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12/7/2007 11:29:18 PM

sex doesn't stop when you get married, it stops when you have a baby

12/8/2007 4:02:36 AM

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""If I'm frisky and she's not she'll let me just climb on top and do my bidniss,""

fuck that

maybe it's just me, but she'd be in for a long adventure if she just laid there and didn't do shit

hell, she might not get an adventure at all...

maybe I've just been spoiled by every chick I've poked though

if it's like that, then I'm not gonna worry about it for the most part

12/8/2007 7:57:13 AM

As a guy getting ready to celebrate 5 years in February and a couple kids later, I think I can speak a little on this.

When we first got married and before it, we had sex a lot, once we got to it. We were both first-timers, so it was definitely something we were learning about and enjoying. So for the first year it happened a lot. She was pregnant in the first year and she got even friskier. My wife gets more energy and more of a sex drive when she's preggers. We did it until like 2 days before our son was born, who was a couple weeks premature. After that it started slacking off as she was busy with the baby, and sometimes she did the

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"If I'm frisky and she's not she'll let me just climb on top and do my bidniss, which she does b/c she wants me to be happy"

Its okay for getting your rocks off, and she pretended to enjoy it, but I come to find out the frequency wasn't such a big deal if it wasn't great. We both kinda grew up and realized that good sex a couple times a week was a healthy level for us. Fast forward 5 years and another kid, and its about the same. We still discover new things the other likes and occasionally try newer things in the bed. I will say thats one advantage to marrying as virgins, even if you don't wait till your wedding night. You don't have to worry about your partner comparing you to others, and the whole discovery thing is much more exciting when neither of you have tried it before.

So I would say in 5 years, we had a lot of sex in the first year that was okay, but its actually gotten better in years 2-5, and I'm sure at this point that if I did the jellybean jar, it would have been emptied a couple years ago.

[Edited on December 8, 2007 at 8:21 AM. Reason : ]

12/8/2007 8:20:49 AM

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"We were both first-timers, so it was definitely something we were learning about and enjoying."

Damn that's sweet. I am jealous.

12/8/2007 4:27:03 PM

^^ I admire you waiting. It is nice when its both your first times.


Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a about 2 years and 8 months. In the begining we also had sex ALOT, generally at least once a day, and sometimes twice (depending on the day). But... I was still in school as was he for the first few months. When I started working full time, and gradually taking on more responsbility, it's slacked off a bit. Generally now it's 3 -4 times a week... which I think is pretty dang good (he'd love it everyday). A lot of this has to do with both of us working full time, and being stressed out tired etc.

I can honestly say that if we get married (which is the plan at this point. We're going to try the living together thing first) then it won't change much. He thinks it will, but it wouldn't. As for the laying there and letting him have sex... my theory on this is this. If I can at all muster the energy to have sex with him, or if I am even the slightest bit interested, I will have sex with him. I would want him to do the same for me. A lot of times even though I may not be as into when we start, I'm way into by the end.

Just my two cents anywhos.

12/8/2007 4:50:11 PM

you got to factor with OEPs marriage it is one of those arranged ones.....those middle eastern things....

[Edited on December 8, 2007 at 5:21 PM. Reason : w]

12/8/2007 5:19:57 PM

haha wat?

my marriage is far from arranged. i would never go for an arranged marriage.

[Edited on December 8, 2007 at 5:22 PM. Reason : all white women are whores, all black women have AIDZ, all asian/arab people have arranged marriages]

12/8/2007 5:21:07 PM

^Generalizations FTW!

Yea it just sorta happened. We were both in long term relationships prior, but weren't ready to just drop it for anybody. We also both came pretty close, but luckily we can both proudly say we were both virgins, and surprisingly our first time was actually very nice and we both were happy with how it all went down, even if it wasn't our wedding night. About as close as you get to it these days without being a psycho-religious zealot who is obsessed with keeping your virginity.

12/8/2007 5:38:00 PM