page 2 says think about the person you date next.... could still being friends cause jealousy in your next relationship?

7/31/2006 3:10:07 PM

Jealous people are typically that way b/c they're insecure....

If they're jealous, there's going to be a problem in that relationship too, regardless of who you're friends with or what they were in your past.

The good ole' quote = "You can't have jealousy without lousy"

7/31/2006 3:16:12 PM

who knows? my boyfriend (now ex) was a little jealous of me being friends with my ex at the time but didn't care about any of my other friends or anything. I dont know if it was insecurity or not but it wasn't like a big problem. It just sticks in my head.

7/31/2006 3:24:30 PM

8/1/2006 12:55:25 AM

8/1/2006 1:03:07 AM

it wont work; me and the ex were absolute best friends before we started dating and we dated for over a year; we tried to be friends, but then she decided our friendship ment nothing to her and she would rather throw it away.

dont waste your time with it

8/1/2006 1:09:13 AM

most of the time yes, unless it was a bad break up

8/1/2006 10:42:02 AM

there's also a mandatory space bubble... sometimes it's weeks, sometimes months, sometimes years. you have to get over the initial emotional investment, if you were extremely invested and it ended badly, it will probably take more time. just give both of yourselves time to heal and sometimes it'll work.

8/1/2006 10:44:12 AM

hmmm it takes a while.
I love love love one of my exs, we are friends and we just get each other, in fact we are best friends and vice versa. I dunno what I would do without him in my life.
Others I still talk to if I run into them
a few others I don't talk to at all mainly due to loosing contact, and it would be weird talking to them after not talking to them for a few years.

Just let it be.

8/1/2006 11:43:16 AM

I know this sounds generic as hell, but it really depends on the people. I've been friends with a few of my ex'es, and the others I've just left behind in the dust of memories. Its not the easiest thing to do in the world for me because I'm such a sap. Thats just how I am, though, and I can't really help it. I've been through the emotional gutting part where the jealousy and rage sets in when they find someone new. Its probobly the shittiest feeling in the world next to having kidney stones and I don't know why I would put myself through that again. Emotional pain is very powerful and if you can harness that energy maybe you can make something good of it.

Aside from the cluster-fuck of words above.. a relationship, when it is over, is essentially broken down to leftover emotions and memories (usually the good ones). Nobody likes being alone and having their romantic future in question no matter how much someone will deny it. I've found that some guys will just focus on the sexual part of the relationship because it helps them objectify the entire thing and therfore make them less vulnerable to emotional trauma. I don't exactly know how women deal with it.

A good counter, and this has always worked for me, is when you find yourself fondly remembering the past relationship or wanting to get back with said person... focus on all of the bad experiences that happened. It usually sinks that ship pretty fast. If the relationship was really one-sided, the person that was into it more is in for a shitfest no matter what he/she does. The best remedy in that situation is to never talk to that person again. Or at least wait a few years. Its sound advice that I've never followed and I've paid the price for it. Lets face it, no breakup is ever TOTALLY mutual.

It can work. You are risking your emotional health and the possibility of finding someone else by remaining friends. The flip-side is that you already know you are great friends and don't want to lose that. All I can say is time will tell.

/ramble

8/1/2006 12:30:14 PM

Sometimes..

Just need time bitches.

I work it out now...but my first major gf....shit it went down bad. I just regret not giving the girl a little more dick before I went and did most of her friends. Her friends could learn some cock sucking skills from her.

8/1/2006 12:39:40 PM

it worked for me and my ex untilhe got a new girlfriend. my boyfriend really didn't care, but his girlfriend was very unhappy about it, so we stopped hanging out.

8/1/2006 6:33:30 PM

use em to fuck, friends with benefits...if ur into that

8/1/2006 6:38:31 PM