I went to a non-alocholic wedding/reception over the weekend. I thought that it was very weird not to offer any type of alocholic drinks (especially one of this size).

How common is this? is it bad luck?

8/13/2007 3:24:36 PM

I don't know about bad luck, but if I have to sit through your boring ass wedding and bring you a present, I better get a beer.

8/13/2007 3:25:52 PM

HORRIBLE

the reception was so boring...we basically ate and then left

[Edited on August 13, 2007 at 3:26 PM. Reason : ]

8/13/2007 3:26:22 PM

common if the reception is in the Church

open bar FTW!

8/13/2007 3:27:46 PM

the wedding was in a nice church and the reception was at a country club that even had a bar. I was sorely dissapointed.

8/13/2007 3:28:22 PM

CHEAP CHEAP, CHEAP CHEAP

8/13/2007 3:28:51 PM

It is more understandable if the wedding is two people without any money or help for the wedding. Maybe they just simply cannot afford alcohol. Even then, how much would a few kegs hurt?

Were the people really religious who had the dry wedding?

8/13/2007 3:29:13 PM

bad

unless there's free herb instead

8/13/2007 3:31:02 PM

wow, you people cant have a good time with out drinking
super face

8/13/2007 3:31:57 PM

yeah, they were both pretty religous. But the funny thing is they had a bottle of wine on their table for them (bride and groom) to drink.

I don't think they were too cheap. it was one of the nicer wedding i have been to. limo renting, going on a nice honeymoon, steak/chicken to eat. o'd ouvers' (however you spell it) as well.

8/13/2007 3:32:41 PM

abso-fucking-lutely horrible

I pretty much abandon any friend if they invite me to their wedding and then don't have a bar.

8/13/2007 3:32:45 PM

It's understandable I guess for the wedding I went to

both families were really Christian (aka..the bride and groom were still virgins)

I guess for that reason I understand it, but I mean come on...just about everyone at the wedding was over 21, I don't see why they didn't have any (Money wasn't an issue either)

haha, the fruit punch even said "non-alcoholic" on it...there was no "alcoholic" punch anywhere, however...we looked

food was good though

8/13/2007 3:33:12 PM

two words:

















Southern.....
































Baptist.

worst weddings evar.

8/13/2007 3:35:16 PM

meh. i dont drink too much and my gf doesnt drink at all, and id say a majority of our friends dont that often. and ive been to plenty of weddings where completely drunk people created an annoying atmosphere. *however this isnt always the case obviously, just pointing out scenarios that do happen*

i dont think we'll have a dry wedding because it doesnt bother me, but i can easily see the case for it and i dont think its cheap.

and no im definitely not southern baptist either


[Edited on August 13, 2007 at 3:38 PM. Reason : ]

8/13/2007 3:37:00 PM

I've been to plenty of weddings both ways.... Honestly - If I cared enough about my friends to attend their wedding, alcohol has no impact in how much fun I would have.

There are some families that religiously feel alcohol is inappropriate, and it isn't my place to judge their decision. Others wanted a 'dry' wedding because they weren't interested in seeing how wasted they could get everyone & wanted to celebrate their wedding for the right reasons - not just a party. The point of their day wasn't to get drunk at the end of it.

I hate to sound snotty, but if this was the view of a 'friend' I invited to my wedding:

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" I pretty much abandon any friend if they invite me to their wedding and then don't have a bar."

I certainly hope you'd stay at home and no longer consider me a 'friend' anyway.

That's all.

8/13/2007 3:39:39 PM

there's bad, there's terrible, and then...

there this idea

8/13/2007 3:40:22 PM

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"The point of their day wasn't to get drunk at the end of it. "

totally agree, you get drunk first, and the rest of the wedding goes so much smoother.

8/13/2007 3:45:13 PM

i don't know

alcohol is such a "social lubricant". Hell, i would have danced a little bit and everyone might have been a little bit more louder if everyone had a few drinks in them. Yeah you can get wasted but you can also drink a few to losen up and have a good time.

8/13/2007 3:48:14 PM

I grew up going to church weddings and didn't even KNOW that weddings could be one hell of a good time...

And then my college friends started getting married and I was introduced to the concept of open bars at the rehursal and reception... my enjoyment of the wedding increased 1000%

Dry receptions that I go to: I say congrats to whoever and then usually me and the people I went with will go find a bar or just leave period... the wedding couple doesn't give a crap if you stay for the whole thing, they will have so many people to greet that they won't even miss that your gone after having said congrats.

And I'm not saying "OPEN BAR GIMME WHATEVERS FREE" farva style. I've never gotten sloshed at a wedding. I mean really people that have open bars are typically more fun loving free spirited types anyways so it almost goes hand and hand.

[Edited on August 13, 2007 at 3:51 PM. Reason : puncuating my rant]

8/13/2007 3:48:55 PM

ya never know...someone in their immediate family could be a raging alcoholic so they had a dry reception so he/she/they wouldn't be tempted or make an ass of of themselves at the wedding, thus ruining their day

8/13/2007 3:49:14 PM

heh, see "wedding singer" for example of ^

8/13/2007 3:52:40 PM

I've only been to one wedding with alcohol at it and I wasn't allowed to drink at the time

However, no wedding I have will be dry. My best efforts will make the reception 'off da hook.'

8/13/2007 3:54:18 PM

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"The point of their day wasn't to get drunk at the end of it."

Did they serve food?

Was the point of their day to get fed at the end of it?

Did they dance?

Was the point of their day to electric slide at the end of it?

Funny how people pick on alcohol with such a lack of logic

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"wow, you people cant have a good time with out drinking"

No, it's just that they can have an even better time with drinking, so why not?

[Edited on August 13, 2007 at 3:56 PM. Reason : V that's a must]

8/13/2007 3:54:21 PM

did they warn you in advance so you could pregame or bring a flask?

8/13/2007 3:54:36 PM

flask would imply alchoholic... if your the only drunk person somewhere... you probably have a problem... hence leaving for a bar so your surround by drunk people.

I like the "social lubrication" statement tremendously and agree completely

8/13/2007 3:56:30 PM

alcohol is freaking expensive for a wedding. my fiance's family has a couple of alcoholics anyway, so its probably not a great idea. maybe a cash bar or something, but definately not open. Or only free drinks up to a certain amount or a certain number per person.

8/13/2007 3:59:58 PM

oh come on people... don't be stingy and have a damn dry reception. At least have the heart to buy a couple of kegs, goddamn.

8/13/2007 4:02:37 PM

we are gonna have a host bar at our wedding

$15/person for all you can drink beer and wine

woo wooooooooo

8/13/2007 4:04:14 PM

The only thing I have against wet weddings are that people cannot pose worth a shit and they end up looking sloppy in the pics, which takes experience on my part to catch them in a graceful stumble somehow. If they drink responsibly, everything goes smoothely, but if they chug it down, by the end they're sitting around half-asleep. Wet weddings are fun in the first few hours when the guests are getting a buzz and are happy, lively and goofy.

But you know you're in for an interesting reception when you catch the mother of the groom telling the bar tender before the people get there to keep the fifth of Grey Goose under the table for her and for her alone. When they hoisted her up on the chair, she was laughing and waving her arms like she was riding a bucking bronco machine.

8/13/2007 4:06:57 PM

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"I don't know about bad luck, but if I have to sit through your boring ass wedding and bring you a present, I better get a beer."

WINNAH!!!

8/13/2007 4:07:13 PM

We are just going to provide cheap wine and are going to buy whatever beers are on sale over the next few months for our reception.

8/13/2007 4:07:14 PM

And uh

For anyone who needs a cheap, reliable photographer

I'm here...

8/13/2007 4:08:40 PM

CAUSE I WANT THE MOST SPECIAL DAY OF MY LIFE TO BE REMEMBERED WITH CHEAP AMATEUR PHOTOS

8/13/2007 4:09:24 PM

Excuse me, my photos may be cheap but they are far from amateur. Plus I'm getting a Nikon D80 in the next month.

8/13/2007 4:09:55 PM

the caps lock and were supposed to signify that i was just giving you a hard time

8/13/2007 4:10:26 PM

Ok, you're forgiven, I just need some business and know I can help a TWWer out. Mutual.

8/13/2007 4:11:51 PM

8/13/2007 4:12:12 PM

it doesn't have to be expensive to have alchohol at a wedding. Some caterers(sp?) will allow you to supply the alchohol with some restrictions... so you can spend whatever you want to and keep a healthy level... or theres the all you can drink for $x or cash bar... lots of options there... but screw "cake, punch, and mints"

A set ending to the reception and a place for an afterparty helps seperate out the tuckered out late crowd... and the remaining lively peoples...

[Edited on August 13, 2007 at 4:15 PM. Reason : ^ thats freakin awesome... but I wonder if its from a "dress trashing party" or something...]

8/13/2007 4:12:33 PM

My friends and I were talking about this the other day. It just seems that receptions without alcohol are much less fun and people leave earlier. Hell, a reception is supposed to be a CELEBRATION of the wedding, and people should be able to get rowdy and such all in good fun (but of course you have to keep an eye on the crazy people).

8/13/2007 4:16:19 PM

Maybe the key there was that they wanted to get to the 'wedding night' portion of the show a little sooner....

8/13/2007 4:17:47 PM

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"yeah, they were both pretty religous. But the funny thing is they had a bottle of wine on their table for them (bride and groom) to drink. "

it's for their ceremonial toasts after the family and bridal party give their congratulations. you could have brought your own alcohol if it was that big of a deal.

8/13/2007 4:20:31 PM

392, you call that fucking post "logic"

hahahaa, apples and oranges

are you really 28 b/c you sound like you are 18 talking about weed and drinking all the time

8/13/2007 4:24:55 PM

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"you could have brought your own alcohol if it was that big of a deal. "

yeah, I'm sure they would've liked that.

8/13/2007 4:28:10 PM

Even though this is the lounge, I thought this was highly appropriate.

8/13/2007 4:36:13 PM

our wedding reception was held at a church so it was dry, but I've been to a lot of them that were that way. my mother-in-law is a teetotaler and was opposed to us serving alcohol, but we couldn't have at the church anyway.

8/13/2007 4:37:03 PM

It's their wedding, their special day, if they don't want to serve alcohol then don't judge them for it. If you are shallow enough to not consider them a friend because of that then maybe you aren't too much of a friend to begin with. And nobody is telling you that you have sit through their ceremony and bring a present. If you don't wanna do that shit just don't go. If you wanna get drunk then go to out to a bar or something, it shouldn't be the sole reason for you to attend a wedding.

8/13/2007 4:38:38 PM

It's a celebration

Celebrate in style

8/13/2007 4:45:55 PM

HEY GUYS COME OVER MY APARTMENT< I'M THROWING A PARTY WITH NO KEG AND NO DRINKING ALOUD, WE'LL HAVE A GOOD TIME THOUGH

8/13/2007 4:46:07 PM

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"HEY GUYS COME OVER MY APARTMENT< I'M THROWING A PARTY WITH NO KEG AND NO DRINKING ALOUD, WE'LL HAVE A GOOD TIME THOUGH"

Sounds like someone is bringing other substances then.

8/13/2007 4:54:03 PM

The Christianity-based argument for not having ANY alcohol is bunk. Jesus drank wine.

8/13/2007 4:54:06 PM