2007 10:40:55 AM

heh

I've never gotten back together with an ex (be in a relationship again). Never will.

9/15/2007 10:53:38 AM

there are two exes i miss a lot. One was my last ex, and the other was my ex from freshman-junior year of college. I would love to relive the memories I had with each of them and possibly make some changes, but I would never get back together with them. We broke up for a reason and thats that.

9/15/2007 10:57:09 AM

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"heh I've never gotten back together with an ex (be in a relationship again). Never will. "

damn straight, emce. this train goes around ONCE only. she bails or fucks it up, she lives with it.

my ex called me last weekend trying to talk all "oh how is your family, how is everyone, we should get together next time you come home." I'm like "bitch, you don't know my family, i never introduced you because i was ashamed of your sloppy ass, and us getting back together is as likely as Pat Tillman's dead ass resurrecting and leading the NFL in sacks this year."

then she asked who Pat Tillman was

... she wasn't fast enough to hang with me from the beginning, but sometimes you want a relationship so bad that you jump in not caring who the person is.



there's only 2 girls EVER that i might reconsider, and that's because we weren't actually "together" in the first place.

[Edited on September 15, 2007 at 11:16 AM. Reason : more]

9/15/2007 11:15:27 AM

I'd love to get back with an ex and figure out who she has fucked in the interim. SIKE LOL

9/15/2007 1:47:14 PM

dated for 1.5 years, broke up for 9 months, have been back together for almost 2 years

the first time around was great, the second time around has been even better

during the 9 month interim, the issue that broke us up was resolved

9/15/2007 4:14:06 PM

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"OH MY GOD, GOOD FOR YOU! COULD YOU POSSIBLY POST THIS ANY MORE ON THIS MESSAGE BOARD? jesus christ... I'm pretty sure I saw a trophy shop on the way to the barber in downtown cary. just an FYI. "

FYI, this thread is about being reunited successfully. All he did was reply about the topic at hand.

anyways, I doubt this works often. People break up for a reason. It's not likely that they change much.

9/15/2007 8:43:41 PM

i think its prob a bad idea for most cases

*but* in some rare instances it takes time apart to realize that they are the right one

9/16/2007 12:19:21 AM

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"she wasn't fast enough to hang with me from the beginning, but sometimes you want a relationship so bad that you jump in not caring who the person is. "

you live an learn dog


now I know

9/16/2007 3:26:43 AM

don't base your decision on others... that's for sure

9/16/2007 3:38:39 AM

http://youtube.com/watch?v=Na4x2Uwflmg

9/16/2007 4:22:49 AM

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" home." I'm like "bitch, you don't know my family, i never introduced you because i was ashamed of your sloppy ass, and us getting back together is as likely as Pat Tillman's dead ass resurrecting and leading the NFL in sacks this "

I'm willing to bet it didn't go down anything like this,

9/16/2007 1:30:12 PM

judging from the responses i'm starting to think my only chance is to get her on the montel show 5 years form now and tell her i still love her.

9/16/2007 1:46:25 PM