Personally, if it was me... I'd get married 20 days before, post all sorts of sappy stuff on my FB profile, then go trolling for an affair at a bar downtown.

7/4/2011 7:48:18 PM

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"i recently found out my ex has been fucking someone else for almost a month. after some internet stalking, i found out that she is about 5 years younger than me, roughly 3 sizes bigger than me, has much larger breasts than me, and appears to be dumb as a box of rocks on a good day. (i will admit that looks can be deceiving, but at first glance - i think i'm being fairly accurate in my assessment.) i've spent the entire weekend going between pure elation (bc she is bigger than me and appears dumb) and horrible depression (bc my ex has moved on, and i can't even manage to schedule a booty call without crying for an hour, let alone an actual date where feelings are involved)."

good lord

i love this thread

7/4/2011 9:15:23 PM

it certainly does provide entertainment!

7/4/2011 9:25:29 PM

I'll sign up for the random booty call list.. But only if you are hot

7/4/2011 9:39:56 PM

lol, this plan is sure to work!

7/4/2011 9:42:56 PM

Chances of hotness are very slim so probably not haha

7/4/2011 9:44:35 PM

and her breasts are seemingly not large, but she's at least smart

7/4/2011 9:46:52 PM

I'm not one of those guys who require large breasts I actually prefer smaller ones to huge ones I mean to a point haha

7/4/2011 9:49:18 PM

*sigh*


FTR, the cold feet was NOT my confession. Hopefully I only get one PM offering advice.

7/4/2011 10:53:51 PM

haha so now people are blindly guessing who sent the confessions and sending unsolicited advice via PM?!

[Edited on July 4, 2011 at 10:56 PM. Reason : .]

7/4/2011 10:56:12 PM

hahaha, thats funny, only a handful of twwers engaged right now

7/4/2011 11:05:56 PM

that are known about o.O

[Edited on July 4, 2011 at 11:16 PM. Reason : I can spell i swear]

7/4/2011 11:12:56 PM

^

7/4/2011 11:13:20 PM

Yeah, it was pretty ridiculous..

7/4/2011 11:13:28 PM

wolfpackgrrr is engaged right? I dunno I don't keep up with these things

7/4/2011 11:14:52 PM

she's married

7/4/2011 11:15:40 PM

Quote :

"THAT ARE KNOW"

7/4/2011 11:16:32 PM

lmao

i just read the chubby chaser confession

i hope there really are guys out there like that

but im fairly certain that was a joke

oh well, baaahahahaha it was funny

7/5/2011 12:18:01 AM

Lol Sam

7/5/2011 12:41:00 AM

Late night 4th confessions should come to me!

7/5/2011 1:36:58 AM

i'll take some confessions up in this joint

7/5/2011 11:17:22 AM

Quote :

"My boyfriend's mom was in town this weekend and while my bf was out running an errand, the conversation turned toward marriage, family etc. We have been dating for a couple of years & his mom loves me and sometimes bothers him about when he is going to propose. During the course of the conversation, she asked me if I ever considered going off birth control and just "letting whatever happen happen"........ I told her that no, I have not considered that and he can just man up and do things right and that i wasn't going to pull a "trap a dude" wtf!! talk about awk-ward "

7/5/2011 11:20:59 AM

That would make me so fucking mad I can't even imagine.

7/5/2011 11:22:46 AM

That would make me so fucking mad I can't even imagine.

7/5/2011 11:23:25 AM

I'm gonna guess that that one was bmel.

7/5/2011 11:25:09 AM

7/5/2011 11:26:54 AM

That would make me so fucking mad I can't even imagine.

7/5/2011 11:34:32 AM

haha it wouldn't surprise me if my mom had said that to me when i was with my ex

7/5/2011 11:35:28 AM

yea my boyfriend's mom has said similar things to me before (not THAT bad, though). like "if you break up with him then maybe he'll miss you and propose"

what

end goal: happy, healthy relationship
end goal is NOT: a ring by any means

7/5/2011 11:36:44 AM

bmel and ThePeter haven't been dating a couple of years, and I'm fairly certain Peter's mom isn't a psycho

[Edited on July 5, 2011 at 11:43 AM. Reason : I believe it has only been about a year and a half for them]

7/5/2011 11:42:32 AM

I'm not certain that my mom isn't a psycho, but I don't think it was bmel regardless

[Edited on July 5, 2011 at 11:44 AM. Reason : Plus she hasn't been in town recently]

[Edited on July 5, 2011 at 11:44 AM. Reason : or ever really]

7/5/2011 11:43:56 AM

If people are commited to one another and in a long (and what will be ongoing) relationship why wouldnt you get married? Maybe I'm being way too "mechanical" about it but the benefits alone make it with it.

Is it sone kind of stand against the mainstream when people don't want to get married but want to spend their life with someone?

7/5/2011 11:44:17 AM

PSHHHHHHHH
thats baby stuff....

i got the "go ahead have kids talk" from my mom for like 5 years
and codys mom since a year after we dated.



srsly.
it's gotten to the point its not awkward at all anymore.



one time in particular i told her cody and i were not ready-
she told me, in front of cody, that i didn't need him to have kids.
we actually thought that was pretty funny.

[Edited on July 5, 2011 at 11:48 AM. Reason : oh my b, theye talking aboutp proposing and not grandmbaby stuff ooops ]

7/5/2011 11:46:11 AM

my granny asked when me and Eric were having children (over 2 years ago) and when I said not for a very long time, she yelled at me, "WELL I MIGHT BE DEAD BY THEN"

7/5/2011 11:51:08 AM

hahahahahahha


i audibly laughed over here.




gah i love grandbaby hungry relatives.

7/5/2011 11:52:18 AM

my parents have 5 grandchildren (they were made grandparents at the ripe old age of 47) so there is absolutely none of that talk for me

7/5/2011 11:54:27 AM

Hah, my MIL is the opposite. She points out every child and says "SEE, once you have them, you can't give them baaack." Who cares that we've been together over 6 six years, and married over 2. Granted, we're not ready for kids financially yet--but it's none of her damn business when we decide to.

7/5/2011 11:56:03 AM

Quote :

"If people are commited to one another and in a long (and what will be ongoing) relationship why wouldnt you get married? Maybe I'm being way too "mechanical" about it but the benefits alone make it with it. Is it sone kind of stand against the mainstream when people don't want to get married but want to spend their life with someone?"

uhhhhh

i think it is more about not pressuring someone into marriage or trapping them into it?! i thought that was kinda clear from the confession and my follow up comment

didn't you date someone for like 5 or 7 or 6 years? why didn't you get married after a couple?!

7/5/2011 12:05:25 PM

If you wait until you are 100% ready, you will never have kids. There is always an uncertainty.

7/5/2011 12:06:07 PM

and if you trick your SO into marriage by going off birth control and not telling the other person

you will 100% always be a nut job

there is NO uncertainty with that one

7/5/2011 12:08:41 PM

i've heard that "whether you decide to have kids, or decide not to, you'll regret it"

so my girlfriend and i are planning to go the No Kids route

my parents don't care, and her sister has a kid and wants more, so her parents are covered

plus kids ruin family plans and gatherings anyway

all family gatherings are like the OMFG A GIRL pic, except it's OMFG A BABY and the sharks are grandparents

7/5/2011 12:09:48 PM

^^^ So true. That's why we'll probably start trying to have kids this spring, barring something catastrophic happens.

[Edited on July 5, 2011 at 12:10 PM. Reason : s]

7/5/2011 12:09:57 PM

^^ & ^^^ I was responding to the "We want to have kids, but we have a laundry list of things to do before we do" attitude.

But I do agree that entrapment is not the way to go. It should either be 100% blessing (accident is a horrible word for a kid) or 100% planned.

One party should not dupe another into parenthood. That is a breeding ground for resentment.

[Edited on July 5, 2011 at 12:14 PM. Reason : carat]

7/5/2011 12:14:22 PM

Quote :

"didn't you date someone for like 5 or 7 or 6 years? why didn't you get married after a couple?!"

Simply put, because I had doubts. I'm not saying that to anyone specifically but I know a few couples who are adamantly against marriage. I find it silly..

7/5/2011 12:50:13 PM

I don't think that parents should be involved in marriage and baby talk after a certain point in their kid's life. Both parents and kids need to just let go of each other and cut the ambilical cord after a certain point, but that rarely ever happens in this country. Even at my work, people that are 27+ and living on their own still have to run things by their parents when it comes to their personal life decisions.

If you are teen, for example, parents should be strongly involved. But after kids reach a certain maturity level then I think that the parents don't really belong in the decision making picture.

7/5/2011 1:01:59 PM

AGREED

my mom still thinks she needs to know where I'm going and what I plan on doing. I keep wanting to yell "I TURN 30 THIS YEAR...GET OFF ME"...but I don't because she'd still smack the shit outta me.

7/5/2011 1:03:25 PM

Quote :

"I'm not saying that to anyone specifically but I know a few couples who are adamantly against marriage. I find it silly.."

heh, I have a funny story about that. When I left my last job, I was in charge of emailing with the guy replacing me to get him up to speed on the job and answer any questions he had about moving to Japan. At one point he tells me, "My girlfriend of many years also wants to move to Japan, but she doesn't speak Japanese and doesn't want to teach English. How can she get a visa to come over?"

I reply, "Well, you either get married and she can apply for a spousal visa or she can teach English."

"Oh well we don't believe in marriage because we just don't see how it would benefit us at all."

"Well... if you got married she could get a spousal visa, and that would be a benefit?"

"Yes but we are against marriage as an institution and don't believe it would benefit us."

7/5/2011 1:06:50 PM

WELL THEN THE BITCH ISN'T MOVING TO JAPAN

7/5/2011 1:54:47 PM

open for confessions!

7/5/2011 6:51:16 PM

^^ lol yeah in the end that's basically what I said to him.

7/5/2011 6:55:29 PM