http://www.newsobserver.com/2011/01/08/906506/cursing-ban-struck-down.html
1/8/2011 3:07:50 PM
I remember when I encountered the word fuck for the first time. I was probably 4-5 years old, and one of my classmates was like, "Hey, I got a secret....fuck. It's a word you can't say." My reaction, of course, was to say fuck over and over again. Then the same classmate tattled on me. The teacher came up to me and told me not to ever say that word, and that it was a bad word. No reasons why, no explanation as to what made it bad, just a request for simple and blind obedience.Intuitively, I knew it was stupid. I had barely embarked on my 17 year journey to become "educated," yet I could understand that a word is not bad unless you use it for degradation or insult.
1/8/2011 3:26:45 PM
^You at least ratted that kid out for saying the word first, right?
1/8/2011 6:03:13 PM
1/8/2011 6:06:04 PM
If I had to live in either of those counties, I'd want to have the right to curse.
1/8/2011 6:25:07 PM
http://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/record-meeting/1270072/
1/27/2011 3:28:25 PM
Forget you.
2/28/2011 11:19:31 AM
2/28/2011 11:39:21 AM
^What's wrong with what he said?
2/28/2011 11:46:02 AM
If the sentence doesn't strike you as humorous then me explaining it isn't going to help much
2/28/2011 12:13:57 PM
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2/28/2011 1:10:02 PM
2/28/2011 3:22:52 PM
well, shit, that's a fucking good explanation
2/28/2011 3:29:13 PM
His teacher told him a word was bad, and he thought "That's dumb". Therefore, he intuitively knew that a word in and of itself can't be bad. I doubt he meant that his five-year-old self made a more complex rationalization. I could be wrong, though, and if I am, I agree that it's ridiculous.Either way thanks for actually explaining.
2/28/2011 3:35:04 PM
Haha, haters coming out of the woodwork. I love it.
2/28/2011 5:15:42 PM
2/28/2011 5:26:05 PM
"Modern psychology" says that 5 year old kids are remorseless? Why don't you elaborate on that?
2/28/2011 5:27:59 PM
because remorse requires a concern for others, which 5-year-olds don't have.http://www.character-education.info/Articles/stages_of_moral_development.htm
2/28/2011 5:38:36 PM
I'm skeptical of that whole charting system, but it doesn't take away from the central point: "...but he will not be able to recognize that a word is inherently 'bad' without some amount of conditioning."
2/28/2011 5:43:33 PM
yes, the ages are approximate, but at least note that the concept of remorse for harming someone else is still occurring, minimum, around age 9 or 10. and such complex thought as you are ascribing to your 5-year-old self, really isn't possible at that age. Like someone else said, it's more likely you were struck by the concept of unfairness, and that has fostered an antagonism
2/28/2011 5:47:29 PM
First off, you need to stop acting like you're a qualified psychoanalyst. You're not, you're just a dumbass on TWW trying to win an argument, without ever bothering to understand my original point.The thought was not complex. I did not break it down, when I was 5, like I can today. Nowhere do I suggest that I could. I just didn't understand how a word could be "bad." If you want to hop on the douchebag wagon with the other two and accuse me of making it all up, I don't care. I can remember the event taking place in after school care in the Farmington Woods cafeteria. I could have made it up, though, because the fact of the matter is that children have to be taught that words are bad. Adults teach them that words are bad, because that's how it's always been.
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3/1/2011 12:19:42 AM
My ex-gf was (and still is I guess) a bitch and a cunt, which both mean the same thing. If I called her a bitch she would keep arguing but if I called her a cunt she would shut the fuck up. Thank God for curse words.
3/1/2011 12:20:24 AM
What's the deal with "courtesy" ? Why does it make a difference whether I tell someone "Please be quiet for a moment" or "Shut the fuck up" ?! Both phrases convey the same desire, why are people so hung up on these arbitrarily different phonetic combinations?!?![Edited on March 1, 2011 at 12:47 PM. Reason : .]
3/1/2011 12:47:17 PM
^Inorite
3/1/2011 1:03:12 PM
I agree with Grumpy that certain words convey stronger emotion. "Please be quiet" is less forceful than "Shut the fuck up". It doesn't mean that "Shut the fuck up" is a bad phrase, though. It should just be reserved for when it's necessary, or it loses its meaning.
3/1/2011 1:28:28 PM
3/8/2011 6:08:14 PM
The fact that the word 'nigger' is so terribly offensive if I use it but not at all if a black person does should give you a clue at how much the actual word matters vs. context, speaker, and listener.
3/8/2011 9:27:33 PM
nigger
3/8/2011 9:44:12 PM
Language is funny.Cause I can think of plenty of situations where "shut the fuck up" is less forceful than "please be quiet"^^^^ and some situations where the N-word is more offensive coming from a black person than it is from a white person^^.
3/8/2011 11:34:59 PM
I do so love it when people decide that society -- and, in this case, decades or centuries of linguistic evolution -- are wrong, without any support whatsoever.
3/9/2011 1:19:55 AM
In case you're responding to me, I just want to be clear that I'm not addressing your points or opinions at all. I dropped out halfway through the class that would have helped me get all uppity in an Internet argument about this topic. All I'm saying is that language is funny.If you're joking on a friend, and they're like, "Aww, come on, shut the fuck up, dude," that's less forceful than a teacher glaring at you and saying, "Please be quiet." And if your black neighbor explains to you that your darker-skinned sibling will never be any good because he's got too much N-word in him, then that's definitely way more offensive than the white kid who says the N-word cause he thinks he's down.Right?
3/9/2011 2:48:15 AM
Right. Tone and setting have a large influence, but generally speaking, different words have different connotations.[Edited on March 9, 2011 at 8:02 AM. Reason : .]
3/9/2011 8:02:20 AM
Entirely dependent on context, listener, and speaker. One dude joking to his friend "shut the fuck up" means something entirely different if you only change the context between the two people. The words themselves are only vehicles for conveying a message, which is utterly dependent on context. No word or combination of words is objectively tied to a given message.In 1000 years, 'dog' might not have the same meaning it has today. What does that tell you about objective connotation of words? Hell, even today, 'dog' by itself doesn't have a definitive connotation.
3/9/2011 8:47:14 AM
Ok, I guess you're right. Connotation is objective.
3/9/2011 9:13:30 AM