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7/19/2006 5:42:37 PM

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"Hmm..I could spell this out in a number of ways. I have 13 bridesmaids, he has 15 groomsman. The wedding is being held in Charleston SC, The guest list is expected to reach about 1800. The wedding site has to be BUILT...there are a ton of reasons thats not enough time. We're both in the Real Estate field, and I don't even have time to eat most days, let alone plan a wedding. YOUR wedding might work that quickly, ours won't...."

Why's someone who is so busy that she can't eat or plan a wedding spending so much time on here?






[Edited on July 19, 2006 at 5:59 PM. Reason : ]

7/19/2006 5:44:37 PM

Posting on the wolf web is a priority OK!

7/19/2006 5:45:29 PM

it's not the same as it used to be

7/19/2006 5:46:41 PM

close to 2000 people at a wedding? damn, you've done a lot since you've been off tww. nice to know that the wedding site has to be built. i've never encountered that before. this should be quite the gala event- i know an assistant DA in Atlanta, Georgia who only had a couple of hundred at his wedding! good job!

7/19/2006 6:01:04 PM

^Platinum Weddings on WE, it's like Bridezilla but much worse. They build sites, spend too much money, and have thousands of people with budgets around $800,000 and up.

7/20/2006 11:34:22 AM

Last I checked the Assistant DA of anywhere (especially my city) ain't exactly people, but nice try at name dropping.

7/20/2006 11:41:50 AM

From what i've heard, this wedding is pretty low budget compared to some that are done, even compared to some that have been planned in his family.

7/20/2006 12:13:43 PM

Is that so?

7/20/2006 12:24:38 PM

im not trying to rain on your parade....but i dont think id want 1800 people at my wedding. it would be too big and impersonal.

we set the cap on ours at 150...which i think will be a good size. plus, i dont think we could afford too many more people.

7/20/2006 12:27:45 PM

Like I said, I would prefer a small, cute wedding on the beach followed by a kegger. And after a 3 hour long conference call with my mom and his last night...i'm thinking of going to vegas.

7/20/2006 12:29:23 PM

[Edited on July 20, 2006 at 12:39 PM. Reason : nevermindd]

7/20/2006 12:35:54 PM

Haha

I know its not traditional not to match, but I think its stupid for me to pull from random friends of mine. It was bad enough trying to get to even 13. But those guys are all his frat brothers...and close friends since highschool.

7/20/2006 12:39:37 PM

sober our wedding is gonna be awesome.

7/20/2006 1:35:21 PM

Kelly and Paul Reynolds- but nice try at calling me out, cunt.



[Edited on July 20, 2006 at 1:40 PM. Reason : the point being a college student having more people at the wedding, highly unlikely. ]

7/20/2006 1:38:51 PM

I'm definitely not in college, and my fiance is 32 years old.

7/20/2006 1:41:42 PM

so the pm's i have in my inbox are a lie?

7/20/2006 1:42:21 PM

oh Duck, dont be so silly- it's all about her rich boyfriend's daddy- it's all his guests


Too bad your daddy can't be a guest, Bobblehead

7/20/2006 1:42:35 PM

My fiance bought this name from his roomates girlfriend before they moved.

[Edited on July 20, 2006 at 1:46 PM. Reason : I don't have any PM's. I was using it to sell furniture originally.]

7/20/2006 1:46:11 PM

So why didnt he just buy you a new account then or better yet, why didn't you just sell on craiglist- it's much better







[Edited on July 20, 2006 at 2:12 PM. Reason : half a sentence missing]

7/20/2006 2:11:42 PM

Well I kind of got addicted on night when my fiance came in and told me to look at a thread that had our favorite bartender at stonewood nude...

I was intrigued, and then I got hooked.

7/20/2006 2:14:36 PM

well I guess you don't want my wedding planning advice then?

7/20/2006 2:16:39 PM

LOL, I'd still love it, do you have a website?

7/20/2006 2:19:25 PM

Yep, it sure is addicting!


[Edited on July 20, 2006 at 2:31 PM. Reason : ]

7/20/2006 2:20:58 PM

well our website wouldn't be of much help because since we don't do many weddings, most of the info would be somewhat useless...
but I can offer up some basic advice based on what you've said in the thread:

1) there is absolutely no way you can plan this sans a wedding planner. There are a ton of reasons why, and alone, just one of these would be reason to get a planner...for instance, you said you don't even have time to eat, you have a guest list of 1800, you're NOT doing it at a hotel....if even one of those things was the case, you'd need a planner.

2) You are correct in saying that the wedding is pretty low budget. While $275,000 might sound like a lot, it's actually an incredibly low number given your guest list and the fact that you aren't doing it at a hotel. IF you were doing it at a hotel, and assuming it's something higher class than a holiday inn, then the $275 MIGHT cover the tables, chairs, food and very basic and plain looking linens and food. But that's it. You'd have no money left for invitations, flowers, alcohol, your dress, photographer, entertainment, decor, centerpieces, cake...the list goes on. But that's all assuming you were doing it at a hotel who already has many of the tables, chairs, linens and staff. You're not doing it at one, which means you're going to need to sub-contract all of those people seperately. Oh, and don't plan on having an open bar....and not having an open bar at a wedding is tacky, especially one that there are going to be guests belonging to the 'elite' and 'upper' class.

3) Sadly, even if you doubled your budget, you'd still have serious issues as well as having a fairly tacky wedding. I mean no offense by this, but I'm just being honest and trying to save you the embarrasment as well as the time you're going to spend finding out what I'm telling you now. Also remember that wedding planners know what vendors to call and which vendors to call, and they're the ones who secure the contracts and....honestly, I'm just floored that hiring a planner is something you've been 'thinking' about.

4) I would highly suggest to you that before you do anything else, you decide to either a) invite 1/4 of the amount of people (and believe me, $300,000 grand will still only afford you a 'nice' wedding but by no means spectacular given your circumstances). b) increase your budget...a lot, c) after you decide on one of those options, you absolutely have to hire a planner...and remember, you're gonna need an experienced one to deal with the amount of work that is going to have to go into your wedding and the most experienced planners usually have fees just to secure their services...and it's not uncommon for someone of the better planners to get anywhere from $50,000+ just for that. And also remember, that there is gonna be a markup on all the services they secure some as high as %70. That's just the way it is....

So honestly, I can't see your wedding being anything remotely decent given your current situation and the last thing you want to have is a cheap and tacky wedding. I'm not trying to put you down, because it seems like you don't even want this wedding like that anyway...I'm just trying to help.

7/20/2006 3:01:47 PM

Well when I said budget, I was speaking based on some numbers that i've basically already planned to spend. I honestly don't think this is the place to really discuss how much my wedding will cost, what i'm spending etc. I was merely looking for someone to kind of give me advice on my engagment announcement site. I know how much we'll spend, I know how much the families combined are prepared to spend...

Thanks though.

7/20/2006 7:00:59 PM

Honestly, don't sweat the details. If they are going to pay for it then it's just a day. You have to live with the family for life and if you don't go along with what the parents want then there is a good chance they'll remind you about it for years to come.

... on the other hand Vegas is very tempting.

7/20/2006 10:51:18 PM

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"BobbleHead Veteran 271 Posts user info edit post My dad actually died about 3 years ago."

it's fun to lie.

7/20/2006 11:08:24 PM

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"I honestly don't think this is the place to really discuss how much my wedding will cost"

but it's ok to discuss the "death" of a father??

tisk tisk on our priorities!

7/20/2006 11:13:11 PM

the cost of the wedding wouldn't have been an issue. it's funny, if you're going to lie, don't contradict yourself so much. you say the cost doesn' t matter, this isn't the place- but you're the one who fucking brought it up. what a joke!

7/21/2006 11:07:02 AM

seriously, sarose.

7/21/2006 11:18:33 AM

275k should be plenty for 1800 ppl. Say you're looking at spending $20/person for reception food. That's only 36k for food. The rest of the necessities shouldn't change a whole lot in costs except for building the site for it.

Too bad you can't do what YOU want for YOUR wedding. I'd hate to have to be required to invite particular people I don't know or really care about.

Your invite list may be 1800 but you'll get way fewer with RSVPs and some of those with positive RSVPs won't show. We invited around 175, got RSVPs for around 75 and ended up with probably only around 60-65 actually attending, most of which left after eating without sticking around for the dancing. It was great to have such a personal wedding.

Good luck with everything! Key thing - with that budget and guest list, hire a planner. With our small wedding we planned nearly everything and it was extremely time-consuming.

7/21/2006 9:30:08 PM

careful, her dad is an sbi agent and he will arrest you

7/21/2006 9:44:47 PM

No he wont! He's dead!

7/21/2006 11:48:18 PM

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"You are correct in saying that the wedding is pretty low budget. "

Compared to Hollywood weddings, it's a bargain.

Compared to my wedding, which is being fully funded by me and the husband, it's extravagant as hell.

So buy yourself a wedding planner, and prepare for the most stressful year of your life. I've never been to a wedding where the bride wasn't saying, "I just want today to be over already."

7/22/2006 11:57:54 AM

You guys are forgetting that her guest list is 1800 people. And with a guest list that size you need to remember that not only do you have to take into consideration how much the food will cost per guest...but that everything is multiplied by that number. You need 3600 chairs (1800 for the ceremony, 1800 for the reception) because there's no way you'll be able to change chairs quickly enough unless you have 20 times the staff just for that. You're gonna need to have more staff for everything, servers, bartenders, chefs.... Think about all the 'little' things that are needed that when planning a more intimate wedding, could possibly be done by the bride herself... I mean even something as simple/small as place card notes. And lets not forget that there are supposed to be all kinds of high society upper class guests who are expecting, if not 'the best' of things, they are certainly expecting something similar. I've planned enough large events to know that there are things that you would never even think about besides the obvious tables, chairs, food, linens, staff, invitations, cake, flowers, centerpieces, silverware, etc..... how about power, bathrooms, air/heat (depending on season and remember, this site has yet to be built)...the list goes on.....

Honestly this is a stupid thread because
a) If this is indeed sarose as it seems to be, then this is 95% bullshit to begin with.
b) If this wedding is really the 'baby' of the the grooms mother who has supposedly had weddings before, there is no way a planner wouldn't have already been hired.
c) If this was sarose (or anyone else for that matter) then it seems this thread was a failed attempt to brag about money of sorts because it's sort of like saying, 'gee, I have $300,000 to buy a piece of realestate! OMG I'm so rich....but oh yeah, I'm only looking to buy 20 bedroom mansion on the beach in malibu!

7/22/2006 2:14:28 PM

I am taking into consideration that her guest list is that big. I don't know that many people. I don't know anyone who knows that many people.

7/22/2006 6:32:25 PM

If someone so important's kid was getting married and there were going to be 1800 people coming, I'd like to see a copy of the engagement announcement (like from the newspaper). Or the newspaper article about it.

7/22/2006 7:18:07 PM

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"$20/person for reception food"

If you are feeding them fucking mcdonalds.

$100+/person is more like it, especially including open bar.

7/23/2006 1:30:14 AM

Oh, and why the fuck would you want a "wedding announcement" site like theknot or something when you are having a wedding so big and money isn't an issue. Get someone to design you a nice custom site with a URL like samandherbitch.com. Just substitute "and her bitch" with his name.

7/23/2006 3:13:24 PM

I am thinking you need $200-300 a head for this type of "crowd". Also, a lot of people will be pissed off that the place is so crowded and the food situation has potential to be a disaster. You really need a seated 4 course dinner in order to keep the majority of people in their seats or else it will turn into waiting in line at Disney Land.

This has to be a joke

Also, if this is real, just buy the domain name and hire someone to build you a much nicer, noncheesy website.

7/23/2006 4:41:12 PM

it doesn't really matter who this is

they posted a request about a website, someone else brought up budgets

7/23/2006 6:23:50 PM

posting in here because i have not posted in here yet

9/28/2006 6:42:32 PM

When are you planning to get married?

9/28/2006 8:50:04 PM

I make decals for back windows of limos and guests' cars..Decals usually read -
Congratulations!
Mr. and Mrs. Black
June 24, 2006
-decorated and fancy script fonts...i have pictures, pm if interested, thanks!

9/28/2006 9:34:19 PM

you should let me do your wedding video stuff

I've done quite a few and wouldn't charge too much

12/8/2006 12:48:18 AM

1800 people for a wedding?


It's amazing to me just how stupid people are. Throwing away that much money on a day that doesn't really matter is beyond me. Why not throw a huge celebration if your marriage lasts 20 years? It's a bit more of an accomplishment that arranging to have a white dress, a cake, and an open bar.

Although I must tip my hat to the "wedding planners" out there who have pushed these weddings to the extreme and are oh so capable of fleecing the wealthy and stupid.

12/8/2006 1:58:24 AM

12/8/2006 2:04:37 AM

http://www.wedpagedesigns.com/

12/8/2006 2:06:04 AM