you can get a six month lease at a lot of places. it is not as difficult to find as she's trying to make it sound.

you can def. find a sub lease or roomie situation for that length of time.

1/4/2007 8:21:35 AM

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"she asked if i wanted money or for her to leave and i said either would be fine. "

reap
what
you
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1/4/2007 8:39:02 AM

^ i'll let her stay through january, as long as she pays me for january.

i told her i would help her pack, move, and find a new place.. but she just kept telling me to leave her alone and she didnt want my help and she hates me and i'm such an asshole..

1/4/2007 9:13:40 AM

Man...ok, so you did your best to help her but she sounds like some privilaged stuck up bitch who can't get her head out of her ass to see the situation she's in.

Dump her shit on the lawn, dude...she's not worth it. A person's home is their domain, and when going through a break up the last thing you want is for the ex to be spreading animosity in the place you sleep.

Think of it this way: She needs a wake up call in life. You're the one to give it to her. In the end, you're doing her a favor!

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"if you need help to do it quick, we can organize a volunteer party you supply beer and we'll throw her shit on the curb and help you change locks"

I support Ryan's idea

[Edited on January 4, 2007 at 9:24 AM. Reason : ]

1/4/2007 9:22:12 AM

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"if you need help to do it quick, we can organize a volunteer party you supply beer and we'll throw her shit on the curb and help you change locks"

im down

1/4/2007 9:28:07 AM

yeah man, i've got two cordless drills plus other screwdrivers, we can change those locks in like 15 minutes tops

1/4/2007 9:30:02 AM

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"but she just kept telling me to leave her alone and she didnt want my help and she hates me and i'm such an asshole.."

sounds to me like she's not as over you as she claims to be.

1/4/2007 9:42:31 AM

(not reading all that jive)....Good luck with that. I hope YOU didn't ask her to move in with you. That would have been a big mistake.

1/4/2007 9:55:08 AM

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"i told her i would help her pack, move, and find a new place.. but she just kept telling me to leave her alone and she didnt want my help and she hates me and i'm such an asshole.."

yeah, just pack her shit for her and change the locks, then when she's all WTF was that for just tell her you're an asshole and now she doesn't have to deal with you any more

1/4/2007 10:27:01 AM

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"if you need help to do it quick, we can organize a volunteer party you supply beer and we'll throw her shit on the curb and help you change locks"

I'd help, if I can be around to watch her reaction when she returns.
I also have lots of boxes I need to get rid of.

1/4/2007 10:38:01 AM

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"yeah, just pack her shit for her and change the locks, then when she's all WTF was that for just tell her you're an asshole and now she doesn't have to deal with you any more "

haha

1/4/2007 10:54:53 AM

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"Legally speaking, "Absense of a lease" means you have a state mandated month to month, which means you are required to provide 30 days notice. "

I don't think that's the case here because they are romantically involved. Legally, she lives there just like you do. You can't simply kick her out. I don't know how exactly the law works in this case, but it can get pretty complicated.

However, I doubt any of that matters b/c it sounds like she doesn't want to be there any more than you want her there.

1/4/2007 11:06:09 AM

romance has nothing to do with it from a legal stand point

1/4/2007 11:22:52 AM

legally -

you give proper notice and reasoning and she has to leave...like any other eviction if she doesnt own any % of the house. 30 days is plenty from when you first told her.

1/4/2007 11:39:47 AM

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"romance has nothing to do with it from a legal stand point"

Sure it does. It makes it a domestic situation rather than a landlord/tenant relationship.

1/4/2007 12:00:23 PM

the only law that i'm aware of that covers anything like that is common law marriage, which doesn't apply in this case.

1/4/2007 12:04:55 PM

this is what you get for living with someone legally your not married too



you were just asking for problems from the start. Failure to launch ftmfw

1/4/2007 12:23:34 PM

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"this is what you get for living with someone legally your not married too"

1/4/2007 12:27:32 PM

sorry Kevin. to be honest with you (now that you parted with her) i had a bad feeling about that girl first time i met her at Gerich's place. she seemed disoriented in a way...

1/4/2007 12:37:43 PM

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"this is what you get for living with someone legally your not married too you were just asking for problems from the start."

Yeah, because if they were married, it would be so much easier for them to just separate for a year, divorce, her file for alimony and end up with half his money and house, etc....

[Edited on January 4, 2007 at 12:51 PM. Reason : daf]

1/4/2007 12:50:28 PM

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"Yeah, because if they were married, it would be so much easier for them to just separate for a year, divorce, her file for alimony and end up with half his money and house, etc...."

i have to imagine the point trying to be made was that - they would have broken up before it got to marriage due to the reasons he's kicking her out - he never would have proposed to her in the first place...but maybe you are right and he's just an idiot...

1/4/2007 1:04:21 PM

i'll admit it wasnt the smartest move... but i'm obviously trying to fix that..

got some boxes from the ABC store at lunch and i'm gonna start packing her shit up when i get home from work.

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"i had a bad feeling about that girl first time i met her"

amazingly, that's not the first time i've heard that...

1/4/2007 1:24:19 PM

let this be a lesson to everyone:

If you suspect your friend is dating a psycho...TELL THEM!

1/4/2007 1:30:38 PM

^ they won't listen.

I've been the guy with the psycho girlfriend, and i've been the guy who tried to tell a buddy. I didn't listen to my friends, and my buddy didn't listen to me either (actually, he's a regular poster here, he can out himself if he wants).

It's one of those things that you have to figure out for yourself.

1/4/2007 1:34:39 PM

How do you not tell you're living with a psycho immediately? Should be pretty easy to tell if someone is acting "not normal at all".

1/4/2007 1:43:43 PM

^^absolutely true. my roommates gf is a complete bitch and i've told him over and over again that he needs to get out of the relationship cause she basically owns him. of course he wont listen or do anything about it.

1/4/2007 2:45:40 PM

^^^ Dead on.


Ive been that guy and ive seen many other people be that guy.

Sometimes the snatch can cloud and distort basic reasoning.

1/4/2007 4:32:24 PM

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" "

and to all the other dumb women... I encourage you to move in with men your not married to. There is a 100% chance they will never kick you out on the street.


lol

1/4/2007 7:21:19 PM

esp. when the man pays the rent..

lol

1/4/2007 7:22:07 PM

you're being way too nice here

toss her shit on the lawn

change the fuckin locks

1/4/2007 7:46:12 PM

seriously. if you don't deal with this swiftly, it might come back to bite you in the ass

1/4/2007 7:58:45 PM

i'm charging my cordless drill

lets do this

1/4/2007 8:01:52 PM

send her this thread

1/4/2007 8:14:14 PM

im ready to throw shit in the street for a 6 pack

1/4/2007 8:17:04 PM

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"How do you not tell you're living with a psycho immediately? Should be pretty easy to tell if someone is acting "not normal at all"."

You're telling us you've never been in a situation where emotion/booty clouded your judgment?

If you have feelings for someone, you tend to disregard the usual little flags that pop up here and there. Sometimes you make a conscious decision that it's not important. Sometimes you unconsciously make the decision to overlook certain tell-tale signs that the one you're with hasn't got their shit together in a manner you'd prefer.

Only time and experience temper those emotions. Over time, a long-term relationship becomes much less of that overly-romantic newfound infatuation and more like equal parts business partner, best friend, and lover. But in the beginning, it has that "flare"...

1/4/2007 8:21:04 PM

^true. everything. it is also very sad that 100% of relationships lead to that point.

1/4/2007 8:47:41 PM

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"esp. when the man pays the rent.."

I pay the rent in our situation, he pays for everything else
you sound like a douche.

1/4/2007 9:08:17 PM

I dunno, there was a time period when I dated lots of guys and the reason why they were just dates is because I knew they weren't right or someone I could handle for a very long time.

Psycho bitches suck, I think they're easier to distinguish than men, but maybe that's because I'm a female and have that bitch radar...

1/4/2007 9:21:10 PM

That and women are much more highly competitive among themselves. It's been my experience that they can be much more objective, or at least much more liberal with the "cold, hard observations" toward other women.

But I realize that's a gross generalization.

1/4/2007 9:25:54 PM

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"seriously. if you don't deal with this swiftly, it might come back to bite you in the ass"

trust me.. it'll be taken care of soon enough...

i dont wanna change the locks and throw her shit out... sad as it may sound to some, i still care about her... i've realized that we dont belong together, but i still respect her (somewhat) as a human being. i'm not gonna back down in my decision that i want her to leave and that things are over between us, but i plan to keep it as civil as possible because i really hate drama. i'm gonna give her till the end of january (roughly 30 days)...

i offered again today to help her find a place, pack her stuff, and move it.. but she said that's humiliating.. guess there are some things about women that i'll never understand.

1/4/2007 11:00:47 PM

alright now that's been established, it is time to move onto phase two:

fucking other broads in the living room while she's home

1/4/2007 11:46:06 PM

dude, she's totally taking advantage of any feelings you have for her by making you feel guilty about throwing her out.

1/4/2007 11:46:17 PM

Here's the law...

If she has lived there for more than 30 days (and can prove it... key thing here) you have to give her 2 weeks notice for eviction. You need to have her SERVED with papers... aka registered mail. So you can prove in court if her ass fights you.

On top of this you can actually sue for January's rent. Ain't that a bitch .

Tell her that she has two weeks to find a place and move. Be stern about this. She obviously had no self respect or care for you. She's playing on your kindness.

A notice of eviction can be very simple... and crude.

"Bitch (her name) you have 2 weeks to get the fuck out of my (your name) house (address).

Sincerely,

Me".

Believe it or not, that's legal.

However, many people have the right idea. You can change the locks but you can't protect your car. Go buy a $200 car and drive it for a couple weeks lol.

1/4/2007 11:46:41 PM

lol.. i drive a beat up '91 vw jetta.. not $200, but worth maybe $1200... but, hell, it's paid for and insurance is cheap.

i dont feel guilty.. she's trying, but its not working.. but i'm not gonna put her out on the street.. i think she's planning on looking for an apt. tomorrow or over the weekend..

1/4/2007 11:56:51 PM

This shit didn't work for me...I broke up with my bf, but he wasn't going to leave for like 6 months. He became really annoying and hostile and we got into a physical fight actually (he started it). His ass got kicked out. Dunno how the guy I'm dating lives with his ex. But you could always provoke her like I did him to provide a pretext, but I wouldn't recommend it...

1/5/2007 1:30:45 AM

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"Dunno how the guy I'm dating lives with his ex"

hahaha

let me guess, you fall for pyramid schemes as well

1/5/2007 1:47:46 AM

Would you be interested in owning your own business?

1/5/2007 1:49:42 AM

Assholes...so someone could be two-timing you if they just want to date you without having sex? I really don't think that's possible

1/5/2007 2:49:45 AM

Who is sleeping on the couch???

I bet you will bwn again if you sleep in the same bed the rest of the month.

On a serious tip though you cannot legally change the locks on her, in fact, since she has established residency at your place your only legal recourse assuming she does not leave is by filing an eviction in court. If you changed the locks on her and she called the cops they would make you let her in and then tell you both to work it out in civil court.

If she starts being a shithead then make her life a living hell and bet she leaves faster.

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