I am married with a family. I met someone online who is also married but things really clicked between us over time. The opportunity for them to move closer to me, they took and moved their family within a reasonable driving distance from me. Since then our relationship has really blossomed with us being able to to see each other multiple times a week, because of that our relationship has become very intimate. This has been going on for a few months now.A few weeks ago things started to feel distant between us but we would still be intimate almost every time we would be together. About a week ago they told me they wanted to stop being intimate with me but still loved me, they just couldn't take feeling guilty when around their spouse. We agreed to talk about it, I saw them yesterday and things started to get very passionate with our making out. After much talking in between the making out clothes came off and we agreed to be intimate again. Once we are done, they tell me they didn't mean to hurt me and that we shouldn't have just done that. They go on and tell me how much they love me and how much they need me.Any advice on what to do? Should I break it off? Keep the relationship with them? Try to just be friends?I have also completely fallen in love with this person, neither of us want to break up our current marriages.Please help
12/10/2015 4:19:47 PM
She will probably come around. Stay the course.[Edited on December 10, 2015 at 4:52 PM. Reason : .]
12/10/2015 4:51:41 PM
Methinks "they" is a guy...
12/10/2015 5:33:46 PM
Also, nothing good can come of this.
12/10/2015 5:34:15 PM
^^ that's what i was thinking do to the ambitious pronoun, but with his usage of "intimate" I think it could go either way
12/10/2015 5:39:24 PM
^ why, is intimate only used for hetero sex?
12/10/2015 5:46:29 PM
lol @ gallery"i've been thinking about swinging""haha jk""no really, would you be open to it?""haha jk again"
12/10/2015 6:19:14 PM
Kinda doubt this is serious. This is a story about extremely destructive behavior that will most certainly end in the complete demise of your relationships with your wife, your lover and your kids.Come out to your wife, be honest and upfront. She and your kids will hate you, but being forthright about it may help establish some respect later in life. Your boyfriend will have to come to the decision on his own.
12/10/2015 6:34:24 PM
First post on page 2 is the final word on what Scud1 does.
12/10/2015 6:57:40 PM
Hey scud I'm pretty sure we browsed your gallery in high school drafting class
12/10/2015 7:11:30 PM
12/11/2015 12:09:12 AM
Either way, sounds like quite the ClassicMixup
12/11/2015 12:21:17 AM
12/11/2015 7:31:00 AM
I have decided to keep the relationship going and see what happens. We have had a couple of good talks the last few days.I am hoping to get a special Christmas present
12/15/2015 8:26:07 AM
A divorce? An ass beating from her husband? Worst father of the year award?
12/15/2015 8:31:10 AM
Seriously man...you're kind of a piece of shit.
12/15/2015 8:33:22 AM
There was a similar story a couple years ago in the Confessions thread from a guy that was married but having an affair with his best friend's wife who they were always doing couple-activities with. I always wondered how that one ended up.
12/15/2015 8:35:13 AM
12/15/2015 8:37:20 AM
It's not like any of you have never cheated on someone....
12/15/2015 8:56:09 AM
^^^ Believe there was some panty-sniffing going on in that one...and not the OEP kind.
12/15/2015 9:00:29 AM
i hope this is a troll thread. I also hope you're not insinuating that everyone has cheated.[Edited on December 15, 2015 at 9:04 AM. Reason : ]
12/15/2015 9:03:46 AM
^^there was some straight up hands down pants in the other room at party stuff going on too
12/15/2015 9:13:35 AM
Kind of reminds me of also
12/15/2015 9:49:47 AM
http://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships/dp/1491512407Good present 4 this dude
12/15/2015 10:14:10 AM
Why even ask for advice? Seems like you already made up your mind. You are a piece of shit though. Not because you fell in love with someone else, but because you are cheating on your wife. Sometimes you just have a magical connection with someone that you aren't married to and that kind of thing can't really be stopped, but you should at least grow up and be honest about it.
12/15/2015 10:19:34 AM
^
12/15/2015 10:31:40 AM
12/15/2015 10:31:45 AM
12/15/2015 10:34:28 AM
Dude. Dont be a cheater. That's really REALLY shitty, and totally unfair for your wife and kid.Would you be ok if your wife was in the same situation? If not, then dont do that shit to her. Anyway, dont do it man. Have some respect for the sanctity of your marriage and family.[Edited on December 15, 2015 at 11:11 AM. Reason : .]
12/15/2015 10:44:40 AM
^^that's pretty much like every affair ever. i've been around this shit too many times. Is what you have special? Maybe. You two could be meant for each other. Statistically speaking? Probably not, it's probably like most other affairs.You should read the book After the Affair. Honestly, both you and the person you are cheating with should read this book separately. It may help you both decide whether you want to take this to the next level with this person (ie come clean, end your marriage, they do the same, and you move forward together with this person) or you cut it off completely. Those are really the only two options (unless you both think your spouses are open to open relationships or something less common like that). You don't want to break up your marriages because it's convenient to have your cake and eat it too. But that's the most selfish thing you can do. You're both currently hurting people you supposedly love and will only do so more in the future. If you actually care about your family at all, you will man up and make the decision. 100% or 0%. Anything in between is cowardice.[Edited on December 15, 2015 at 10:49 AM. Reason : ]
12/15/2015 10:47:56 AM
http://www.amazon.com/The-Chalice-Blade-History-Future/dp/0062502891Another good read
12/15/2015 10:53:36 AM
12/15/2015 11:01:36 AM
^Right. But they asked for advice and, while they probably will just ignore it, my advice is that there are basically 2 options. The path Scud wants to take is not a logical option if they care one ounce about their wife and kids. However they are too close to the situation to realize this. Reading a book like that can be useful - more useful than soliciting advice from people here that will probably be ignored.[Edited on December 15, 2015 at 11:09 AM. Reason : ]
12/15/2015 11:06:12 AM
really wish I didn't click on his gallery at work. also, you're a piece of shit.
12/15/2015 11:16:30 AM
The reason Scud made this thread was because he (or she?) already made up his mind and was hoping that he could get some validation online to make him feel less guilty about it. At this point there is no way this can end without someone getting hurt.Sidenote: Watch the Affair on Showtime. Pretty intense. Not sure how realistic it is but it is quality tv!
12/15/2015 11:22:52 AM
I'm pretty sure 'they' (who's he fooling? Scud and his boy-toy) have little-to-no remorse about what their doing in regards to their families, or he would've at least mentioned being conflicted about carrying on in an affair somewhere in this thread. You're not going to convince them to read anything.
12/15/2015 11:24:56 AM
#CheatersLivesMatter
12/15/2015 8:58:29 PM
I've got to say that I'm impressed nobody made an AIDS joke yet. 2015 TWW is so PC/progressive!
12/15/2015 9:07:45 PM
Everybody on TWW already knows Scud1 has aids
12/15/2015 9:16:57 PM
12/15/2015 9:58:57 PM
I didn't open this thread at work because I was certain this would live up to the OPs reputation
12/15/2015 11:14:56 PM
something something, 'trolled ya'll'.....
12/16/2015 6:53:52 AM
^well that would be infinitely better
12/16/2015 8:18:30 AM
This could really be settled in one question? Does she take it up the butt?
12/16/2015 8:31:20 AM
..[Edited on December 16, 2015 at 9:32 AM. Reason : oops]
12/16/2015 9:29:30 AM
^ POST IT BACK... WHAT WAS IT???
12/16/2015 9:51:42 AM
^I think he's now realized the error of his ways. With no buttsecks, it's just not worth it.
12/16/2015 9:56:16 AM
He said yes.
12/16/2015 10:04:28 AM
I'm a little miffed that after all of the accusations that he's plowing another dude, he has yet to even acknowledge the gender of his partner dirt bag.
12/16/2015 10:08:12 AM
--->
12/16/2015 10:37:02 AM