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i vote for best friend as best man

4/29/2010 5:44:54 PM

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"And let's be honest, is it really that big of a deal? It's her day after all. "

No, it's not just HER day. The wedding is about both the bride and the groom. And if a girl keeps saying "IT'S MY DAY!!!!" then she's a stupid whore. She can't get married without the groom so obviously it's about him, too.

4/30/2010 9:23:46 AM

it's all fucking stupid

a wedding is an excuse to have a party and be with people you love

any time the ceremony takes more than ten minutes i get pissed

i pretty much hate all ceremonies, though

4/30/2010 9:51:58 AM

you're thinking of the reception that's the party part.

And god forbid that some wedding ceremonies actually be religious. Can't have that.

4/30/2010 10:29:26 AM

the only thing you can do wrong with planning your own wedding is do something that isn't exactly what you want because of what others think

4/30/2010 11:17:11 AM

BEST
FRIEND MAN
CHICKEN

4/30/2010 12:08:10 PM

^^quality post


that being said
im pretty sure cody will be having a "best woman"
and i'll be having a "man of honor"

(his sister and my brother)

4/30/2010 5:47:05 PM

I, too, will be having a best woman (someday).

4/30/2010 5:53:09 PM

Never seen nor heard of father as the best man. In my experience it's usually either a brother or a friend as the best man.

4/30/2010 7:35:02 PM

My dad was my best man but:

1. I like my dad.
2. He's been married 5 times, so the irony was too great not to do it.


Part of his reception speech:

"At Kiwanis this past Friday, I announced that I was going to be in yet another wedding this weekend, but this was a first for me.....as the best man" Got a laugh out of my mom's side of the family (who was his 2nd wife.)

5/1/2010 11:13:03 PM

Go with the person who has been the most supportive of you and your bride, who has been there for you whenever you've needed him, and who you can see being a godfather of any future children you may have.

Then give the other person another significant part in the wedding, like reading a passage, escorting the mothers etc. If you don't choose your father he can still do a father of the groom toast at either the reception or the rehearsal dinner, he still has a prominent role to fulfill, and I would just tell him that. If he takes it the wrong way then that's just his problem.

[Edited on May 2, 2010 at 8:58 AM. Reason : ]

5/2/2010 8:54:15 AM

It's your wedding. Do what you want.

5/2/2010 6:53:34 PM

My Dad is probably going to be the Minister who marries me.

I've always seen Best Friends and Brothers (if you have one brother). I have one younger brother (only a year younger) and I'm hard-pressed to decide if he or my best friend (whoever that might be, I'm not really sure who I'd say) should be the man.

5/2/2010 8:23:42 PM

i have two brothers, so i guess when my time comes, it will be the best friend. though i could really see choosing a brother because i'm pretty close to my brothers.

5/3/2010 2:29:53 AM

I've never heard of the dad being a groomsmen before, much less the best man. Maybe I don't go to enough weddings.

Personally I don't think people use enough common sense, if any, when choosing their wedding party. This is particularly true when it comes to the best man/maid of honor. Having read way to many forum posts on the topic on wedding websites than I like to admit (what can I say, I like reading drama I'm in no way involved with ) this is something people should consider more seriously.

The best man/maid of honor have shit they need to do. Whether that be planning the big party before the wedding, helping setup the venue, making sure the bride or groom doesn't flip out and run to Mexico the morning of, etc. It's a lot of responsibility. So you should look at who you are considering and decide who can best fill those shoes? I'd almost say look at like you're choosing a job applicant rather than your best mate but that makes it too impersonal.

All I know is that while my first instinct was to make my sister the maid of honor, after thinking hard on the subject I realized she barely has her own shit together, much less could handle some of mine. So if your dad, brother, or friend has trouble keeping their shit together, it's safe to cross them off the list.

[Edited on May 3, 2010 at 3:18 AM. Reason : ,]

5/3/2010 3:00:52 AM