6/10/2007 10:12:35 AM
^and immunities
6/10/2007 10:26:46 AM
^^ ignoring the whole pump suggestion, of course
6/10/2007 10:46:06 AM
nothing wrong with a loose tittie
6/10/2007 10:58:01 AM
My best friend has a 6 month old and pumped for a while when she wasn't home to breastfeed, that was UNTIL HER NIPPLE BASICALLY BROKE OFF. SO STFU about pumping. You have NO IDEA!
6/10/2007 11:40:55 AM
TheTabbyCat -- I don't think I'm the only one here who understands the myriad benefits of breastfeeding but still thinks it shouldn't be done in certain settings. The simple fact is, if you absolutely have to give your baby formula once in a while, it's not going to grow up retarded or anything. Ditto if you have to pump every once in a while. I'm not talking about giving it formula every day or hell, every week. I'm talking about maybe having some on hand if the baby gets hungry in a place that it would be inappropriate to breastfeed, or, alternatively, to walk your ass to the bathroom like many other people do.Similarly, hammster, the relative popularity of pumps leads me to believe that your friend's case is quite rare. At any rate, any healthy mother should, I think, be able to pump when they're going to be taking their baby to some of these places.
6/10/2007 1:19:36 PM
Well when you start breastfeeding and using a pump, you let me know how awesome it feels. I definately don't think women use them because they feel great, I think it is out of necessity. One other point: It is quite common for babies who are breastfed to not take from a bottle, so that may not be an option.[Edited on June 10, 2007 at 1:36 PM. Reason : .]
6/10/2007 1:35:23 PM
It is my opinion that breastfeeding is fine anywhere american express, visa and mastercard are accepted.TheTabbyCat, I believe that your father-in-law is an ignorant asshole. I've never had a problem with it, before or after the birth of my child. My father had a similar reaction as your FIL when my g/f didn't have a blanket to nurse my son, but it was a one time thing. Had he objected to feeding my son in public, I doubt we would see them as much.[Edited on June 10, 2007 at 1:37 PM. Reason : even the most expensive breast pumps aren't slightly comfortable nor convienent.]
6/10/2007 1:35:28 PM
I am desperately searching for the part where I said or implied that breastfeeding felt "awesome" or "feel great" or even "weren't painful." I just said that using them from time to time is not going to cause the average woman's nipple to fall off.
6/10/2007 7:18:12 PM
6/10/2007 7:19:44 PM
i don't care about women breastfeeding in most public places. however, i don't want to see that shit when i'm trying to have a decent meal. if you cover up, i'm fine with that... many women do not. i can't stand crying babies in restaurants, so breastfeeding is better than that, but I believe that it's best to get a babysitter if you're going somewhere nice. something i hate more than crying babies in restaurants: parents that don't show any real discipline or control when their kid is having a hissy-fit.
6/10/2007 9:05:25 PM
I love how all these people who have never had children are telling the person who has had children what they should do. [Edited on June 10, 2007 at 9:33 PM. Reason : ]
6/10/2007 9:32:34 PM
cuz you need to have kids to have an opinion on breastfeeding in public. dont forget that every parent EVER is perfect and knows all there is.
6/10/2007 9:38:32 PM
^I was thinking earlier that nobody should breastfeed in public cause mothers can't really know their baby's preference. My mother told me she breastfed in public with me on occasion, and I feel violated. LOL
6/10/2007 9:49:37 PM
At least we're not in India where every street corner is a potential urinal...I saw way too much tiny indian penis when I was there
6/10/2007 9:52:59 PM
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6/11/2007 2:07:16 AM
^sure there are some places where it might be less appropriate to do, but in a place like a church or a movie theater there are generally other places where they can go . . . even if it is just in a seat out in the hall or entryway. But in a busy eating establishment where they should go? A lot of bathrooms, even at fancy places aren't necessarily the cleanest places. Or would the crowded waiting area be a better place for everyone to be disgusted? Or maybe they should be forced to sit in the 100+ degree heat in the car?and I don't get the impression that this thread was started with the topic being a fancy dinner where the baby most likely wouldn't be anyway. It is more about your run of the mill, everyday restaurant like Applebees.[Edited on June 11, 2007 at 6:42 AM. Reason : ]
6/11/2007 6:38:28 AM
I think the argument here has become where is appropriate instead of is it appropriate. Seems like most people think it's ok if a) it's discreet and b) it's in a tasteful environment. I would agree and I think 99% of breastfeeding moms would agree that you shouldn't feed your baby during a funeral. I mean I wouldn't bring my lunch to a funeral either, so that's fair.My problem is with people who think that a baby shouldn't be able to eat anywhere in public. Those people need to grow up.
6/11/2007 7:15:45 AM
My Step sister had her baby about 9 months ago and she breast fed all the time. They love to go out to eat and sometimes you just can't find a baby sitter where they live. Being aware that many people are not comfortable at a restaurant or other public venues watching someone breast feed (blanket covered or not) they planned out their dates. First, they came to realize they could not go out as much due to the fact they had an infant. They adjusted their lifestyle for this. Mostly it was spur of the moment eating out at nice restaurants. Second if they were going out, and the infant was going to accompany them they picked a low key restaurant where it wouldn't be generally noticed (IE: not Olive Garden or some place typically packed). Third the last thing she would do before leaving was feed the baby. I think they did this because feeding time meant a diaper change in 10 minutes. Kid was like clockwork. So on a typical night out to eat like this there was no need to feed, BUT if there were it would not be noticed. They saved the nice places for nights when they had a baby sitter. Since they don't live too far from my dad and step mom that's easy enough. I think the biggest thing about how they viewed it was that they had a lot of respect for people who might not be okay with it. Myself included. Like many have said there are some places that it is not appropriate.The easiest relationship they made was if it's looked down on you talking on a cell phone there, it probably isn't a good idea to breastfeed. This of course because they are very considerate of those around them. Breastfeeding is a beautiful thing and some people feel the need to shove that in other's faces but it's only going to make you look like a inconsiderate jackass. Noone is going to care about the needs of the baby just that "that lady is breastfeeding". People will stare and it won't be nice. so the best advice anyone can really give you is to accept the fact that you have a child and your lifestyle needs to change unless you don't care about pissing people off and ruining their evenings. To some people it really is a big thing and can ruin their evenings and saying "they should get over it" doesn't change the fact it's inappropriate and many restaurants WILL ask you to leave especially in Cary.
6/11/2007 7:19:51 AM
6/11/2007 9:13:45 AM
6/11/2007 9:17:17 AM
that is fucking weird. i would probably make fun of the kid if i were in elementary school who was still sucking mama's tatas at age 8. kinda like the kid who still wets his pants, cries a lot, etc
6/11/2007 10:26:07 AM
Yes, breastfeeding is natural. Yes it is healthy for the child. But it DOES NOT have to be done at a nice restaurant with tons of people around. I'm not saying the child should go hungry... FEED IT BEFORE YOU GET THERE. I'm also not saying it should never be done in public, but show some discretion, just like everyone else should do.
6/11/2007 10:32:16 AM
When I started this thread, I was referring to a place like Applebees. When we went to dinner with my father-in-law, it was to Chili's.
6/11/2007 10:53:41 AM
i wouldnt want someone breastfeeding in front of me at a restaurant while i tried to eat.
6/11/2007 10:58:58 AM
this thread should be locked at this pointall it is is a bunch of trolls saying " I DONT WANT SOME SAGGY BITCH FLOPPING HER TITTY ON THE TABLE FOR HER PIGLETS TO SUCK ON WHILE I'M EATING MY KOBE BEEF STEAK"knowing full and well that a blanket is all they would see anyway, which makes it a straw man in addition to obvious trolling.]
6/11/2007 11:06:06 AM
no, because at this point the the thread has evolved into a discussion on where breastfeeding is appropriate.I think Raige detailed the most responsible approach to eating out with a child who is still breastfed. That is an extremely responsible solution that even I, the grand dick of the thread so far, would be cool with.
6/11/2007 11:23:59 AM
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6/11/2007 11:39:06 AM
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6/11/2007 11:50:57 AM
It's not the titty/nipple I have a problem with, it's the act itself. If a girl pulled up her skirt in the middle of a restaurant and started masturbating, it's not the pussy I'd be offended by, it's the act itself. If a dude pulled down his shorts and started jerking it in the middle of the restaurant, yeah i'd have a problem having to see this dude's pecker, but I'd be more pissed about the act itself. If someone at the next table pulled out a cellphone and started talking, it's not the cell phone I have a problem with, I'm offended by the act itself. It's a lack of consideration for the people in close proximity to you. The use of a towel doesn't help/hurt the act. I just don't think it's appropriate for most restaurants.
6/11/2007 11:57:36 AM
Maybe it is ok if i put my hand in my pants and jack off during a nice sit down dinner. What is the big deal?? I am just taking care of a physical need and if my hand is in my pants then there is no penis.
6/11/2007 11:57:56 AM
In most social situations, most people are more comfortable when mothers nurse discreetly. Good manners suggest that you should take the feelings of others into account,
6/11/2007 12:03:21 PM
6/11/2007 12:03:29 PM
Yeah, I refer to the exposure because it's the quick way to get the point across, and because I admit to liking the word "titty" as much as anybody.A better way to say it would have been:
6/11/2007 12:06:02 PM
I don't see what the big deal is with taking other people's feelings into consideration. In polite company, you don't cuss, you don't fart, you don't burp, you don't talk bad about people's mamas... I don't see why mothers can't feed their children discreetly, especially since it obviously makes people uncomfortable in certain situations.nobody is saying the child should go hungry. noone is saying the child should be fed unnatural chemicals as a substitute. all we are asking is that women, instead of approching the situation with the "I CAN FEED MY BABY IN PUBLIC AND THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT" attitude, why not just be polite? especially in places where it is generally accepted as "no shirt, no shoes, no service"
6/11/2007 12:09:47 PM
SIDEBOOB FTW
6/11/2007 12:11:09 PM
6/11/2007 12:18:03 PM
If two people were having sex at the table behind me, I wouldn't have to look at it but once to know it was going on. It's not directly the sight of it, it's the lack of respect for the feelings of those around. Some things are not appropriate for a restaurant.
6/11/2007 12:24:51 PM
Here is the real answer that matters, REGARDLESS of what anybody here thinks:If the restaurant/place is OK with it, then everybody STFU.If the restaurant/place is not OK with it, sorry feeding mothers, you will have to find one which has no objection.Really, if the laws/rules (of the country/place) says it is OK, people can bitch and moan all they want, but they can't do anything about it, so they might as well STFU.
6/11/2007 12:29:33 PM
So everyone who is against it here would agree that people should have to answer their cell phones in a bathroom stall too right? Because the last thing I want to hear at a restaurant is your stupid ring tone and the mundane details of your life that you think are sooooooo important that you must talk (for some reason loudly) about.And by the way IF THE RESTAURANT GIVES KIDS CRAYONS TO COLOR WITH, ITS NOT AN EXPENSIVE OR FANCY RESTAURANT. The level of stupidity in this thread has no bounds.
6/11/2007 12:32:14 PM
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6/11/2007 12:34:35 PM
Great so then I assume no one in this thread has ever answered their cell phone at a restaurant.
6/11/2007 12:35:34 PM
6/11/2007 12:36:37 PM
^No it is apples to apples.Neither is illegal. Some people find both rude. If done discreetly, neither should be a problem. [/thread]
6/11/2007 12:39:58 PM
shit you shouldn't do at the table while you are at a restaurant out of respect for others:1. Talk on Cell Phone2. Fart3. Breastfeed4. Pick your nose5. Throw food6. Chew with your mouth open7. ...
6/11/2007 12:40:25 PM