so I am at a new place and out of school for a while. What is the best way to develop a good social circle?

I am not talking about getting laid or going to bars. Just a fun group with likeminded people that you can plan activities with.

I have tried meetup before, but the kind of people that generally use these avenues are more or less pretty much the same kind of people you see in computer science classes.

Can anyone understand what I am saying?

5/19/2006 4:48:39 PM

Go to church. I don't care if you don't care for it or are opposed to it. You can always find hot chicks in church. Just think of it as 'bringing the religion down from the inside and getting booty in the process'.

5/19/2006 4:51:17 PM

[this is not a joke, you're going to think it is, but its not]

join a dart league

[seriously, thats not a joke]

5/19/2006 4:51:32 PM

It's not about chicks.

Like I said, this is not about getting laid.

Woodfoot, how exactly does a dart league work out?

5/19/2006 4:54:50 PM

You play darts for fun and profit

5/19/2006 4:58:31 PM

you run to the internet and ask people how to get a life

5/19/2006 5:26:43 PM

you run to the internet and ask people how to get a life

5/19/2006 5:29:11 PM

are you working for a company? if so find out if they have a softball team and see about joining or something

5/19/2006 5:41:21 PM

god you suck at life

5/19/2006 6:03:50 PM

get off the interet, tard

5/19/2006 6:10:35 PM

1. Get a dog (or borrow a friend's)
2. Walk it regularly where others walk dogs
3. Take notice of the people you see often
4. Speak to them... I can't help with the socializing with them part

[Edited on May 19, 2006 at 6:13 PM. Reason : ]

5/19/2006 6:13:22 PM

you came to the internet to find out how to be social

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5/19/2006 6:17:42 PM

Try social groups that deal with something you're interested in. Like reading? Try some random poetry or writing club.

Plus you'll still find the girls you're looking for.

You can say you're not in it to meet girls, and I'll just call you a liar.

5/19/2006 7:02:41 PM

hey guys, i've got a joke.... esgargs walked into the lounge and said, "i'm not looking for girls"

5/19/2006 7:05:17 PM

hey guys, i've got a joke.... esgargs walked into the lounge and said, "i'm not looking for girls"

5/19/2006 7:17:34 PM

Find your closest neighbor, your ex gf, and your best friend from high school… instant circle of friends for atleast 9 seasons.



[Edited on May 19, 2006 at 7:23 PM. Reason : .]

5/19/2006 7:23:32 PM

Quote :

"Try social groups that deal with something you're interested in."

How do I find these groups?

5/19/2006 7:57:51 PM

first find something you're interested in

5/19/2006 8:03:49 PM

I am interested in dining, arts, movies, playing racquet sports, card games, philosophy, spectator sports etc.

now what?

5/19/2006 8:10:37 PM

Try craigslist and/or small local papers similar to the Independent in raleigh.

5/19/2006 8:12:26 PM

Throw a kegger.

5/19/2006 8:12:54 PM

like I said, craigslist/meetup do not cater to people like me.

5/19/2006 8:13:15 PM

Keep looking. Also if there are any large college campuses in the area, hang at social places close by.

5/19/2006 8:15:33 PM

I thought about that, but how do I just hang out?

Also, this area isn't as much culturally diverse like Raleigh...I dunno if people here are accepting of brown turrists.

5/19/2006 8:17:03 PM

Put a bindi on to clarify where you are from before hitting on the ladies.

5/19/2006 8:25:16 PM

where the hell you at

minneapolis pees on raleigh

5/19/2006 8:33:18 PM

hmmmmm

guess I just don't know enough whities

5/19/2006 8:37:01 PM

yeah, its pretty white up this way

buy a hockey stick and $profit

5/19/2006 8:38:07 PM

heh

I need a tutorial...didn't you mention you were in Wisconsin?

Come up here sometime.

5/19/2006 8:39:19 PM

try building a birdhouse in your soul.

5/19/2006 8:44:44 PM

i'm trying to move to wisconsin in a couple months or so - hopefully my cracker ass will fit in OK. i don't have much of an accent, so i think as long as i drink beer and hang out at college places i'll be ok

5/19/2006 8:52:29 PM

it's actually kinda surprising that both these places are predominantly white even though both UWisc and UMN have good computer science grad programs.

5/19/2006 8:53:38 PM

Quote :

"Woodfoot, how exactly does a dart league work out?"

bars set aside a night or two each week where people come in and play darts, like a rolling continuing tournament

i guess you can try and find a solo set, or if you can find someone who doesn't have a parter or needs an extra person you can be on a team

its basically hanging out and knowing you'll have someone to talk to - even if they are your opponent

you said you play raquet sports

the folks at my gym don't care who you are, how old you are, what you do - if you'll play raquetball with them, they'll let you
there is probably a gym up there that has a crew like that

5/19/2006 9:55:00 PM

also, isn't there a big design/arts school up there?

you'll prolly find your more liberal/open-minded/non-terrorist-hating people there

5/19/2006 9:57:02 PM

yeah there's a very big arts school in Minneapolis.

I am pretty outgoing...my problem is just finding where and how to start. I just can't stand at a street corner and make friends.

5/19/2006 10:01:10 PM

Do you like dancing?

5/19/2006 11:13:22 PM

I have tried to learn, but couldn't find time/partner.

But yes, I love to do everything.

5/19/2006 11:14:00 PM

There's lots of groups around.. Milongas does Argentine Tango, NC State has a ballroom team and free social dance lessons if you have access to the gym, there's probably some Shag, Swing, etc. groups around as well, and I've found that dance groups are a great way to meet people.. you get together, learn/do something fun, and then have an excuse to meet up, go dancing, dinner, hang out, whatever.. I started ballroom dancing at NC State this year and spend loads of time hanging out with people on the team, a great way to network

5/19/2006 11:20:15 PM

He isn't in Raleigh.

5/19/2006 11:21:07 PM

Do you have any neighbors that you know or like… maybe they can introduce you socially to the area?

5/19/2006 11:53:27 PM

job is the best way

5/19/2006 11:56:50 PM

swing dancing, beginnner's class;make sure you don't smell bad.

5/20/2006 1:24:10 AM

TAKE A SHOWER, JOIN A GYM AND USE IT, THEN TAKE A SHOWER AFTER WORKING OUT

5/20/2006 1:45:11 AM

gargs are u in minneapolis? if so the nightlife there is plentiful...best way to meet people is go to a bar talk to the bartender find out what is going on during the week and whatnot then go out and meet them... they have poker tournaments at bars as well as euchre tournaments most likely since that is a midwestern game. but on a more light note quit cooking shit with curry in it and people will be more likely to talk to you.

5/20/2006 8:57:27 AM

1. do things you like
2. talk to people there
3. ??????????
4. profit

5/20/2006 10:02:03 AM

Professional groups/clubs?

5/20/2006 10:26:46 AM

Maybe I'm missing something ... but why aren't you hanging out with people from work?

5/20/2006 10:37:47 AM

I've been to Minneapolis. There are some decent bars with strange women in them.

5/20/2006 10:39:03 AM

WALK UP TO THE FIRST BLACK GUY YOU SEE AND SAY:

"WHAT UP BLACK, IM TRYNNA TWIST UP SOME KUSH. HOOK IT UP NIGGA"

5/20/2006 11:46:56 AM

i second attempting to build a birdhouse in your soul

5/20/2006 1:52:09 PM