^^ i don't think rape of men is perceived as badly as women, but I haven't done a poll or anything. But regardless, ideas about sexual purity apply to men too.
5/23/2016 7:02:07 PM
There are a lot of reasons we value it and place importance on it from a niological/evolutionary standpoint. As with many things, technology has fundamentally changed how we view it. Birth control and the ability to control the reproductive aspect of sex has altered a lot of things about it while our biology remains unchanged. It's not dissimilar from how thousands of years of food scarcity have resulted in a lot of obese people now. Our biology has not caught up with the realities of society now. Human males have an evolutionary drive to propagate their genetic material. Human females, because of the long gestation period and long maturation period have a strong imperative to be selective in choosing mates and/or for favoring a collective style of parenting. Just look at how many early societies favored clan parenting, brothers marrying widows and raising kids, etc. Now, sex can be a recreational activity but we're still influenced by out biology and by long standing societal norms.
5/23/2016 7:07:07 PM
5/23/2016 7:09:04 PM
us and dolphins are not the only species who have sex recreationally, we are certainly also not the only species who chose their partner or requires consent [Edited on May 23, 2016 at 7:24 PM. Reason : .]
5/23/2016 7:23:29 PM
Yup. Several other species of primate do it. Also, quite a bit of research indicating that orgasms exist in other species and sex happens outside of reproductive periods for reasons such as pair bonding and establishing hierarchies in social groups.
5/23/2016 7:31:04 PM
Damn it. That's not the only problem with my post, but I thought I could still sneak it through. Go ahead and put me down for the genetic material thing but take out the inheritance part. Like, whatever Kurtis said.If GrumpyGOP comes back about how that's still not satisfactory, then we can all and pretend he never made this thread.Do y'all remember the time GOP said he wanted to rape Jennifer Love Hewitt? Cause he did, guys, and it was hilarious.
5/23/2016 7:57:41 PM
I'm just waiting for froshkiller to come and piss all over page 3 since he doesn't think that this merits any kind of discussion.
5/23/2016 8:13:42 PM
I want to consensually bang Jennifer Love Hewitt like a coked-up caveman.
5/23/2016 8:43:59 PM
That's like the third time I've seen you bring up Jennifer Love Hewitt to me, so I'm assuming I must have mentioned her at some point. I hope I didn't actually say anything about raping anybody but if I did, I apologize. Otherwise, what ^ saidEdit: Upon review, I did not say I wanted to rape anybody. Which makes me feel better about myself. But it does deepen the mystery of why you have clung to that particular quote for two years.[Edited on May 23, 2016 at 9:35 PM. Reason : ]
5/23/2016 9:31:00 PM
5/23/2016 9:43:11 PM
General thought: I suspect people tend to overlook that rape and the threat of rape (and its consequences) were used to control women (and society) for a really long time.So, while they may seem impractical or hypersensitive, the crazy people are for real: women should be able to walk naked through a prison full of violent male criminals, and nobody gets to bat an eye about her decision. And, if some crime is perpetrated against her, they're not gonna be "dispassionate" about demanding justice. And, if you do pause to question why a naked lady was strutting around a men's prison, they'll probably jump down your throat--and be ideologically justified in doing so.Any other outcome is problematic to them, and I don't think they wanna have a chat with y'all, especially a chat that starts with one party nearly likening rape to getting punched in the nose.^^LOL, cause it was hilarious, and you always respond to it. Also, I changed my answer to Kurtis' answer, by the way. We solved the puzzle.
5/23/2016 9:55:33 PM
Thanks man. Great contribution from like ten years ago. Really advancing the conversation there.If I ever said any such thing I regret it, in jest or not, even if they are a couple of fucking Nazis.EDIT: Eleven years ago, did not actually say anything about rape, did say things I regret and find appalling even though they clearly were in jest.
5/23/2016 10:18:26 PM
I'm not even sure it's a useful or valid argument. I mean you're always going to have some segment of people that will commit crimes, be violent, etc. Even if you managed to educate people to behave with perfect morality you still have to deal with crazy people, head injuries, etc.Disregarding self preservation and situational awareness is not a good or desirable goal. I'm always amazed that people who suggest women learn self defense because generally they are more physically vulnerable are accused of being rape apologists. Telling tourists not to travel alone in the favelas of Sao Paolo doesn't make you a kidnapping apologist. It's not a perfect comparison by any means, but I think the point is pretty clear.
5/23/2016 10:56:05 PM
LOL, guys, of course, it's not a useful argument. It's not even an argument. But, ideologically, they do expect you to agree with the premise. And any extra breath or paragraphs y'all dedicate to questioning it can be taken as a sign that you do want some form of control over people, and if you only get on about it in the rape threads, it's probably women. I mean, we already control men pretty good with prison.^^You're not following. Their outrage isn't just for a single victim. They're probably outraged that they're still having to explain this stuff, especially to people who so clearly disagree with them from the outset.Like, I just mentioned rape and the threat of rape as a form of control over the lives of women, but you're still talking about someone counting their money in the hood at 3 AM. The threat of robbery has never been used to control 50 percent of the population.Do you see how they're different and how annoyed I might be that I had to explain that to you when you're obviously intelligent?
5/23/2016 11:11:35 PM
Yes, i see the difference, but if you reject that starting premise it doesn't mean you're pro-rape, it simply means you reject the premise.Rape and robbery are clearly very different and not comparable things, but you can't have a useful discussion that starts from a flawed premise.This is important when it comes to the question of how do we correctly handle rape trials and accusations. Rape is one of the only things I can think of where a lot of people will say that there can never be any mitigating circumstances, state of mind doesn't matter (which is interesting since mens rea is a hugely important part of our laws), etc.I mean I get your point that the threat of sexual violence casts a shadow over women to this day, and as a gender you have every reason to be sensitive about it and get pissed when people suggest that there's some culpability on the victim, but we've got to be able to avoid the kind of absolutist thinking that the "crazies" as you put it actually do have. What's more, in order to make sure we are being just you don't overpunish or try to have the judicial equivalent of make up calls because women got screwed over badly by the system before. You see how this overcorrection can be a problem when you start looking at the title ix adjudications going on at universities and how unjust they are.
5/23/2016 11:54:17 PM
Well said, Kurtis.
5/24/2016 12:22:04 AM
Wow I just found out the marijuana cured the prussian blue girls of nazism
5/24/2016 12:49:33 AM
So y'all are just worried about some "overcorrection" that's not even happening?And you can sue the university if they kick you out when you already have a significant amount of money invested in your degree. Shortly, university's will have to change their approach to all criminal matters.
5/24/2016 2:00:49 AM
no one here has said that anyone shouldn't be free from being raped
5/24/2016 10:02:37 AM
Perhaps I misinterpreted GrumpyGOP and Kurtis636.One of them agreed, but said it was an abstract and pointless idea. And the other said he rejected the premise, and he did not think it was a valid or useful suggestion because we're always going to have violent people who rape, including those men who get head injuries and can't stop themselves from raping.I generally agree with them, but it's very telling that y'all just can't agree to the idea: people should be free from rape and the threat of rape.
5/24/2016 10:12:44 AM
you misunderstood them, neither disagreed with that premise that people shouldn't be raped and neither disagreed with the premise that people should be free from rape or threat of rapei think you are basing your responses on what you expect them to say and not reading their postsand all of this is still different than a discussion about what makes rape so bad, so in that regard it's a pointless discussion[Edited on May 24, 2016 at 10:28 AM. Reason : .]
5/24/2016 10:25:20 AM
Ok, I'll say it directly: women (and everyone) SHOULD be free from rape and the threat of being raped. I agree with this premise.However, they are not free from it, and it is hard to imagine that they ever will be free of it. So saying it does not mean, end of discussion.
5/24/2016 2:15:56 PM
And to clarify the "abstract and pointless" matter, let me say I think that the claim, "People should be free from _____" is true of most crimes and a lot of human-inflicted bad things aside from rape. To me it is automatically the corollary of saying that something is "evil" or "immoral" -- it is a thing that people should not do, and therefore people should not have to be afraid of it. Then the question becomes, so what? Tell me how we use this information to help anybody.Of course we can and should provide more comprehensive education to children (and everybody else) about sex in general and consent in particular. I'm with you on that. But let's assume that this education is not going to be 100% successful any more than 4,000 years of Judeo-Christian teaching on theft and murder have been. That means that rapes will still happen and will have to be dealt with, and if we're going to deal with them properly I think we had better have a better understanding of what the hell we're talking about.
5/24/2016 2:49:53 PM
5/24/2016 5:09:19 PM
5/24/2016 8:37:50 PM
Addressing your prompt about why rape is so bad does nothing to further any discussion on your actual concerns. Plus, a bunch of people gave you lots of good answers, and you just kept saying they weren't satisfactory…like we were all going to eventually say, "Huh, I guess rape isn't so bad."
5/24/2016 11:28:26 PM
5/25/2016 1:20:26 AM
Was GrumpyGOP raped at some point in his life? If not I give zero fucks about why he wonders why rape is so bad.Or any of you people who think you can intellectualize the badness of rape away.[Edited on May 25, 2016 at 1:37 AM. Reason : and your feeble attempts to equate it to other crimes is disgusting as fuck. Just stop.]
5/25/2016 1:29:57 AM
As this is a discussion forum,there's nothing wrong with a pedantic discussion on seemingly settled topics. Just remember this is public and indexed and 10 years from now you might be running for political office...
5/25/2016 1:43:19 AM
I don't think anyone ITT is at risk for that.
5/25/2016 1:51:36 AM
This whole thread is just a bunch of fart noises.
5/25/2016 6:07:08 AM
I'm not sure why BridgetSPK is responding to users here as if they are responsible for the state of society at large
5/25/2016 6:57:34 AM
5/25/2016 10:18:08 AM
i think it has to do with power, and losing dominion over one's body, but I think the public shaming aspect is a big part of it and why so many victims stay quiet
5/25/2016 10:29:14 AM
Oh yeah, the stigma issue is hugely problematic -- and though I think it is also one that could be better dealt with by improving our understanding of what rape is and why, I'm giving up on that.
5/25/2016 10:35:19 AM
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2016/05/25/white-high-school-football-players-in-idaho-charged-with-raping-black-disabled-teammate-with-a-coat-hanger/?tid=sm_fblettuce reasonably discuss this heinous rape plz
5/25/2016 11:53:04 AM
5/25/2016 12:27:20 PM
I don't understand the core question here. "Why is rape so bad?" There's no worthwhile discussion to have there. Rape is bad like murder is bad. No one wants to be raped, murdered, beaten, tortured, or otherwise physically or mentally harmed.
5/25/2016 2:47:22 PM
but "why is murder bad" is a discussion that is able to be had even though everyone agrees it's bad, why is this conceptually different?(Actually I think in PHI 220 that was an actual prompt)[Edited on May 25, 2016 at 3:22 PM. Reason : .]
5/25/2016 3:07:44 PM
I guess I don't understand the claim that we can't discuss rape. What are we doing right now? In what way is discussion prevented or blocked?
5/25/2016 4:01:58 PM
?that was what you claimed in the post I was responding to:
5/25/2016 5:43:32 PM
I think we're talking past each other. I'm not saying there can't be a discussion, I'm saying there haven't been any interesting questions worth discussing (to me) in this thread.
5/25/2016 8:03:38 PM
Hey guys, remember this fucktarded thread from last week? It's still deeply dumb. Are you done with that or...?
6/1/2016 7:57:21 AM
"I hate this thread so much I'm going to continue to bump it Whenever I'm bored!!!!"
6/1/2016 8:20:55 AM
Basically. Problem?
6/1/2016 8:31:33 AM
I think what I'm feeling toward you is pity, but I'm not sure.
6/1/2016 8:38:40 AM
Is it true that No sometimes means Yes?
6/1/2016 4:46:48 PM
http://www.latimes.com/local/lanow/la-me-ln-stanford-rape-20160606-snap-htmlstory.html?utm_source=change_org&utm_medium=petitionreasonable discussion, plz
6/7/2016 12:18:08 AM
https://www.buzzfeed.com/katiejmbaker/heres-the-powerful-letter-the-stanford-victim-read-to-her-ra/thread
6/7/2016 1:38:15 AM
next
6/8/2016 4:04:35 AM