Match =/= OKC

Moderating isn't an involved process, it's a mindset of. "Well, shit I have a couple minutes, let's see what stupid shit people have online today."

Click through mostly landscapes, pictures of food, and stupid little inspirational sayings. Occasionally spice things up with a nood.

3/26/2014 10:11:29 AM

i'm having a hard time deciding if I want to pony up the money and get back on Match. I'm going through a pretty tough time with the flaming out of what I thought could have been a really strong relationship and it's weighing on me like a ton of bricks. I know everyone says the cure to get over someone is to get under someone else but I really don't have any prospects in that arena, striking out on tinder, and i've already shared my dissatisfaction with OKC. I've always had good luck with Match but I feel like this is just my brain telling me to do it to try and forget the other girl instead of doing it because i'm ready for something serious.

3/28/2014 9:07:12 AM

Listen, I'll get under you ok?

3/28/2014 9:14:43 AM

^^ I'm with Jeepin4x4 on whether or not to pay for a more premium online dating service. I feel like I have gotten into some sort of rut in finding guys who just want casual relationships and nothing more. While I like starting relationships causally, I would like for them to go somewhere over time.

I have tried POF, OK Cupid, and Match. Match connected me more seriously interested people of those three. Are there others I am missing?

Note: not religious, no kids, not necessarily looking for marriage... just more than casual

4/21/2014 7:00:03 PM

eharmony

4/21/2014 7:13:33 PM

farmersonly.com

4/22/2014 8:31:16 AM

match is worth it imo, i had no problems finding local womens that i wanted to date. of course they never responded to my PMs but thats not Matchs' fault

4/22/2014 8:50:14 AM

match is the best IMO, it's just a matter of the $60 to date for the sake of dating or to actually enter a LTR.

4/22/2014 9:10:54 AM

i tried match a year ago and it seems good if you're looking for a nice christian woman

i bet a lot of people in here's dating issues would be solved by moving

[Edited on April 22, 2014 at 9:36 AM. Reason : .]

4/22/2014 9:35:08 AM

^i can say that's probably a very good assumption.

4/22/2014 9:54:37 AM

I'm getting a bit tired of OKC. There doesn't seem to be anyone in Raleigh that I would actually be interested in dating. The last two women I dated from there lived out in Morrisville, and now anyone that I find that seems interesting are out in Durham and Chapel Hill. I'm thinking about moving to Match, but I don't like that they don't have questions like OKC. With the questions I can get a good sense of whether they're homophobes, religious nuts, airheads, etc. I won't have to waste an entire date to find out that they go to church every sunday and worship Palin.

4/23/2014 9:52:53 AM

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"I won't have to waste an entire date to find out that they go to church every sunday and worship Palin."

This made me chuckle and sounds like 60-70% of girls in my area.

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"I'm thinking about moving to Match"

Match is pretty solid imho. I got a lot of dates from it and dated a girl for a few months over the winter that i met from there. Besides dicking around on Tinder when bored I haven't been working too hard seeking dates with match chicks even though i did sign up for a buy 1 month get 2 free back in February. Honestly reading profiles, messaging back and forth, etc is a huge time suck. Only to finally go out finding out that she is as described above (see christian palin comment) ,there is no chemistry, or gained 50 lbs hibernating over the winter.

My weeks is full of activities (run club, crossfit, trivia nights, tuesday night back rides), so i've been putting more
effort into day gaming.


[Edited on April 23, 2014 at 10:04 AM. Reason : a]

4/23/2014 9:56:31 AM

I had zero luck with match last time I did it.

4/23/2014 10:36:35 AM

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"I'm thinking about moving to Match, but I don't like that they don't have questions like OKC"

I just opened both of my profiles again, and it looks like Match is going to be adding the questions soon.

Although it doesn't help that OKC looks like Facebook and Match looks like MySpace circa 2005

4/23/2014 11:21:33 AM

Have you considered putting more effort into "day gaming"?

LOLOLOLOLOLOL

4/23/2014 12:43:47 PM

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"tuesday night back rides"

piggy back rides? man the breweries are getting creative with their weekly events

4/23/2014 12:48:42 PM

i got 4 hours sleep last night sue me!

4/23/2014 12:55:46 PM

tuesday tummysticks

4/23/2014 12:57:35 PM

Guys, cut him some slack. He was up late rehearsing effective day gaming strategies.

4/23/2014 1:31:15 PM

^ you're really offended about him saying "day gaming", eh?

4/23/2014 2:38:22 PM

I think it's awesome and hilarious.

http://www.puatraining.com/blog/day-game-tactics-how-to-pickup-women-during-the-day

4/23/2014 4:30:08 PM

You can "day game" my way... At least you can write full sentences with are rational.

I guess I also "day game" ... if that means looking at dating sites while at work sometimes.

4/23/2014 4:32:31 PM

^^ gee thanks, i had no idea what we were talking about.

4/23/2014 4:34:11 PM

Everything I post is just for you, simonn.

Always.

4/23/2014 4:36:40 PM

i was speaking for everyone.

4/23/2014 4:42:20 PM

fuck you simon

take that

4/23/2014 4:44:14 PM

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"tuesday tummysticks"

that made me laugh really loud

4/23/2014 8:11:11 PM

day gaming...LOL

4/24/2014 10:17:37 AM

here girls, this is for you..

http://uproxx.com/webculture/2014/04/this-woman-is-responding-to-okcupid-creeps-by-drawing-them-in-the-nude/

4/24/2014 1:35:36 PM

http://www.buzzfeed.com/rachelzarrell/an-artist-found-an-amazing-way-to-get-back-at-creepy-men-on

4/24/2014 11:38:18 PM

^you just decided not to click my link didn't you?

4/25/2014 8:06:49 AM

What is the deal with people messaging me when there are blatant differences in our ideologies?? I get messages from guys who claim that "God is #1 in their life," yet my profile specifically states that I'm an atheist, and that I'm looking for someone not very religious.

Same thing also goes for political stuff... I don't get it.

4/28/2014 11:51:27 AM

You're not going to be very easy for them to convert if you keep up that attitude.

4/28/2014 11:52:56 AM

how many of these guys do you think actually read all the way through?

4/28/2014 11:58:32 AM

^ Best not to work under the assumption that a lot of people actually bother to read profiles. On the up side...makes it easy to weed through the ones that don't.

4/28/2014 12:01:06 PM

Yeah you cant really help the guys who are just looking at pics. I know for me when i was reading a profile as soon as they started talking about jesus it didn't matter how hot they were I just clicked to the next one.

4/28/2014 1:17:23 PM

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"I know for me when i was reading a profile as soon as they started talking about jesus it didn't matter how hot they were I just clicked to the next one."

4/28/2014 1:46:28 PM

Ditto

4/28/2014 6:35:04 PM

I read profiles all the way through, and then check their questions. I think the questions give you a much better sense of what they're like than whatever crap they write in their profile.

Man, what's up with all the vegetarians and vegans in Durham and Chapel Hill? (That's a rhetorical question). I think I could accommodate vegetarians easily, but IMO veganism is like a religion. I wish OKC's match search would let me filter out the vegans sometimes.

5/3/2014 11:56:19 AM

^ i'm pretty sure you can filter by diet.

5/4/2014 4:53:56 PM

As far as I can tell I can filter for only vegans/halal/etc. but I can't actually filter them out by checking only "Everything" or something

5/4/2014 5:05:37 PM

So I joined Match a few weeks ago and haven't seen any major benefit over Ok Cupid from it. I scheduled one date from Match and the guy canceled about 2 hours before we were supposed to meet.

I had a lunch date today from OK Cupid (DAY GAMING ) that went well. Though not sure how that's really going to work out in the long run because he has an impossible schedule.

I'm trying to get to know more people, but it seems like -- with the guys I message -- we have a back and forth conversation that just dies before we meet. Is that pretty common?

5/6/2014 4:23:20 PM

^
yup. lock that shit down early.

5/6/2014 4:39:47 PM

^^You gotta avoid small talk. Save all the get to know you stuff for an actual date. If there is mutual interest after a few messages then exchange phone numbers and plan a meeting in person.

5/6/2014 5:27:19 PM

Yeah, that's pretty much what I used to do.

5/6/2014 5:36:45 PM

Went out with this girl twice in April from OKC. She seemed to have a lot of fun and we made out after the 2nd date. We didn't go out the following weekend since she had other plans but were texting everyday. I then went to Oregon/Washington for vacation for a week.

We were still talking during my trip up until she asked "who did you go with" from which I answered honestly "by myself, was supposed to go with friends but they back out and I really wanted to vacation in the Pac NW so i went anyway".

She responded "that's odd" and I followed up with a picture of Seattle and a text saying "it wasn't a big deal cause i made a few friends from all my business trips here" never heard from her again. Sent her two texts, 2 days later and realized she was ignoring me wtf...

Granted I did hook up with a girl i met on Portland previously.... lol

5/13/2014 12:12:17 PM

pwnt.

probably thinks you are weird from going on vacation alone or thinks you went to hookup with someone behind her. but more than likely the former.

5/13/2014 1:42:30 PM

People back-pack Europe alone all the fucking time. Although I probably wouldn't have gone to Seattle/Portland for a whole week without my friends if i wasn't going to hang with this chick half the time.

Still if this girl i was talking to in charlotte is like most other decent looking girls that live/work uptown I'm sure she's talking to like 1-2 other dudes anyway. Don't see why it matters.

[Edited on May 13, 2014 at 2:00 PM. Reason : a]

5/13/2014 1:51:35 PM

maybe she thought you were travelling with another chick and lying to her

5/13/2014 1:52:29 PM

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"We were still talking during my trip up until she asked "who did you go with" from which I answered honestly "by myself, was supposed to go with friends but they back out and I really wanted to vacation in the Pac NW so i went anyway". She responded "that's odd" and I followed up with a picture of Seattle and a text saying "it wasn't a big deal cause i made a few friends from all my business trips here" never heard from her again. Sent her two texts, 2 days later and realized she was ignoring me wtf..."

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"probably thinks you are weird from going on vacation alone or thinks you went to hookup with someone behind her. but more than likely the former."

this is why i lie to people i don't know well all the time. its better to tell them what they wanna hear. telling the truth usually is a lose-lose situation.

5/13/2014 2:05:01 PM