My friend and I were having a conversation about this the other night. Say you and your ex broke up on basically good terms, but you weren't friends or anything. Would you rather know that they are happily dating someone else or were alone and miserably missing you?

[Edited on December 23, 2005 at 2:54 PM. Reason : af]

12/23/2005 2:53:51 PM

i dont really care at all

12/23/2005 2:54:46 PM

definitely miserable

12/23/2005 2:56:22 PM

happily dating someone else of course

12/23/2005 2:58:59 PM

Happy w/ someone else. But i would want someone else too.

12/23/2005 3:20:14 PM

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"alone and miserably missing you"

so i could take them back and be their savior. my ex is happy as fuck and doesn't give 2 sh!ts about me.

12/23/2005 3:24:20 PM

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"alone and miserably missing you? "

Fuck a bitch.

12/23/2005 3:39:26 PM

Ex's what?

or do you mean Exs (exes?) as in plural?

12/23/2005 3:43:53 PM

wtf is an "exs"?

12/23/2005 3:46:48 PM

wtf is an exes?

12/23/2005 3:52:49 PM

I want mine to be happily dating someone...obviously I wasn't meant to be with them.

When it comes to my boyfriend's ex...I'm not sure if she wants him to be with me or not...I get the feeling maybe not.

12/23/2005 4:05:55 PM

MISERABLE

12/23/2005 4:06:57 PM

dont care really

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"my ex is happy as fuck and doesn't give 2 sh!ts about me."

think that sums my story up

12/23/2005 4:12:03 PM

if you broke up on good terms? a little part of me would want them to miss me, but if i wanted the break up then it doesnt really matter

12/23/2005 4:13:12 PM

Adding a thought...
my boyfriend and I had a huge fight last night...almost broke up over something stupid...
if he and I end up breaking up it would be quite a while before I would be able to handle seeing him with someone else...although I wouldn't want him to be miserable, either.

12/23/2005 4:16:47 PM

well, I've never broken up on good terms

so I'd have to go with

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"definitely miserable"

12/23/2005 4:20:43 PM

fuck em

12/23/2005 4:46:10 PM

Could care less, just would hate to see them in a bad relationship/situation. I mean I obviously had feelings for the person and wish them no ill will. But if they are happily involved or single, I could care less.

12/24/2005 12:03:05 AM

i mean i guess im on good terms with my ex
i hope things are going well for her, but i dont really care who she is with

if i did i would still be with her

12/24/2005 12:07:47 AM

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"definitely miserable"

12/24/2005 12:08:41 AM

Honestly....it might give me some evil-self-pleasure for about 30 seconds.
Then I would think...I really wish the best for them.

Life is too short to be so damn evil towards people.

12/24/2005 12:26:46 AM

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"i hope things are going well for her, but i dont really care who she is with if i did i would still be with her"

nailed it.

12/24/2005 12:51:11 AM

i've forgotten some of my ex's names...so i'm guessing that means i don't really care.

12/24/2005 4:52:57 AM

as long as she's not with me and she's not being abused, I could care less.

12/24/2005 5:06:12 AM

man y'all are some vindictive fuckers.

I'd always rather see an ex happily dating someone else, at the very least because they wouldn't be trying to get back with me, but mostly because I've never broken up with a girl on bad terms and have no desire to wish misery on them.

12/24/2005 7:58:29 AM

depends on if I'm alone or dating someone

12/24/2005 10:46:46 AM

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"but you weren't friends or anything."

If you aren't friends or anything anymore, why would you give a damn? I can't keep up with every bitch I've dated.

12/24/2005 11:33:29 AM

I think she was talking about executable files... exe. I have never really broken up with an exe file, although I have deleted them before. I guess I am kinda happy that they aren't alone, since I have deleted lots of exe files before and I assume they all go to the same place.

12/24/2005 11:33:45 AM

if i dump them, it pretty much means i hope they are miserable

if they dump me, i hope they are happy and find someone else because i doubt they'll ever find anyone better

12/24/2005 12:19:56 PM

yeah, I want her to be miserable. but then I'm usually miserable so I just want everyone else to be too.

12/24/2005 6:53:09 PM

seeing as i don't think my ex and i have any romantic feelings for each other anymore, i'm honestly happy he's dating someone now. it was a pain in the ass when he would call and say he missed me and wanted to get back together.

12/24/2005 8:30:07 PM

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"i dont really care at all"

no shit. there's a reason why they are the X

12/24/2005 8:50:59 PM

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"i dont really care at all "

yeah.. let it go

12/25/2005 12:27:24 AM

fuck no I don't want to see her with another dude, she's the one who dumped me

It'll happen eventually though, but if I'm not single at the time I doubt it will bother me.

12/25/2005 8:37:53 PM

I really don't care at all

on a related note, I was asking my most recent ex what she got her new friend for Christmas

turns out he requested the exact same shit that I did last year

to which I replied, Jessica, all you're doing is re-enacting our relationship but with someone nicer, more sober, and more normal

and then she just signed off

12/25/2005 8:44:30 PM

^ it's called the block icon

12/26/2005 12:04:46 AM

miserable

12/26/2005 1:08:25 PM

happily dating someone else

i always hope they find happiness after they were with me, cause they prob. weren't happy with me

12/26/2005 1:17:49 PM

wish em the best

and dont care either way

12/26/2005 1:31:57 PM

You said on good terms, in that case I'd want them to be happy.

As has been the case in my most recent relationship, it wasn't on good terms and I want her to be thrice divorced and miserable for the rest of her life.

12/26/2005 1:38:08 PM

Even on bad terms I'd want my ex to be dating happily/in a happy relationship with someone else. It'd indicate that he was able to get over all of the character flaws that made maintaining a healthy relationship impossible, or at least that he had found someone who could tolerate him.

12/26/2005 1:51:30 PM

I'd prefer not to know the details, but as long as my soon-to-be-ex-wife is taking care of herself and her son, or at least being taken care of, then that's all I care about.

I honestly don't think her being miserable or being up shit creek is gonna benefit either one of us. But at the same time, I'd like her to move on and grow (and grow up) and learn. The thought of her having severely shot herself in the foot makes me sick.

I couldn't wish her harm...I just wish that she gets her shit together.

Of course, she might be saying the same about me, but I'm gonna be just fine.

12/26/2005 7:08:21 PM

The selfish part of me would want them to miss me a little but all in all, I want them to find someone who makes them happy.

Now, if they dumped me for a whore or something and ended up getting bad blow jobs from a crazy bitch then yeah, I'd have to laugh. True story.

12/26/2005 7:22:32 PM

miserable! naaaaah. Good night and happy new year.

[Edited on January 1, 2006 at 6:28 AM. Reason : why not]

1/1/2006 6:27:13 AM

all in all, i've wanted each of them just to be happy, and i still do. i couldn't bring that to some of them, but that doesn't mean that they don't deserve it from someone else.

so, happy. i want each and every one of them to go as far in life as possible.

1/1/2006 9:48:18 AM

^ see that kind of attitude is why you have sub-optimal results with women. its not something i'm saying you can change. beta male is probably coded in your genes. no offense.

1/1/2006 11:18:30 AM

^that's fucking ridiculous. anyone who wishes unhappiness on an ex they broke up with on good terms is a goddamn chode.

1/1/2006 8:53:03 PM

on good terms, of course i want to see them happy. why the hell would you not?


on bad terms, depends.

1/1/2006 9:04:46 PM

I've broken up with one ex on good terms before. The rest, fucking drama city.


But that one ex that's still my friend, hell we've always been able to talk openly to each other... and on occasion we even talk to each other about relationship problems. It took a lot of time and even some separation from each other for things to work out as well as they have. I'm glad to see that she's seeing other folks and vice versa.


I've never believed in hating someone you dated just because you broke up - afterall, you choose someone to be with because you have similarities, things in common, etc. (Unless you just suck at people reading and/or don't know what you want in a person yet, but in either case you shouldn't be getting into serious relationships anyway.)

[Edited on January 2, 2006 at 1:45 AM. Reason : spellllllllllllllllllllllllllllling]

1/2/2006 1:44:41 AM

happy with someone else if i am happy with someone else
if i'm alone i want them to miss me

however if i know i will be seeing an ex i would take extra time to make myself look good..haha

1/2/2006 1:48:21 AM