Or maybe they want to be accepted for who they are, not who their parents imagine them to be?Then again, I know better than to talk politics or religion with family. Like my great-grandfather used to say, "There's two things polite company doesn't discuss at the dinner table, politics and religion."
10/3/2009 8:25:38 AM
^ pretty damned selfish, IMO... Just live and let live. Its not like the kids in this thread are still 13yo angst ridden teenagers. They don't get a pass on stupid shit like that, "LET ME BE MYSELF MOM!!!"But then again, atheists were never known for their selflessness. That's for damn sure.[Edited on October 3, 2009 at 8:32 AM. Reason : s]
10/3/2009 8:30:45 AM
Would you feel the same way if they told their parents they were gay, libertarian, going to marry a black chick, etc?
10/3/2009 8:36:07 AM
being gay and marrying interracially actively and visibly changes the family, with the addition of the person's partner. I never said that they should not be an atheist, and so of course they should marry whomever they love. That being said, should a gay son go out of his way to regale his mother with lurid tales from the club? No! Once she knows about it, just let it be. People need time to adjust and come to terms with things. As long as it may have taken someone to prepare to come out of the closet, their parents may need just as much time to adjust to the news.As far as being atheist/libertarian, these have very little visual impact on the family and so there is even less need to bring it up unnecessarily. As I said earlier in the thread, you shouldn't betray your beliefs, but you don't have to throw them in people's faces either.
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10/3/2009 9:28:03 AM
wow you really scored a point there!For every snarky comment you make about people of faith, they've got one for you.
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10/3/2009 12:11:08 PM
That statement doesn't suggest a superiority complex. If a person claims to believe in what I perceive to be an immoral belief system, that is more deserving of ridicule than someone that isn't making any claims at all. It doesn't mean I despise the person, or dislike the person. It means the person is deserving of ridicule. Parents, friends, or girlfriends, despite how much you may love them, can be deserving of ridicule.
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10/3/2009 12:37:33 PM
^
10/3/2009 1:02:34 PM
If I believed something ridiculous, I would want loved ones to tell me. They often have, and it was a good thing for me. Just keep making the emotional argument, though. "Oh, how could you ever criticize something that a loved one believes!" There's nothing self-centered about it. It's about being open, honest, and having accountability. Those are values that I know you don't give a rat's ass about, if your posts in this thread are any indication of what you actually think. You'd rather keep the peace indefinitely, never uttering a word to someone you love that might upset them, or that they might disagree with.You claim to be an atheist. You must think that you're justified in that. Yet, for some reason, you live in permanent fear of asserting your position. Not to internet strangers, but to the people that should matter most to you. If you're satisfied with that, fine. Relationships, in my view, are a two way street. If I expect honesty, then I should exhibit honesty. Or I could take your route, and weasel my way out of tough discussions because I can't deal with the possible outcomes. Yeah, no. But hey, I'm young and dumb, right? Maybe with age, I'll learn to run away from my problems instead of confronting them directly.
10/3/2009 1:05:42 PM
I've said repeatedly in this thread that no one should ever betray his or her beliefs. Maybe with age, you'll learn to let sleeping dogs lie.P.S. I don't believe that a disagreement over faith or lack thereof is a "problem" to be confronted.[Edited on October 3, 2009 at 1:19 PM. Reason : s]
10/3/2009 1:16:43 PM
If I learn to let sleeping dogs lie (which, for the most part, I have), it won't be because of principle, it'll be out of self-interest. I fully understand the idea of not bringing up shit that you know will start an argument for the sake of keeping things civil. That's why I don't plan to bring it up unless I'm really backed into a corner. Clarification has to take place at some point, though, which is what this thread is about. Your position has clearly been that I shouldn't have said anything at all. We disagree, and I think that's just how it will have to be.
10/3/2009 1:28:14 PM
10/3/2009 1:28:46 PM
i'm thinking that "ridicule" is poor word choice on his part; he probably means something like contempt
10/3/2009 1:33:41 PM
Was that statement arrogant? Or do you not know what "being on a high horse" means?^No, I mean ridicule. Notice that I only say "deserving of ridicule." I think anyone that believes in an ultimate moral authority who has created a universe in which most people will go to hell is deserving of ridicule. As in, they deserve to be made fun of for believing something that makes no sense and is completely absurd. That doesn't mean I'll deliver the ridicule myself. Contempt wouldn't be a good word choice at all. That implies disrespect.[Edited on October 3, 2009 at 1:40 PM. Reason : ]
10/3/2009 1:35:15 PM
contempt for one's mother is always defendable
10/3/2009 1:35:45 PM
contempt for one's mother something that you believe is wrong always defendable[Edited on October 3, 2009 at 1:45 PM. Reason : ^^ridicule implies maliciousness, so that doesn't seem to help your case]
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10/3/2009 1:46:35 PM
As far as people deserving ridicule, I'd say anyone who believes in anything that involves pseudoscience, and I'm including religion, deserves ridicule. We give religion a free pass in this country, and that's why we've got shit like Intelligent Design creeping into our schools.My boss told me once that he paid for a dowser to come to his property and find the right place to put a well. And, you know what? I called him an idiot. He deserved ridicule for that.And for whoever asked what my "official" religious stance was a few dozen posts ago, it's Antitheism.
10/3/2009 2:18:53 PM
and then atheists go whine about how no one likes them....
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10/3/2009 2:23:20 PM
It could be that I agree with the arguments you've made that I haven't challenged. However...
10/3/2009 2:47:10 PM
10/3/2009 2:52:02 PM
if both parties mind their own business, then it won't become one.
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10/3/2009 3:09:15 PM
^^^^So you think it's a reasonable and a moral position to praise a god that created hell, and sends the vast, vast majority of people there? That's not a position that a person should be criticized, and yes, ridiculed for? That's a position that should be respected and tolerated? It's not consistent to say it's a dumb belief, except when my parents believe it. I'm trying to stay objective.
10/3/2009 3:10:40 PM
ridicule, by its nature, is not an objective action.
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10/3/2009 5:23:27 PM
well, as an existential nihilist, that's how i feel. sorry!
10/3/2009 5:45:06 PM
Feel however you want, the rest of us who know better will be out figuring out more efficient ways of doing/structuring shit
10/3/2009 6:04:06 PM
Ok well I'm not sure how ridiculing your mom plays into figuring out efficient ways of doing "shit" but if you say so...
10/3/2009 6:20:08 PM
Hmm yase clearly I agree with everything the OP did because I think some viewpoints have more merits than others!
10/3/2009 6:33:27 PM
alright, my bad... sounded like you were taking his side when it comes to ridiculing mothers. Its definitely ok to think that one viewpoint has more merits than another. But ridiculing your mom.... or wife... well, it goes without saying why most people dislike atheists.
10/3/2009 6:38:41 PM
Ridicule isn't an ideology-specific shortcomingI've had religious discussions with my mom where she ended up asking for the conversation to end, but that's just because some people can't handle honesty
10/3/2009 6:40:14 PM
I know its not ideology specific... that's why I've kept reminding destroyer that he hasn't really changed from christian to atheist... he's still the same smarmy little contemptuous brat he always was.
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10/3/2009 8:49:16 PM
Well, that is just one of many changes you will undergo when you are converted, but an unselfishness stance lends itself to the conviction experienced through the Word...so it is just a first step so to speak. Once it actually convicts you, a lot of the doubts you may have had about its credibility are silenced. Christianity is at its core different than every other faith in the world, because it is the only one that suggests God chooses us, instead of what can God do for me. The focus is on His power and soverignty, not the other way around. So it is much different that just a belief in a higher being.
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10/3/2009 9:58:17 PM
ncsuREMY9, just so you know, this is about how coherent you sound in this thread:
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