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11/8/2012 10:06:38 PM

I am marrying the man I met off okcupid on Saturday

11/8/2012 10:12:38 PM

OMG YOU'RE GETTING MAHWWWWEEED??????

11/8/2012 10:14:25 PM

I seem to talk to much more interesting people on pof than okc. Idk why. Don't think anyone I've met is someone I'm going to seriously date though. Been talking to some incredibly cute18 year old girl. Buttt she's 18 so that's probably not going anywhere

11/8/2012 10:19:39 PM

shit's lame

11/9/2012 1:09:29 AM

^^ This happened to me as well, and it seems to be a common experience on POF. Here are the possibilities I think might be behind this:

1. POF just passes out adverts at high school graduation (least likely)
2. The girls are lying, are really <18, and they're trying to play around
3. The profile is run by vigilantes who think that you think they're <18 and want to get you arrested

Keep in mind, it won't let you make a profile if you say you're less than 18. Even the most benign reason I can think of doesn't sound particularly normal. It's surely a trap, I just don't know what kind.

11/11/2012 3:53:04 PM

If I find a girl on there that likes SBTRKT, I'm going to marry her. That's my plan.

11/12/2012 12:35:27 AM

What if she's a cunt?

Im Krallum and i approved this message

11/12/2012 9:20:55 AM

I am engaged to a girl I met on match so ya never know who you may end up meeting!

11/12/2012 9:25:31 AM

http://gawker.com/5960277/okcupid-user-pretends-to-be-hot-girl-with-extremely-unappealing-personality-to-test-limits-of-male-desperation

11/15/2012 5:05:25 PM

why would you write an article on a blog entry of a troll

11/15/2012 7:25:15 PM

it drives me nuts occasionally

11/15/2012 7:37:37 PM

Haven't looked at my profile in the last month or so until today, but holy jesus I've had a lot of really unattractive visitors over the holiday season. Yeah, I'm gonna have to delete this thing.

[Edited on January 9, 2013 at 7:35 PM. Reason : ssdf]

1/9/2013 7:29:46 PM

Ahahahahahahahaha @ that link

Quote :

"4. Yolo"

1/9/2013 7:41:32 PM

http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2013/01/04/the_atlantic_says_online_dating_is_killing_marriage_magazine_calls_internet.html

1/10/2013 10:40:54 AM

^ doesn't really surprise me.

One thing that I've heard about sites like OKCupid and PoF is that you get what you pay for, which is in general, shit, and that places like Match.com, while costly, are generally better (or at least, not as sketch).
Tell me, TWW, is this true? Or is it just a lie and you'll find "better quality men" if your idea of better quality is rich and willing to pay more for the opportunity to date?

1/10/2013 10:55:18 AM

i think on any of the sites you're going to have to sift through the dregs of humanity in order to find someone decent.

1/10/2013 10:58:35 AM

I've met more people through okc, but I met a higher % of the people I chatted with on match. People join okc on a whim or when they are bored where as people on match seem more serious about dating.

1/10/2013 11:25:15 AM

which one has chicks just wanting to fool around?

1/10/2013 11:40:05 AM

okc

1/10/2013 11:45:11 AM

Quote :

"One thing that I've heard about sites like OKCupid and PoF is that you get what you pay for, which is in general, shit, and that places like Match.com, while costly, are generally better (or at least, not as sketch)."

Do you use Google? How about Wikipedia? How much do you pay those services?

If you use a paid dating service, you're going to find other people that spend money on dating sites. Could be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on who you are and what your values are. OKC is like Craigslist in a lot of ways. You're going to have browse through a lot of utter garbage to find anything redeemable, but every now and then, someone finds a diamond in the rough.

1/10/2013 12:35:35 PM

Agreed. I probably put in a solid 10 hrs a week sorting through said "utter garbage"

1/10/2013 12:39:05 PM

It shouldn't be that time consuming. Sort by match, has signed on in the past week. Maybe sort by "Newest" every now and then. Does she look hot? Click. Interesting profile? Message her - short and simple, commenting on some aspect of their profile, possibly asking a question on the same topic. Don't send 3 paragraphs, ain't nobody got time for that and it comes across as tryhard. Don't spend two weeks imagining your life together and crafting the perfect first message. You should probably be able to identify any possible compatible matches within minutes. People aren't signing up fast enough to warrant hours of browsing.

Of course, this all hinges on you having good pictures and a good profile. If you don't have that, it doesn't matter how good of a match you think you are.

1/10/2013 1:02:07 PM

i think i posted this in this thread when it happened a couple years ago. but i messaged a girl on match and sent a couple back and forth. and then i started seeing my now ex. we moved in together into a new place and i was getting the mail one day and the girl from match walked up to the mail box next to me. i recognized her instantly, but only made a cordial hello. but i could tell she knew, and she probably knew that i knew. now each time i've seen her since it's been awkwardly funny. i should tell her i'm single now.

1/10/2013 1:21:49 PM

Personally, I prefer christianmingle.com

1/10/2013 1:23:19 PM

Yeah, I do admit the match algorithm for okc is very good and sorting by activity date helps, but it still takes time to read all those profiles, questions, write messages, respond to messages, etc.

[Edited on January 10, 2013 at 1:24 PM. Reason : ^^^]

1/10/2013 1:23:27 PM

1/10/2013 1:38:07 PM

OKC is great. I met one person from there. Got tons of emails from odd folks, but didn't want to waste time on people who didn't really pique my interest.

Saw my guy and immediately thought he was hot, smart and awesome... one of the most sexy folks I've ever seen terms of overall looks, brains and personality. Added him to my favorites list. He was my only favorite. A week later, once I figured out how the site worked, I rated him 4 stars out of 5. He got the memo that I gave his profile a high rating and he immediately messaged me. We went out that night and have been dating for 5 months now.



So yeah, don't waste your time with the ones that don't really excite you. And there will be a lot of duds. But you only need to find that one cool person who fits. Be selective.

[Edited on January 10, 2013 at 1:46 PM. Reason : .]

1/10/2013 1:44:55 PM

well of course it worked for your hot ass

1/10/2013 2:04:47 PM

You don't have to be hot, just a girl. The odds are in our favor.

1/10/2013 2:13:19 PM

^Not necessarily just because she's attractive. Back in 2009 I signed up for OKC and met five different girls from it throughout the year. None of them turned out to be crazy or weird or anything. I ended up seriously dating one of them for a few months. With the others we only went out on a few dates but we just didn't really click (they were still cool girls though and I still talk to them on FB every now and then to say hi). And I live in a town full of nothing but engineers and their families so the girl:guy ratio is about the same as it was when I was a student at NCSU.

[Edited on January 10, 2013 at 2:14 PM. Reason : ]

1/10/2013 2:14:10 PM

^ Exactly! I went on many, many match dates... several where the guy was nice and good-looking, but there wasn't that spark.

If you want to just go on a ton of dates, then that's easy.

But if you don't want to expend a lot of time and money... that you might rather spend with your friends and family... then it's good to be particular. Weed out the folks with red flags.

[Edited on January 10, 2013 at 2:27 PM. Reason : ,]

1/10/2013 2:25:41 PM

Quote :

"One thing that I've heard about sites like OKCupid and PoF is that you get what you pay for, which is in general, shit, and that places like Match.com, while costly, are generally better (or at least, not as sketch). Tell me, TWW, is this true? Or is it just a lie and you'll find "better quality men" if your idea of better quality is rich and willing to pay more for the opportunity to date? "

OKC and PoF are for window shopping. You can look without ever making a purchase and there's never anything to lose. With pay sites, you've already put a financial investment into it so you might as well try some things on.

1/10/2013 2:33:02 PM

I paid for a match membership for three months and had a difficult time getting people to meet me in person. I chatted with several people, but no one had the guts to commit to meet. It didn't help that people from several hours away would message me, even though my profile stated that I wanted to stay local.

I've had a lot more attention on POF. I still have a profile on there, but I got bored with it.

1/10/2013 2:35:45 PM

1/11/2013 9:25:04 AM

Inside OKCupid: The math of online dating

2/14/2013 1:43:22 PM

^^ haha. As horrifying as that is (and Florida?) that is amusing

I've gotten a lot of message backs, a few dates, and one decent one off OkC. Did 6 months with Match and got nothing. I've heard its supposed to be more serious but okc seems to be somewhere between Match and PoF in the srs department. I used PoF a long time ago and really did not like it.

2/14/2013 1:57:38 PM

okc i was bombarded with creeps

match is a lot of messaging back and forth and eventually a date and then there isn't a spark so start over and repeat

i'm too afraid to try pof

2/14/2013 2:02:27 PM

I'm surprised that you guys haven't tried eHarmony. I loved it! I really liked the website itself, it was a lot more easier to use then the others and the matches were great, combined that with the questions back and forth, the must haves/can't stands, open questions, etc was nice before getting to the point of messaging.



[Edited on February 14, 2013 at 2:07 PM. Reason : ]

2/14/2013 2:04:33 PM

i heard they were anti-gay so i didn't want to give them my money

2/14/2013 2:22:37 PM

eharmony is for old people

2/14/2013 2:24:16 PM

oh are they?

I definitely got the feeling that the website was anti-atheist. I had to put "not very religious" instead of atheist and to only match me with other "not very religious" men.

It's a great concept though, the getting to know the person before the messaging and meet-up. Jon and I had great chemistry through the questions and it really clicked when we got to meet up the first time

2/14/2013 2:33:20 PM

^that too. it was created by super christian people. basically they wanted it to be christianmingle.com

2/14/2013 2:38:31 PM

POF has been outright creepy lately. When are we going to get a TWW dating site?

2/14/2013 2:49:59 PM

2/14/2013 2:50:38 PM

the last thing you should want is to date people from TWW

2/14/2013 2:52:48 PM

maybe she wants to make her own mistakes

2/14/2013 2:53:31 PM

Or a meaningful one night relationship

2/14/2013 3:03:19 PM

^this

2/14/2013 3:05:36 PM

Plenty of Mean-ing

2/14/2013 3:13:56 PM