Okay, so here's the story.

Won an auction, paid.
Seller ships from Charlotte to Raleigh
2 weeks later, it's still not here, so
I talk to her, the post office doesnt know where it is (had a tracking #)
go to the local post office, they say it never arrived there.
She refunds me my money (she said she would) and says if it ever comes, I can keep it free, or if it makes it back to her, she'll let me have it for shipping only.
This was tuesday.
It was in my mail this afternoon.

Question being, should I email her about it or no as she already said icould keep it (and have a record of this email)

3/2/2006 1:02:16 PM

you should send her back the money

you know?

3/2/2006 1:03:30 PM

pay the lady something

3/2/2006 1:03:49 PM

yea, karma will get you.'

pay for what you were given.

3/2/2006 1:05:43 PM

^noen knows

3/2/2006 1:06:52 PM

pay for it

3/2/2006 1:06:57 PM

i mean

this isn't "ebay etiquette"

this is "being a decent person etiquette"

3/2/2006 1:07:41 PM

pay for it

but not because of some karma bullshit

but because its the right thing to do

3/2/2006 1:08:21 PM

^ Now wait a second, she *told* me i could have it for free?

How the heck is karma going to get me for that?

(oh, for ref. we're talking under $20 as opposed to like $5K)


[Edited on March 2, 2006 at 1:09 PM. Reason : .]

3/2/2006 1:08:56 PM

A. it doesn't matter how much it is

B. we're not talking about wal-mart here, this is a person. parsing shit only reflects on your character

3/2/2006 1:10:17 PM

Pay the lady... you don't need an Earl List. And apologize...(even though it's not your fault)

3/2/2006 1:12:19 PM

Paging danmangt40, he is the expert on ebay etiquette.

3/2/2006 1:14:57 PM

again, this isn't about "ebay etiquette"

just because it's the internet doesn't mean we can throw out all human decency

you fucking douche bag

3/2/2006 1:16:06 PM

^ I'm a douche bag now?

Wow, that's really nice human decency!

3/2/2006 1:17:03 PM

wow

3/2/2006 1:17:17 PM

Quote :

"pay for it but not because of some karma bullshit but because its the right thing to do"

here's the thing. if that lady waited 2 weeks to ship something (which is what it appears like to me), and she told ladywolff that she can have it for free because she knew she was in the wrong, then there's no reason for ladywolff pay anything. if thats the case, i'm sure she offered the product for free since she wants to avoid the negative feedback of waiting 2 weks to ship.

if on the other hand, the item was shipped promptly after the auction closed and fault rests with the USPS (which i doubt, i mean its only 2.5 hour drive from charolette to here) then you should pay the lady something.


ladywolff, do you have any tracking info for the shipment. If she didn't email the tracking # to you it will be on the outside of the box it arrived on. If you can get a tracking number, look it up and look at the shipment date. If she waited more than 10 days or so to ship then keep it for free because the lady knows she screwed up. Let us know how it turns out.

3/2/2006 1:18:26 PM

if you were the one who sent the item would you want to be paid for it?

3/2/2006 1:19:09 PM

karma bullshit = but because its the right thing to do

3/2/2006 1:19:26 PM

^^^ I do, however maybe you can clarify this then.

She *did* send them "electronic" shipping information, however that I know does NOT mean she went by and gave them the physical package.

As of the day I checked with the post office, they gave me a print out that sasid the status was still on "info recieved".

I'm not sure if they change the status to reflect the actual package was in their hands, but if so, it wasn't put into the system as of tues.

[Edited on March 2, 2006 at 1:21 PM. Reason : .]

3/2/2006 1:21:11 PM

what do you expect from people who mostly believe that salvation and good deeds have nothing to do with each other

3/2/2006 1:21:14 PM

You need to pay her for it and you certainly are coming off as a douche bag about this.

3/2/2006 1:21:30 PM

^^ Wait, so now I'm a bad person becuase i'm not christian?

You, my dear, are a hypocritical bitch. Now GTFO my thread.

[Edited on March 2, 2006 at 1:22 PM. Reason : .]

3/2/2006 1:22:18 PM

ENOUGH WITH THE DOUCHE BAG

it's obvious people have a very weak sense of humor

jesus

3/2/2006 1:22:41 PM

you are perhaps the dumbest person i have ever seen post on this website

i swear to god

3/2/2006 1:23:18 PM

^^^^ I'm a douche because I asked?

And i'm a horrible person for asking what to do so you should proceed to insult me and my religion.

whatever, i'm not the one being an asshole in this thread, i asked a fucking question.

[Edited on March 2, 2006 at 1:23 PM. Reason : .]

3/2/2006 1:23:35 PM

oh my god

3/2/2006 1:24:01 PM

Quote :

"what do you expect from people who mostly believe that salvation and good deeds have nothing to do with each other"

are this much of a christian n00b, or do you really believe that the two are relateD?

3/2/2006 1:24:20 PM

you guys are completely off topic and have now gotten into "who can bitch the loudest" match


bttt geez

Quote :

"pay the lady something"

[Edited on March 2, 2006 at 1:25 PM. Reason : ..]

3/2/2006 1:24:41 PM

i'm trying to inject the funny just a tiny little bit

but i'm being impeaded by the largest stupid barrier i've ever encountered

3/2/2006 1:26:37 PM

tell her you got it, offer to send her the money for it, if she is a business on ebay, and insists that you can keep it for free, then you should, it doesn't make you are bad person, SHE IS TELLING YOU TO KEEP IT FREE for the sake of her business having a good name, so do it, how does that make you wrong, but it would be a nice gesture to offer to pay her if it's just a person, and not a business

3/2/2006 1:27:41 PM

a one person business is still a person

[Edited on March 2, 2006 at 1:28 PM. Reason : .]

3/2/2006 1:28:40 PM

You asked if you should pay for an object that you bought. Everyone is saying yes you should. You don't like that answer, you wanted to hear "No no, keep it. It's all good." So therefore you're pissed and acting like a...



Wait for it...





DOUCHE BAG.

3/2/2006 1:28:56 PM

yea, but i mean some people on ebay just sell a few items, not the same stuff repeatedly, i.e. a business account

^the person told her to keep it free bc it took so long to get? do you not understand this part?

[Edited on March 2, 2006 at 1:29 PM. Reason : sdfa]

3/2/2006 1:29:19 PM

^^ i never said i wasn't going to pay her, nor was I ever arguing with the advice I was given.

I'm taking offense at being BITCHED at for asking.

[Edited on March 2, 2006 at 1:29 PM. Reason : .]

3/2/2006 1:29:34 PM

for the record, i wasn't even called this chick a douche bag

i just want to say that

like a hint to an answer or something

3/2/2006 1:29:58 PM

3/2/2006 1:30:48 PM

^take that weak shit to chit chat

[Edited on March 2, 2006 at 1:31 PM. Reason : only 1 ^]

3/2/2006 1:31:21 PM

Quote :

"but i'm being impeaded by the largest stupid barrier i've ever encountered"

ok that was funny

[Edited on March 2, 2006 at 1:32 PM. Reason : LadyWolf, just pay the lady................... i think your question has been answered]

3/2/2006 1:31:26 PM

^ yeah I kinda got the answer.



Shame that in the process of being told "karma will get me"
and that "human decency" is important
All the above got posted.


[Edited on March 2, 2006 at 1:34 PM. Reason : .]

3/2/2006 1:33:07 PM

again

oh my god

just reread the thread

meditate on it, for christ's sake

3/2/2006 1:35:20 PM

LadyWolf, the fact that you even care about those comments is lame

just offer to pay the lady and everyone will shutup

[Edited on March 2, 2006 at 1:42 PM. Reason : you've been here since 2002. you should know by now that stuff will happen on tdub]

3/2/2006 1:41:32 PM

Well i figured that's what i was going to do, Did say i got the answer no?

didnt think TWW wanted a play by play.

.



[Edited on March 2, 2006 at 1:44 PM. Reason : .]

3/2/2006 1:42:13 PM

Quote :

"here's the thing. if that lady waited 2 weeks to ship something (which is what it appears like to me), and she told ladywolff that she can have it for free because she knew she was in the wrong, then there's no reason for ladywolff pay anything. if thats the case, i'm sure she offered the product for free since she wants to avoid the negative feedback of waiting 2 weks to ship. if on the other hand, the item was shipped promptly after the auction closed and fault rests with the USPS (which i doubt, i mean its only 2.5 hour drive from charolette to here) then you should pay the lady something. "

thats the answer. i vote the lady was being lazy and offered the free bit since it was her fault. if it was a higher priced item, she probably would have offered a shipping credit/partial refund.

3/2/2006 1:42:32 PM

neh? wtf is neh?

3/2/2006 1:42:52 PM

^ An incredibly shitty typo for no.

3/2/2006 1:43:55 PM

she got $ from the post office.

none of this karma bullshit.

the usps is a terrible way to ship packages or things that matter. info recieved means that it 1. could be in their system, or 2. it's on it's way to you, but they are too lazy to update their systems.

but it would be kinda nice to offer her at least something for it if the post office didn't reimburse her.

3/2/2006 1:45:03 PM

yeah i hadnt thought about it, she prob did get paid by USPS

3/2/2006 1:46:38 PM

Quote :

"she got $ from the post office."

assuming she dropped off the package in a timely manner, and also insured the package. i don't think either happened.

Quote :

"the usps is a terrible way to ship packages or things that matter. info recieved means that it 1. could be in their system, or 2. it's on it's way to you, but they are too lazy to update their systems."

and yeah, thats the root of the problem. if usps could update their tracking procedures to show when a package was received (or at least be able to answer that question when a customer calls in) then none of this would be neccessary. usps is good for the cheap price and fast delivery for lower weight shipments, but their tracking sucks.

3/2/2006 1:56:58 PM

Pay him/her back ASAP.

It's astounding he/she refunded you in the first place.

The crap you do will haunt you later...

3/2/2006 2:03:56 PM

*sigh* Didnt I already say I was?

and #2, it's not "crap" I do. I did *nothing* to cause this.

3/2/2006 2:05:14 PM