hahah

yeah

to someone else


cause fucking the ex isn't gonna help a damn thing

look I know this shit, I've got more damn exs than I ever thought I could have

11/18/2007 3:46:09 PM

im sorry, i have to apologize. i do this to every girl who doesnt know what getting dumped feels like at your age.

AHAHAHHAAH i hope you learned a lesson

11/18/2007 3:47:21 PM

Based on your last thread, it sounds like you can do MUCH better...but that doesn't help it hurt any less. Advice above about having fun with yourself is the best - only thing I have to add is that exercise is great for making you feel less like shit.

11/18/2007 3:47:53 PM

Quote :

"this is probably how 134% of breakups are"

Exactly...

11/18/2007 3:49:05 PM

Quote :

"so I get insecure and start making snide comments to try and get him to tell me what the problem is or at least reassure me that he still wants me/thinks I'm sexy/something! but this just pisses him off further, makes him more distant, which makes me more insecure, etc etc."

This is actually an excellent thread. It's like our own local Maury Show.

Anyway- this quote here just proves that you depended too much on him. He wasn't ready for you to depend on him. He did not want that. He wanted you to think that he still wanted you/thought you were sexy on your OWN. The dudes that like a chick to depend on them to have self esteem are fucked up losers. You don't want that kind of dude. He'll be fat and bald at 35 too. Then you'll hate your life and live for your child who has a peanut, soy, and wheat allergy. Sucks to be you.

11/18/2007 3:59:21 PM

lol

pretty much

11/18/2007 4:01:05 PM

lol. I just spit milk on my computer.

11/18/2007 4:04:20 PM

I don't think it was a self-esteem issue -- I just didnt know why the fuck he was acting so distant. I wanted him to say those things so I could still be confident in our relationship and that he was still attracted to me.

But on that note, he is balding, has a little pot-belly, is already 30, and has allergies...

But I doubt we could have kids cause his sperms are fucked up b/c of a motorcycle accident

And I really really dont want kids.

On another note, my parents have a great relationship- they're supportive, they spend all their time together, the have fun together....
That's what I want I don't want a relationship where we have a bunch of space between us. Which is why we aren't together--we decided we want different things from a relationship.

11/18/2007 4:09:23 PM

as it's been stated, learn to be single. keep yourself surrounded by friends and/or family. stay busy. do things that YOU enjoy. allow yourself a little time during the day to be sad, but otherwise, keep movin'.

you probably won't be able to be friends with him for awhile. it irks me when people say they just want to "be friends" - as if it's that easy to go from one extreme to the next (unless it was a mutual break-up).

11/18/2007 4:10:20 PM

11/18/2007 4:10:49 PM

the relationship your parents have took years to grow


who wouldn't want to be the older happy couple one day


you gotta get to that point first, it doesn't happen overnight

11/18/2007 4:11:09 PM

buy some batteries

11/18/2007 4:11:39 PM

for real

date around

sleep around

do what you want that is fun

but learn to be single and happy for a bit

11/18/2007 4:13:26 PM

on the bright side, you get to have the whole bed to yourself and not listen to snoring or teeth grinding and you can cuddle up to a warm little fuzzball.

11/18/2007 4:14:03 PM

get fingered........a lot

11/18/2007 4:14:04 PM

You've just gotta learn to be happy by yourself. It's impossible to be happy being with someone else, if you can't be happy with yourself first.

11/18/2007 4:16:47 PM

it seems like you're obviously way too needy and dude didn't want to have to deal with that shit

not very uncommon for us dudes to be that way

11/18/2007 4:17:29 PM

Quote :

"I tried to push him into spending more time with me --changing jobs, or his schedule or something-- this pissed him off, he clammed up, so I get insecure and start making snide comments to try and get him to tell me what the problem is or at least reassure me that he still wants me/thinks I'm sexy/something! but this just pisses him off further, makes him more distant, which makes me more insecure, etc etc."

Gee, I can't for the life of me figure out why it is he wanted out of the relationship.

It's like an unsolveable puzzle.

11/18/2007 4:22:56 PM

Quote :

"this is the first time a guy has done the breaking up with me"

Quote :

"this is the first time a guy has done the breaking up with me"

Quote :

"this is the first time a guy has done the breaking up with me"

11/18/2007 4:23:16 PM

He hated 2nd shift... and there are guys out there that actually DO want to spend time with their gf

11/18/2007 4:25:14 PM

not when they nag this shit out of them to do/say something to constantly validate their relationship

11/18/2007 4:26:20 PM

All guys like to spend time with their girlfriends. But all guys also like to have their alone time too.

When a girl pushes and pushes for time together the guy gets tired of that and gets distant

11/18/2007 4:29:15 PM

yeah, this guy sounds kind of hot...


what's his number?

11/18/2007 4:30:04 PM

well, I got better at not nagging, but he still broke up with me.

11/18/2007 4:30:40 PM

The bottom line is, if he doesn't wanna be with you, he isn't gonna be with you. It doesn't matter how much better you've done. He doesn't need an excuse, he just isn't feeling it anymore. It happens. And if this is the first time it's happened to you then you need to experience that to grow as a person.

11/18/2007 4:33:40 PM

^No doubt. It's like a rite of passage. You can't be a woman until you can just learn to get over it.




OKAY, this thread is done. Next?

11/18/2007 4:36:23 PM

And Jess, if you met this guy at the social functions that we've both attended. . .you should have known that he didn't want a girl constantly up his butt.

11/18/2007 4:38:03 PM

no we met at work before I changed jobs. And he was married for 4 years, so.... well whatever...

[Edited on November 18, 2007 at 5:14 PM. Reason : af]

11/18/2007 5:13:26 PM

lol. yall sound kinda weird.

11/18/2007 5:14:14 PM

Quote :

"And he was married for 4 years, so.... well whatever..."

DUH

11/18/2007 5:20:42 PM

hahahaha

11/18/2007 5:21:36 PM

lol. DJ Lauren is on a roll today.

11/18/2007 5:22:33 PM

you look pretty cute in your photos, so i doubt you'll have a hard time finding a date.

Forget the boyfriend and find someone new.

11/18/2007 5:34:28 PM

that him:






???

11/18/2007 5:41:11 PM

When my ex broke up with me I was devastated because I did not see it coming but now I am the happiest ever with a guy that REALLY wants to be with me. You will get over it and if you don't remain friends with this guy maybe it is better for your development. Please don't give up on love if that is what you eventually want and looking so soon is not always the best [even though the man of my dreams was only two months after this said break-up but he was also a friend for a really long time].

11/18/2007 5:46:37 PM

11/18/2007 5:49:45 PM

Quote :

"When my ex broke up with me I was devastated because I did not see it coming but now I am the happiest ever with a guy that REALLY wants to be with me. You will get over it and if you don't remain friends with this guy maybe it is better for your development. Please don't give up on love if that is what you eventually want and looking so soon is not always the best "

I hope this happens to me...

and that first pic is my sister and her friends...

[Edited on November 18, 2007 at 6:09 PM. Reason : sdf]

11/18/2007 5:55:06 PM

11/18/2007 5:58:04 PM

be single, have fun, and forget bout all that bullshit.

its not worth the drama..

11/18/2007 6:38:14 PM

take your love to town girl


TAKE YOUR LOVE TO TOWN

11/18/2007 6:39:47 PM

he wants to be that sausage.

11/18/2007 7:53:32 PM

shit, so do i

11/18/2007 7:56:58 PM

^^^^^holy cucumber, Batman!

11/18/2007 8:49:48 PM