i am currently planning a wedding for May of next year

i really would like two colors for my wedding: maid of honor in one color, brides maids in another color, and flowers/accents/etc in both colors

is this acceptable? i know this used to be done 10 years ago, but are people still doing it this way?

every person i ask says "you can do whatever you want, it's your wedding" but i want a real answer!

6/19/2007 11:27:46 AM

I'm gonna have a beach theme, the ladies will e in this awesome aquamarine color. OMZ

And it'll be on the beach and stuff.

WERD

Yes it's acceptable though no, i'm not married. jha

6/19/2007 11:29:08 AM

going through david's bridal? i know what color you're talking about if that's where you're going, and it'll look super on the beach! i've found lots of beach-themed reception stuffs on Michael's website - check it out!

6/19/2007 11:30:21 AM

Oh neato, i would but I'd be jumping the gun since I don't even have a ring yet.

This form the Ladies let's talk shop! thread.





[Edited on June 19, 2007 at 11:33 AM. Reason : tehe]

6/19/2007 11:31:29 AM

not married, but you can definitely do this.

hell the wedding i went to this weekend was very casual. the men wore their own dark suits, with ties of their choosing. the bridesmaids also wore a dress of their choosing, and they weren't the same color. one of the bridesmaids wore white! and they all looked great

6/19/2007 11:40:28 AM

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"one of the bridesmaids wore white!"

now that's just wrong ...

6/19/2007 11:42:43 AM

why do women always need approval - you can do your own wedding anyway you want...the wedding ceremony part is for you and the reception is where everyone else needs to be happy also

6/19/2007 11:47:11 AM

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"is this acceptable?"

its your wedding...you can do whatever the hell you want.

6/19/2007 11:51:26 AM

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"one of the bridesmaids wore white!"

that is really fucked up

6/19/2007 11:51:37 AM

it was her sister, and the bride didn't wear white. she wore a cream laced dress.

and actually, early bridal traditions the bridesmaids all wore white and veils to look like the bride so that any evil spirits would be confused and couldn't curse the new couple.

6/19/2007 11:52:45 AM

yes, get colors

mine were sage, white (I dont think that counts as a color), and touches of pink


yum!

6/19/2007 11:53:14 AM

sounds like an episode of the Andy Griffif Show where Barney pretended to the bride b/c someone was planning a kidnapping during the ceremony

6/19/2007 11:56:23 AM

lol

6/19/2007 11:57:06 AM

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"not married, but you can definitely do this. "

Obviously, not being engaged, we haven't started firm planning, but it looks like a fall wedding is what we'll be doing. Well, the groom LOVES the color orange. So we will probably do a maroon and orange color scheme. I see no problem with using two or even three colors.

6/19/2007 12:20:46 PM

There is a book I saw...somewhere. That specifically goes over acceptable wedding color combinations. It may have even been at David's Bridal. My maids will be wearing the apple red.

6/19/2007 12:28:31 PM

my choices are Sage and Lilac. on the david's bridal website, it's this dress:




in these colors:







[Edited on June 19, 2007 at 12:33 PM. Reason : i hate that website]

6/19/2007 12:31:47 PM

what color is elvis wearing?

6/19/2007 12:32:24 PM

Elvis will wear this, only with a Lilac cape



[Edited on June 19, 2007 at 12:34 PM. Reason : .]

6/19/2007 12:34:29 PM

Now, if the Maid of Honor wears Sage, and the Brides Maids wear Victorian Lilac - what will the Groomsmen wear?

Would the Best Man wear a Sage cumberbund and the Groomsmen wear Victorian Lilac?

Would they all wear one color or the other?

HALP

6/19/2007 1:03:23 PM

do whatever you want to do you idiot - why would you think it's wise to come to tww for advice on this - mother, friends, etc are typically all better - it's your wedding and you are allowed to break any sort of rule you think might exist

6/19/2007 1:05:22 PM

I was just watching the style network do's and don'ts for weddings (I also have a wedding to plan haha)

but Vera Wang says it is better if your bridesmaids don't all match, for example, have the maid of honor wear a different color than the other bridesmads which is what you are saying...

its your wedding do what you want

[Edited on June 19, 2007 at 1:15 PM. Reason : words]

6/19/2007 1:14:12 PM

i'm not good at this stuff, damnit

that's why i want advice from as many people as possible

i don't want to look tacky, and i definitely am not good at coordinating shit like this, so i'd like help!

6/19/2007 1:26:04 PM

You could mix and match the colors, but they need to compliment each other. I would not choose overly girly colors or out of season colors. First, where are you planning to get married? Second, what kind of ceremony? A good navy or brown with a lighter accent color will work in every situation. My girls are wearing navy j crew dresses with orange and green flowers in October.

if you like browns or Navys, have the bridesmaids wear a shade in that color and put the MOH in a lighter shade of the same dress. You can add color with flowers. Its a very elegant combination and all the dresses are in a timeless color that will complement everyone. I wore a very beautiful coral dress once, but the color was terrible on me and clashed with the church carpet.

I honestly would not put a groomsman in matching accessories. It just does not pull things together. I have seen it tried numerous times and the guy looks like he is going to prom rather than a wedding. A better idea would be to have boutineers that coordinate with the dresses.

6/19/2007 1:41:46 PM

My only hesitation would be that the bride is supposed to stand out, and if you have the maid of honor in a brightly colored dress that is very different from the color of the other bridesmaids, then the bride stands out a little less.

I think it is acceptable though as there are no "rules," and it would look fine, just depends on what you want.

6/19/2007 1:48:34 PM

I just saw that you picked colors, sage and violet. I would chose one color or the other for dresses.

Now, a sage dress with some deep purple flowers in the bouquet could look really great together. Then you could use lilies in your flower arrangements at the reception with a lot of greenery. I just feel like the violet and sage dress will really limit your flower choices to white, yellow and possibly the right pink.

If you did decide to do this combination, I would do the MOH in violet and everyone else in sage. I would do pale yellow roses or white flowers. Put the groomsmen in all black tuxes or navy suits with a pale yellow tie (which I am not really feeling, but its all I got for now)

As all the prior posts have said, to each their own and chose what you like. It can be made to work together with careful planning and coordination. The two colors are far from tacky together.

6/19/2007 2:00:59 PM

it's your hell...you can do whatever wedding you want

6/19/2007 2:26:17 PM

I think the appropriate question is ... what will best match the tuxedo t-shirts of the groomsmen?

6/19/2007 4:11:57 PM

i think it's perfectly acceptable.

i'm getting married in 3 days and my bridesmaids are wearing "wild rose" colored dresses (a dark pink) and my maid of honor is wearing chartreuse green w/ a wild rose sash.

The groomsmen are wearing chartreuse green vests/ties

6/19/2007 4:56:13 PM

When I got married, I was told that the maid of honor is supposed to be distinguishable from the rest of the bridesmaids.

I did not go with a different color, but I let my girls pick out whatever they wanted to wear as long as it was in buttercup. I hate it when one dress is chosen for girls of all different shapes and sizes because someone always ends up looking really bad.

I do not think that there is anything wrong with choosing two different colors. If you look at the bridal magazines, you will see all kinds of different arrangements of the wedding party. You could probably get away with just about anything as long as you tied it all together appropriately.

6/19/2007 4:58:11 PM

Haha yeah I posted that in the Shop thread.

I really want that color for my bridesmaids or some sort of blue. I lurve blue.

[Edited on June 19, 2007 at 5:05 PM. Reason : The color is Oasis.]

6/19/2007 5:02:25 PM

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"I think the appropriate question is ... what will best match the tuxedo t-shirts of the groomsmen?"

we should totally do a backwards wedding

the women will wear the suits, and the men will wear the dresses

i think orange is a good color for my beau

6/19/2007 5:07:18 PM

Don't make the groomsmen wear matching cumberbunds.

It's your wedding not the junior prom.

6/19/2007 5:12:08 PM

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"it's your wedding and you are allowed to break any sort of rule you think might exist"

Tell that to my mother, she's a bridezilla.

6/19/2007 5:17:37 PM

^ my bridesmaid and maid of honor dress

something they can wear again

6/19/2007 8:06:34 PM

Eh, my ladies are all wearing the same dress and in the same color - to each her own. I know it's been said, but it's your day, so go with what you want to do! I'm having my MOH wear the same dress 1) because I like the matching look - call me old-fashioned and 2) I wouldn't want the other girls to possibly feel separated. They would probably be fine - some might not even think twice if she had a different dress - but whatever! I feel a little touchy about the MOH thing at moments anyway - They're all special to me for different reasons - just had to pick someone to be my right-hand gal for this process!

6/19/2007 8:41:03 PM

Alot of people do this.
I had the flowers for my maid of honor slightly different (I had a red rose in the center of yellow roses, the other 2 had just yellow roses).

6/19/2007 8:59:29 PM

it seriously amazes me just how many options i have for my wedding

i am a horrible decision maker, so this really sucks

for now, i think i'm leaning towards one color, and the bridal party picking their own dress (so i have 4 different dresses)

6/19/2007 9:09:36 PM

Not sure if the topic has moved from the original question but you can definitely do this. Most brides have their maid of honor stick out in one way or another and I think the different color is a sweet idea much better than the gloves I have seen at alot of weddings. This is completely acceptable and no I am not married yet or planning a wedding but I have been in a few and a bridesmaid in one as recently as this May if that helps any

6/19/2007 11:09:31 PM

my MOH has a different necklace. thats the only difference. and her hair will be mostly down while the others will have theirs up. so she'll look a little different. It's my sister so everyone knows who she is

6/20/2007 9:22:11 AM

i think i've decided to go with one color, the darker purple, and i'll let my bridal party choose their own dress and do their own hair, so that each of them adds their own flare to the wedding.

6/20/2007 9:28:36 AM

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"So we will probably do a maroon and orange color scheme."

hokie fan?

6/20/2007 9:37:48 AM

I am a guy, but I will answer this anyways. At my best friend's wedding the maid of honor wore a light green dress while the bridesmaids all wore light blue dresses. I think it looked exceptional like that.

At my own wedding all of the bridesmaids wore the same dress in the same color. It also worked out as well, but the maid of honor was not distinguished in any way. Same for my groomsmen and best man. The reason we did that was because we had multiple people we could have listed as either so we just made them all look the same. It works out well regardless.

It is all in what you want to choose. Btw those weddings were in June and May respectively. Oh and our colors in May were a light sage and lavender, so not too far from what you have chosen. Just make your groom wear a white vest or cumberbund or whatever he is getting for his tux, if you are wearing a white dress that is. It definitely makes the two of you stand out from all of the others.

6/20/2007 10:27:26 AM

It's totally okay to do that. I just told my girls that their skirts had to be Alfred Angelo claret, floor length, a-line; but their tops could be whatever they wanted as long as the primary color was white and it had claret accents. I think everyone looked great!

6/20/2007 11:01:33 AM

I've photographed 4 weddings this summer and this seems to be the trend. The coolest-looking one was a stark white wedding with hints of black and red, with the maids and grooms in black with red flowers, the bride in white with red flowers (bouquet and head-piece), same theme with the reception hall. It wasn't tacky or romantic, but sophisticated/artsy. Depends on your personalities.

The image quality on TWW sucks but you get the point. I was still learning.
BTW, plan alcohol. Nobody dances unless they're tipsy, and then it's hilarity and good times.

6/21/2007 4:44:44 AM

I advocate for floor-length dresses so the girls can pick their own shoes. For my friend's wedding, the groomsman I walked with was shorter so I had to get 2" heels whereas the shorter bridesmaids went up to 4" heels.

6/24/2007 4:30:28 PM

it's funny how people always expect the guy to be taller. i must be weird, but i think it's cool when the girl is taller than the guy... very attractive in my opinion.

6/24/2007 4:56:42 PM

you're short aren't you

6/24/2007 5:42:59 PM

not really... i'm average.

6/24/2007 5:53:02 PM

kiwi, beached whale theme.....interesting.

6/24/2007 5:57:32 PM

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"one of the bridesmaids wore white!"

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"that is really fucked up"

For clarification, what's the offense here? Does wearing white imply she's somehow more pure than the bride or something?

6/24/2007 6:20:48 PM