My husband and I met/began dating the summer before I came to NCSU. I was rooming with my best friend in Carrol that fall. After about 2-3 months of living with eachother (my best friend and I), we had a really bad fight and ended up not being able to work it out. I decided I needed to move out. I really had no place to go and wouldn't have been able to continue school because I was jobless at the time (couldn't get an apartment) and my parents lived far away from NCSU. My then boyfriend offered to talk with his roomates about letting me briefly stay at his apartment while I found a job and got everything more stable. I was friends with his roomates, so they agreed. Well, while I was looking for a job and everything, our relationship grew a lot and we learned the ups and downs of living together. It allowed us to see how things changed when you move in together with your SO without having to live together permanently at that time. Well, by the time I found a job and stuff, we had moved out of his apartment and into another friend's house. We then decided to get our own place. Taking baby steps and not moving in together alone (without roomates) made our relationship stronger. Today, we're married and have a son, so things worked out great.

2/11/2006 11:27:26 AM

according to discovery health:

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"Divorce Myth 2: Living together before marriage is a good way to reduce the chances of eventually divorcing. Fact: Many studies have found that those who live together before marriage have a considerably higher chance of eventually divorcing. The reasons for this are not well understood. In part, the type of people who are willing to cohabit may also be those who are more willing to divorce. There is some evidence that the act of cohabitation itself generates attitudes in people that are more conducive to divorce, for example the attitude that relationships are temporary and easily can be ended."

http://health.discovery.com/centers/loverelationships/articles/divorce.html

according to divorce magazine (they have a magazine for this?):

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"Percentage of couples living together for more than five years who eventually marry as of 1995: 70%"

http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/statsUS.shtml

my girlfriend and i stay together about 60% of the time, though we both have our own places...you certainly do learn the pros and cons, and while we're not married, or engaged, we HAVE been together for 3 and a half years now

2/11/2006 1:25:33 PM

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"Many studies have found that those who live together before marriage have a considerably higher chance of eventually divorcing"

Marriage isn't necessarily a good thing, how many of these people are just follow societal norms and sticking with sour marriages... vs people who are willing to break with societal norms in the case of "living in sin" and thus are more willing to break other societal norms such as sticking marriages out no matter what?

Regardless of what the statistics are for average Americans, I think its still a good idea to get to know someone before committing yourself to them. But to each their own.

I'm still in favor of couples having the option to be roommates during college.

2/11/2006 5:26:29 PM

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"did you make room for rowdy?"

im making room right now! just gotta finish unpacking my shit and put the boxes in my storage closet and then ill have puppy room!

2/11/2006 5:36:24 PM

thats great... and while i have your attention... might i point out: http://www.brentroad.com/message_topic.aspx?topic=386835 ...

2/11/2006 5:41:59 PM

sorry, i just checked back on this thread

shoulda pmed me

my daddys a landscape architect AND i like art museums AND social functions in general

2/12/2006 2:07:03 PM

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""Divorce Myth 2: Living together before marriage is a good way to reduce the chances of eventually divorcing."

That's just because the same religious freaks who are too scared of god's wrath to move in together before marriage are the same ones who don't believe in divorce.

2/13/2006 9:21:45 PM

i beg to differ...the number of "christians" is MUCH larger than the number of those who may truly feel that way...so unless you're saying every self-proclaimed christian is afraid of "living in sin," then that's a stupid supposition

2/13/2006 9:30:20 PM

on a different topic, sort of, when is this article running?

2/13/2006 9:39:21 PM

http://www.technicianonline.com/media/paper848/news/2006/02/15/News/Curfew.Causes.Controversy-1613653.shtml?norewrite&sourcedomain=www.technicianonline.com&page=1

http://www.technicianonline.com/media/paper848/news/2006/02/15/Viewpoint/Board.Of.Trustees.Dont.Slow.Our.Roll-1613742.shtml?norewrite&sourcedomain=www.technicianonline.com

These articles have related points to the one I was making. I don't think the university is acting necessarily outside of their jurisdiction, I mean we do enter into a contract with them to get to live and study here, but I think its more sensible to allow students more responsibility in this situation.

[Edited on February 15, 2006 at 10:54 AM. Reason : .]

2/15/2006 10:47:00 AM

eh, if students want to live together, they can get an apartment off campus, it won't kill them

2/15/2006 12:04:14 PM