My ex wants me over for lunch again today. I called her and said I have a conference call and we're going to just eat lunch through it. So, that's a lie.

The girl I'm dating said I have to meet her for lunch. I've blown her off since Thursday night. She's a real sweetheart but I'm afraid she'll be able to read the guilt on my face. I get sick in the stomach when I talk to her or think about her, because I don't hurt people I care about or that care about me.

I don't know if I should tell her what happened. I think I want to end it. We've only been dating a month where we said we'd be exclusive. On one hand I don't want to ruin a good thing, but on the other I feel like you can't start it with dishonesty...


Should I tell her or not? Should I end it or not?

4/8/2008 10:55:40 AM

kill yourself

4/8/2008 10:57:04 AM

4/8/2008 10:58:30 AM

end them both. you don't have to tell her about the hookingup with your ex, but you should at least end it.

and you shouldn't be hooking up with the ex because she has a boyfriend

but, again, I am kind of biased here.

4/8/2008 11:00:04 AM

OK GODAMMIT

JUST PLZ TO MAKE

***THE JUDGES PERPETUAL TALK ABOUT MY EX GF AND CUMMING INSIDE DRUNK HO'S THREAD***

4/8/2008 11:01:04 AM

I say if youre stating with her she needs to know. Otherwise don't bother hurting her with the details

4/8/2008 11:01:06 AM

quit being a goddamn pussy. All your problems will be solved.

4/8/2008 11:02:02 AM

what tears me up is why I would do that with my ex. There's some kind of "spark" there. . .

And what keeps running through my head over and over again is when my ex said that her bf treats her really good, but no one makes her "feel" the way I do

Isnt it about how you make someone feel, and how they make you feel? I mean someone can be supportive, a good provider, and caring, but in the end its that desire that drives

It really fucks me up

But the other girl is such a sweetheart to me. She has a really really good heart. She's also really moral and has values, she comes from a really conservative Jewish family, I mean, she doesnt even like it when I call us having sex fucking, I almost laugh inside when she calls it making love, because I havent told her I love her yet

4/8/2008 11:04:44 AM

i am backing out of this one

4/8/2008 11:06:00 AM

^^please refer to my post.

[Edited on April 8, 2008 at 11:06 AM. Reason : fds]

4/8/2008 11:06:14 AM

Quote :

" From : The Judge To : Jen Received : Tuesday April 8, 2008 at 1:59 AM Subject : Re: how many PM's it will fuck you up I love hearing all the people who tell me i'm making all this up, i wish they would have this going on instead of me and see how fun it is some guys pm me like hell yea thats awesome I feel less than zero at times She keeps saying to me, I like the way he treats me, but no one makes me feel the way you do I'm wondering if that is mutual "

The situation is not cool and I'm not a pussy. Don't you think I wish I didn't have a conscience? When I saw that picture of him on the nightstand yesterday while we were having sex I stopped because I felt disturbed all of a sudden. Its my ex who told me to knock it off and finish.

4/8/2008 11:09:00 AM

http://youtube.com/watch?v=Yu_moia-oVI

4/8/2008 11:11:39 AM

OK GODAMMIT

JUST PLZ TO MAKE

***THE JUDGES PERPETUAL TALK ABOUT MY EX GF AND CUMMING INSIDE DRUNK HO'S THREAD***

4/8/2008 11:19:59 AM

ONE THREAD PLEASE

If you're going to turn into chembob, at least contain it in one thread.

4/8/2008 11:28:15 AM

should I tell the girl I'm seeing right now? should I break it off with her and or the ex?

4/8/2008 11:28:19 AM

OK GODAMMIT

JUST PLZ TO MAKE

***THE JUDGES PERPETUAL TALK ABOUT MY EX GF AND CUMMING INSIDE DRUNK HO'S THREAD***

4/8/2008 11:32:12 AM

Quote :

"Should I tell her or not? Should I end it or not?"

jesus christ. you know what you want/need to do, so stop asking people on the internet and just fucking do it.

4/8/2008 11:40:06 AM

FUCK IT FUCK IT FUCK IT


I'm a man now, I'm going to tell her at lunch today

4/8/2008 12:00:21 PM

What a pussy

this isn't fuckin Melrose Place

Quit being a little bitch

4/8/2008 12:12:01 PM

^

4/8/2008 12:13:13 PM

good


once again


make a decision and be a man about it
if shit happens or good things happen, u got to take it either way

4/8/2008 12:38:43 PM

updates when you get back from lunch

4/8/2008 12:39:41 PM

Quote :

"OK GODAMMIT JUST PLZ TO MAKE ***THE JUDGES PERPETUAL TALK ABOUT MY EX GF AND CUMMING INSIDE DRUNK HO'S THREAD***"

4/8/2008 12:47:37 PM

message_topic.aspx?topic=521613

He actually made a thread in THE SOAP BOX about this

what a little bitch

4/8/2008 1:12:07 PM

^ Yep

Quote :

"She's also really moral and has values, she comes from a really conservative <whatever> family"

Theres your fucking problem. Super conservative and moral. I hate those type of people. Especially the high-horse christians.

4/8/2008 1:29:37 PM

so is lunch over. what happened

4/8/2008 1:32:28 PM

Until you figure out what you're feeling for your ex, break things off with the girl you're dating. She sounds nice, like she's looking for something real....and it sounds like right now you aren't able to give that to her if you're still having "what if" feelings for your ex.

4/8/2008 1:33:36 PM

wow

2nd post in like 5.5 years

on this

4/8/2008 1:34:48 PM

I told her I slept with someone else once. She asked who it was and I said it was someone I got drunk and went home with. I told her it wouldnt happen again. She started crying in the middle of the restaurant so we went back to my car where I told her I was sorry. She is really distraught, said she doesnt know if she can trust me, doesn't know who I am. I told her I love her and it just made her cry more. She tried pulling herself together and I dropped her back off at her work.

4/8/2008 1:36:10 PM

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0097216/

4/8/2008 1:37:08 PM

^^ you are the biggest douche bag ever if that is true

Why the fuck would you tell her in the middle fo the fucking day? What if she HAS SHIT TO DO today? Are you trying to make her world revolve around you?

Why would you even tell period? Either stop sleeping with your ex or break up with your current girlfriend

PERIOD

You don't need to make 50 threads on TWW about this bullshit that happens to everybody, oh yeah, you want attention

fucking faggot

4/8/2008 1:41:44 PM

Quote :

"OK GODAMMIT JUST PLZ TO MAKE ***THE JUDGES PERPETUAL TALK ABOUT MY EX GF AND CUMMING INSIDE DRUNK HO'S THREAD***"

4/8/2008 1:45:23 PM

Quote :

"OK GODAMMIT JUST PLZ TO MAKE ***THE JUDGES PERPETUAL TALK ABOUT MY EX GF AND CUMMING INSIDE DRUNK HO'S THREAD***"

half the people here could have a thread crying about an ex
half of those might could have a thread about cumming in a drunk ho

sadly, I could have my own "talk about my ex and cumming inside drunk hos" thread

4/8/2008 1:51:43 PM

i vote: you are a douchebag

4/8/2008 1:54:48 PM

Quote :

"Don't say it's over Cause that's the worst news I could hear I swear that I will Do my best to be here just the way you like it Even though its hard to hide Push my feelings all aside I will rearrange my plans and change for you If I could go back That's the first thing I would do I swear that I would Do my best to follow through Come up with a master plan A homerun hit, a winning stand A guarantee and not a promise That I'll never let your love slip from my hands If it's the beaches If it's the beaches' sands you want Then you will have them If it's the mountains' bending rivers Then you will have them If it's the wish to run away Then I will grant it Take whatever what you think of While I go gas up the truck Pack the old love letters up We will read them when we forget why we left here "

[Edited on April 8, 2008 at 2:10 PM. Reason : !]

4/8/2008 2:09:23 PM

I for one appreciate the entertainment.

4/8/2008 3:12:43 PM

Well she texted me. She said she's pulled herself together and thought about things. She said she loves me too, and while she's going to need time to feel good about things, she knows I care about her too. She's going to make us dinner tonight and we'll see if we can patch things up

4/8/2008 3:20:54 PM

^^waching more home alone?

[Edited on April 8, 2008 at 3:24 PM. Reason : .]

4/8/2008 3:21:46 PM

what about the ex? i'm so confused. this love triangle. you keep changing your mind. new girl or ex

4/8/2008 3:23:35 PM

so you picked the new girl

stick with it and dont go back to the ex
you can be nice but you need to say no

because you just did the lunch thing and working out with the new girl
so dont go and fuck her over and break up because ur ex comes back to you in a month

4/8/2008 3:25:48 PM

i love that shit

4/8/2008 3:27:15 PM

poor girl. she probably wouldn't want to patch things up if she knew it was your ex and more than once (wasn't it? like twice?) and not a rando girl you got drunk and hooked up with. i mean, i'd feel differently in those two situations.

4/8/2008 3:28:01 PM

Quote :

"end them both. you don't have to tell her about the hookingup with your ex, but you should at least end it. and you shouldn't be hooking up with the ex because she has a boyfriend"

i'm not biased, but this might get you to post less

Quote :

"you are the biggest douche bag ever if that is true Why the fuck would you tell her in the middle fo the fucking day? What if she HAS SHIT TO DO today? Are you trying to make her world revolve around you? Why would you even tell period? Either stop sleeping with your ex or break up with your current girlfriend PERIOD You don't need to make 50 threads on TWW about this bullshit that happens to everybody, oh yeah, you want attention fucking faggot"

pretty much a good summery

[Edited on April 8, 2008 at 3:29 PM. Reason : s]

4/8/2008 3:28:49 PM

I mean, I don't love her, but if I wanted to keep her around, I think she needed to hear it. She's really good to me and right now I could use someone who is there for me 100 percent. I don't know what I feel for my ex, we have a really strange magnetism to each other that I can't explain.

4/8/2008 3:28:54 PM

didnt read the previous post

but yeah, that's just gonna end up hurting her more

[Edited on April 8, 2008 at 3:33 PM. Reason : asdf]

4/8/2008 3:29:33 PM

^^ ok now i really stand by my "poor girl"

SELFISH don't keep her around just because YOU need it. sheesh

[Edited on April 8, 2008 at 3:30 PM. Reason : and i think everyone appreciates the entertainment of this thread haha. ]

4/8/2008 3:30:18 PM

Quote :

"I mean, I don't love her, but if I wanted to keep her around, I think she needed to hear it."

this falls under the idiots guide to dating

4/8/2008 3:30:30 PM

yeah i dont get into serious relationships anymore (ill deal with that in the future)

im 22, and im having the time of my life. i like to hook up with girls and keep it as fun as possible without the depths of a serious relationship. things get too crazy. good people start doing evil things and hurting people they care about. i for one cant hold a steady relationship because of multiple options, and im fine with that. id say your best bet is to start over completely

ive learned that once you start tossing around the word love, youre either gonna get fucking screwed or do it to someone else. ive been on both sides and neither is fun, because you get your heart broken or you break someone elses, and thats pretty hard on my conscience. maybe its just because im immature in a relationship sense. whatever thats fine

[Edited on April 8, 2008 at 3:54 PM. Reason : .]

4/8/2008 3:50:13 PM

Quote :

"I mean, I don't love her, but if I wanted to keep her around, I think she needed to hear it. She's really good to me and right now I could use someone who is there for me 100 percent. I don't know what I feel for my ex, we have a really strange magnetism to each other that I can't explain."

sounds like you're being kinda selfish in regards to the current girl, and it seems like she's getting screwed over because you got involved with your ex again. now she's willing to work through the fact that you fucked another woman, and you don't know if you want to keep her around. maybe you should go back to your ex and leave this girl to someone who will appreciate her.

just mytwocents

4/8/2008 4:08:33 PM

did you tell her about possibly impregnating other girl too? or just that you screwed around with your ex?

4/8/2008 4:24:18 PM