I'm going to be a groomsman in a friend's wedding this weekend. What is an appropriate amount to spend on a wedding gift for the bride and groom?

7/17/2006 5:18:31 PM

How long have you been friends?
I'd say $75-100...

[Edited on July 17, 2006 at 5:20 PM. Reason : But this depends on your income. ]

7/17/2006 5:20:09 PM

How much do you like them? I'd say $100+. I mean, it's not like you're ever going to do it again.

7/17/2006 5:20:27 PM

GET THEM A TOASTER OVEN

7/17/2006 5:21:11 PM

I spent $250 on my best friends gift, but I was the maid of honor...I think $75-100 for a groosman, is sufficient, unless you make enough to do more.

7/17/2006 5:21:34 PM

Just something nice that's at least $50.

7/17/2006 5:22:58 PM

I'm a po' college student who only works twice a week. We've been friends for a little over 10 years now. $75 sounds like a good #...I might go with that

7/17/2006 5:24:13 PM

If you've been friends that long, he'll know your finances, and your situation for the most part, so it will be easy for him to understand why you spent what you spent.

7/17/2006 5:25:21 PM

i think it depends on where you are in your life.

i'm in 3 weddings in the next year, and i just can't afford to get reallly nice gifts on top of dropping between $110 and 200 on dresses (this is without alterations, i'm not sure how much those will be yet )
i'm just going to pick out something from their registry that is nice, but isn't super expensive (more like the $30 range)
i'm still in school so there is no way i can swing $100 for a gift, especially not for all 3 couples. i can't really afford to buy all the bride's maid's dresses so i've had to swallow my pride and ask my parents for help with those.

7/17/2006 5:28:13 PM

Quote :

"GET THEM A TOASTER OVEN"

or a bread maker, but make sure he doesnt give you back the same one as a house warming gift.

7/17/2006 5:33:07 PM

$100+???

Whoa...I hope my groomsmen hook me up like that, but I sure as heck don't expect it. I felt bad making them pay $100+ for the gay tux...

7/17/2006 5:37:54 PM

the groom should know pretty well everyone's financial situation - get whatever you feel comfortable getting - quit being a girl

7/17/2006 5:39:53 PM

I just got married and I didn't expect any of the wedding party to spend money like that. I didn't expect a gift, honestly to me, the fact that they would be in the wedding meant more than any gift.

7/17/2006 5:40:42 PM

between the bridal shower gift and the wedding gift, for one of my best friends weddings that im in in august, i'll probably spend $100
and im guessing $30-50 for the bachelorette party
and ~$175-200 for my bridesmaids dress and alterations

[Edited on July 17, 2006 at 7:12 PM. Reason : (not complaining, im happy to do all of it, i love this girl)]

7/17/2006 7:11:35 PM

I was just in my sister's wedding last Saturday and i didn't buy a damn thing, however, I have brought gift's to every other wedding that I was in/at. Maybe this is because it was my sister's wedding. ...Hhmm

[Edited on July 17, 2006 at 7:24 PM. Reason : .]

7/17/2006 7:24:21 PM

I'd get them something from their registry that they would like. If you want to, talk with the other groomsmen and find a more expensive ticket item and buy it as a group.

7/18/2006 5:30:02 AM

Been a groomsman 4 times. Haven't gotten any of them a wedding gift yet. Been insanely close with all of them, now they'll all be my groomsman. And I don't particularly want them to get me anything either. If they do, sure I'll be glad for it. But it doesn't then confer an obligation to them to repay any time in the future (Christmas, birthdays, etc.). The same for the times I've given them things - why would I expect them to give me anything back later?

Gift expectations between friends are LAME. It's a GIFT. Give it if you want to / can.

7/18/2006 8:33:56 AM

One of my best friends just got married last month. I looked through the registry and saw that most of the stuff there was crap that his wife wanted. It was fairly obvious that he didn't want this stuff, since it was all like plates and cutlery from Crate & Barrel. I just got one of the $40 gifts on there for them; myself and the rest of the ushers/groomsmen just made sure that he had an EXCELLENT bachelor's party. We probably bought him at least 10 lap dances that night, heh.

7/18/2006 9:32:11 AM

Groomsman shouldn't be paying for tux's b/c its a rental...atleast thats how its going to be at our wedding, we're covering groomsman, and $475 of the bridesmaid gowns.

7/18/2006 10:09:40 AM

my wedding gifts of choice are the electronic can opener and the muffin pan

7/18/2006 10:31:00 AM

We all got together and got a present the groom would have liked because it was obvious he had no say in the registry (pink EVERYTHING)

so we all pitched in and got him a bitchin home stereo (yamaha amp klipsch towers centerchannel sub etc.)

7/18/2006 10:33:24 AM

I was just in my sister's wedding and gave her $50 worth of gifts.

She knows I'm broke though, so she was fine with it. This is when it pays off handily to be the younger sibling. You get the best gifts and aren't expected to return the favor.

Unfortunately she just quit her job and now we're both broke.

7/18/2006 10:34:14 AM

^^ thats what we did with my friend, we got him a powertool set, because we could tell everything on the registry was what she picked out. I think we all put in 50 bucks plus the batchelor party, and tux rental.

7/18/2006 10:45:04 AM

re-gifted breadmaker
you might be able to find it a home depot, or bed bath and beyond if you have time

7/18/2006 1:46:18 PM

If you're purchasing a breadmaker then it is not regifting....

7/18/2006 2:40:47 PM