So, I have a friend who just got out of rehab (for drug addiction), and she is living at home with her parents now. I want to send her a get well/thinking of you card, but all the ones at the store were just...too much. So I'm using a blank card but what should I write? Keep up the good work? I don't want to be offensive, but I want them to know I'm thinking of them and wishing them well, since I haven't seen her in 5-6 months. I have known this person and her family for about 5 years, and used to be very close with the daughter before we both went to different colleges.

7/31/2006 11:17:38 AM

send her this:

7/31/2006 11:19:18 AM

Welcome home...I hope you are doing well. Just wanted to let you know that I was thinking of you.

maybe even an "I'm proud of you" and "Let me know if you'd like to get together" if that's what you'd want to do.

any words of encouragement really...most won't take offense after coming out of a program...whereas before they might have.

7/31/2006 11:21:36 AM

i dont think proud is the right word for someone who isnt an older authority figure. to me, proud brings the connotation that they are above you in some way. i may be completely offbase, but that is the way it seems to me. for example, if i finished my masters and one of my friends said they were proud of me i would just kind of

i think maybe "i admire you for what you have done" might be more uplifting. but i am no expert.

[Edited on July 31, 2006 at 11:26 AM. Reason : i just read the whole post and saw your "offense" comment, i agree, but it doesnt hurt to be careful]

7/31/2006 11:26:10 AM

Seems like it wouldn't be that hard to find a generic "thinking of you" card.

7/31/2006 11:28:33 AM

what a quitter

7/31/2006 11:31:02 AM

Well, all the thinking of you cards had like...puppies and kittens or they were religious or sympathetic.

7/31/2006 11:37:57 AM

what's wrong with that?

7/31/2006 11:40:08 AM

^maybe the OP knows that's not the friend's cup of tea

you might try being honest:
"Hey, I didn't really feel like sending you platitudes, but I did want you to know that I'm thinking of you. Feel free to give a holler if I can do anything for you"

7/31/2006 12:30:43 PM

maybe some flowers? flowers cheer me up and pretty much sum up any feeling you may have, and then just be honest in the attached card and say something like "Dont exactly know what to say because it's hard for words to be band-aids but I'm glad you're doing better" or something?

actually I like what Andrea said-

[Edited on July 31, 2006 at 12:35 PM. Reason : always late]

7/31/2006 12:33:56 PM

Quote :

"what a quitter"

hahaha abonorio ftw

7/31/2006 12:35:59 PM

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"but I want them to know I'm thinking of them and wishing them well, since I haven't seen her in 5-6 months."

Turn this into narrative...this is not that hard.

7/31/2006 1:28:00 PM

If you really feel like you should send anything at all don't mention the recovery or "keep up the good work" I would want my friends to treat me like they usually would, not like an addict. Maybe just "I heard you're home, hope you're doing well. See you soon. If you need anything let me know. give me a call" blah blah blah. Maybe even a letter is better than a card, cards are stupid.

The way I see it is you are either a close enough friend that you can just call and talk to her or you don't need to say anything at all until the time comes. Sending a card would never cross my mind, maybe that's just some girl shit though. It's not christmas or a birthday, she probably doesn't need to be reminded that she's a recovering addict. Especially from somone she hasn't seen in 6 months (do you at least talk to her regularly? That would make a difference).

Also have you considered taping a small bag of flour to the inside of the card? that would be classic.

7/31/2006 1:53:21 PM

http://crouchingbadger.com/movie/paperclip.mpg

7/31/2006 4:22:07 PM