so a friend just asked me if she could borrow about 1100 for her rent this month? I know money and friends usually don't go well but she's in a huge bind. I wouldn't care about letting her borrow money, but I know she's always in a huge bind with money every month so I don't know when I'll be getting it.

12/10/2007 8:54:15 PM

if it's a problem

dont do it

if it's not normally a problem, do it

12/10/2007 8:54:47 PM

make her go down low for it

12/10/2007 8:54:56 PM

i wouldnt do it

12/10/2007 8:55:33 PM

if you dont mind never seeing that 1100 again then go for it

12/10/2007 8:55:47 PM

sounds like you aren't getting it back for a while if ever.... it's a bad idea financially, but some people would do it anyways. nobody here can give you a whole lot of help, it's really just up to you.

12/10/2007 8:56:09 PM

fuck that

12/10/2007 8:56:26 PM

ask her if she is willing to eat you out

if she does, i probably wouldnt give her the money because it probably means that she has a drug problem

12/10/2007 8:57:00 PM

well she said she would sign something saying she'll pay me back but im still a little uncomfortable

12/10/2007 8:57:48 PM

define "something"

12/10/2007 8:58:36 PM

a contract or something like that, she has about 2 jobs but her check that she put in the mail last week for her rent was stolen and somebody took money out of her account and her landlords came around asking why she didn't pay rent

12/10/2007 8:59:24 PM

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"well she said she would sign something saying she'll pay me back but im still a little uncomfortable"

this does you no good, and would not hold up in court

12/10/2007 8:59:27 PM

her signing something isn't gonna do anything if you aren't going to take her to court to force her to pay if she doesn't pay... if she'd in a "bind" every month it sounds like a bad idea.

12/10/2007 9:00:07 PM

where the fuck does she live?

1100 bucks for rent? she needs to either get a roommate or move to a place that she can afford

12/10/2007 9:00:27 PM

if you are uncomfortable dont do it


if she gets pissed, shes phony

12/10/2007 9:00:35 PM

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"a contract or something like that, she has about 2 jobs but her check that she put in the mail last week for her rent was stolen and somebody took money out of her account and her landlords came around asking why she didn't pay rent"

this sounds just like this girl i knew that started using meth

now she'll blow you just to get into your house to steal dvds to buy crank

12/10/2007 9:01:39 PM

she does have a roommate...it's a 2 person place

they just write one check though, and the money that her roommate gave her was taken out of the account

12/10/2007 9:01:55 PM

if she has bad spending habits-no... She's got to figure out how to manage money the hard way


If she's in a bind because of reasons out of her control-maybe


How the hell is her rent 1100 anyway?

12/10/2007 9:02:22 PM

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"they just write one check though, and the money that her roommate gave her was taken out of the account"

but not the whole $1100? sounds sketch to me.

12/10/2007 9:02:59 PM

the whole check being stolen in the mail is wicked shady

12/10/2007 9:03:30 PM

so she wants you to pay for her AND HER ROOMMATE'S rent?

i would not do this. tell her to ask her parents or something.

12/10/2007 9:04:53 PM

fuck that sonali if you give this girl your dough im gonna clown you forever

12/10/2007 9:05:36 PM

do it, but don't get your hopes up about getting your money back. Just do it for friendship, but she's a good friend.

12/10/2007 9:05:50 PM

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"but I know she's always in a huge bind with money"

It's up to you, but don't count on seeing it again

12/10/2007 9:07:12 PM

ive learned to never let a friend borrow money and to never let them borrow your car unless you're riding along.


you live and you learn. learn from my mistakes.

12/10/2007 9:07:43 PM

well technically her roommate already paid...she paid my friend

she already asked her mom, but she doesnt have money and her dad passed away a few years ago

12/10/2007 9:07:55 PM

then be like her mom and not have the money either

12/10/2007 9:08:36 PM

btw, your friend seems like a sketch ball.

12/10/2007 9:10:33 PM

My rule of thumb when lending money to friends. Do it only if you can afford to never see that money again. If you do end up getting it back it will be like you saved that money in the back of your closet and forgot about it, then one day you decided to clean and you found it.

12/10/2007 9:13:42 PM

how can you steal a check that's not in your name anyhow?

12/10/2007 9:14:14 PM

was the check written to a company ?


if so, then i call bullshit on your friends part.

12/10/2007 9:17:03 PM

no they are renting it from a private owner. She's called the bank and they said it could take between a week to a month for her to get her money back

12/10/2007 9:18:46 PM

still sounds sketch as fuck.


i wouldnt do it unless you honestly... and i mean honestly, believe that she'll pay you back. If you have any doubt whatsoever, dont do it.

Learn from my mistakes.

12/10/2007 9:20:50 PM

i call bullshit on her friend no matter who the check is written too. $1100 is alot of money to not have for rent and if you are going to ask a freind for money. Sure she doesn't have an affinity for blow or dope?

12/10/2007 9:22:08 PM

and buy a gun or a machete and get a dog or an alarm system

dont let that chick send goons into your crib cuz she decides she wants the money anyway

12/10/2007 9:22:20 PM

well i would let her borrow it, but I don't even have much money to let her borrow since I'm paying off a loan for my condo...I'm still at about 40,000 left on the loan

12/10/2007 9:22:36 PM

Give her $2500 in Monopoly money, and in addition to paying her rent, tell her to buy more houses on Pacific, Pennsylvania, and North Carolina.

12/10/2007 9:22:50 PM

fuck no don't do it. you'll never see that shit again.

12/10/2007 9:22:53 PM

As long as you wouldn't mind if the $ wasn't returned - do it....

.... if that isn't something you're OK with, don't

I've done it before and will confirm, friends and money don't mix...
And usually those with money problems have a line of 'oh it's just cause this happened' mess that makes the cycle continue.
The sooner they 'get' that blame & excuses aren't the way to go, the better off they'll be.
Tough love wins.

12/10/2007 9:24:27 PM

if your going to do it write out a contract of payments per week month make copy sing and have witness sigh.

12/10/2007 9:34:55 PM

you will get it when you get it....so if you can wait that long and trust your friend enough, lend the money

this has worked for me

12/10/2007 9:35:13 PM

don't do it!

12/10/2007 9:38:15 PM

make sure to write out a contract. and make notes of all the payments she gives you back.

12/10/2007 9:39:29 PM

don't even bother w/ the contract. if it gets to a point where you'd have to use a contract to get your money back, then the friendship will be gone and you should've just saved yourself the trouble and told her to fuck herself to begin w/.

12/10/2007 9:42:12 PM

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"but her check that she put in the mail last week for her rent was stolen and somebody took money out of her account and her landlords came around asking why she didn't pay rent"

This story reeks of BS.

A stolen check, somebody took money from her acct.

I don't know what someone would do with a stolen check that is not made out to them. People don't just take money out of your account.

If you value that friendship or the money you earned at all you will stay away from this. Late rent is not the end of the world anyway. Don't make her landlords problem yours. If she has such a good excuse for not having the rent then maybe her landlord will work with her.

12/10/2007 9:42:44 PM

If she didn't end up in a "bind" every month I'd believe it more... and she could talk to the landlord and pay two months rent next month, the situation will be fixed by then. They can not kick her out after being only one month late on rent once

12/10/2007 9:44:47 PM

OH yeah and if she has a job and has not fucked her credit up royally she can get a loan from a finance company. Tell her to go to Citi Financial or some shit. Unless she has absolutely horrible credit she can walk out of there with a check the same day. Yeah the interest rate is gonna be 20% but if she can pay it back fast enough that wont matter. You have to have complete shit credit to get denied from one of those places and if her credit is that shitty she ain't gonna be paying you back either.

I am telling you, DO NOT MAKE HER PROBLEM YOUR PROBLEM.

12/10/2007 9:45:38 PM

hey you never know...2 years ago we had somebody steal my moms sam's club card that has HER picture on the thing and somebody spent over 1500 on it

12/10/2007 9:48:28 PM

did your mom then go ask a friend to make that her problem? of course not, that'd be ridiculous.

12/10/2007 9:52:54 PM

Set em up

12/10/2007 9:53:20 PM