If you are a guy and you meet a girl you like who is older than you........what do you do?
What is the appropriate age difference btwn an older girl and a younger guy......and then when you go out, should the girl pay cuz she is older or what????
Do the rules change when the girl is older than the guy?
I wonder how Demi and Ashton do it.....but then again their age difference is wayyyy out of league.

12/1/2005 4:04:09 PM

men get a free ride, women get criticized no matter how old/young they are

12/1/2005 4:08:17 PM

Can I buy you a fish sammich?

12/1/2005 4:12:50 PM

I thinks its better than the older guy with the younger girl. If there is a huge age difference, than it is just wrong and kinda pathetic (depending on the ages).

12/1/2005 4:14:10 PM

im dating a girl thats older than me right now, its not an issue, just overlook it.,..promise if you are really into her the fact that shes older will only come up with friends. shouldnt be a problem at all

12/1/2005 4:19:39 PM

As long as you got your wedding tackle in gear your good to go.

12/1/2005 4:22:44 PM

dude, sugar momma.

12/1/2005 4:45:40 PM

As long as the two of you get along, don't see a problem with it.

[ducks roaring flame overhead]

12/1/2005 4:47:59 PM

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"What is the appropriate age difference btwn an older girl and a younger guy"

Whatever they want.

12/1/2005 4:55:20 PM

i'm talking to a much younger guy....

i like him a lot and he seems to like me....

the age thing hasn't been an issue yet....but we'll see...

i'm all about doing things for him that girls his age can't (both financially and otherwise ) but he doesn't know that yet so I'm just gonna wait into it and see what happens.....

[Edited on December 1, 2005 at 4:56 PM. Reason : i'll be his sugar mama ]

[Edited on December 1, 2005 at 4:58 PM. Reason : damn...i can't type today]

12/1/2005 4:55:55 PM

ok what are the ages

12/1/2005 5:05:54 PM

well its a general question....

12/1/2005 5:11:11 PM

i think it's ok in general, but for people between 20 and 30, anything over five years begins to stretch it a bit.

12/1/2005 5:13:43 PM

im dating a 90 year old...........is that ok?

12/1/2005 5:13:58 PM

so according to what you said, if the guy is 25 and the girl is 30...thats cool and okay?

12/1/2005 5:19:04 PM

TWW doesn't know the meaning of cool. If it feels right, go with it, forget the rest. That's my motto, and I've lost a lot of friends because of it, but it's worth it. For me.

12/1/2005 5:24:44 PM

no offense man but depending on the age gap she might just be in the mood for someone younger cause she likes the thought of a younger guy chasing her. thats what happened to me one time. just dont get to serious to soon junior

12/1/2005 5:30:55 PM

are you really asking for these people's approval?

12/1/2005 5:33:45 PM

i am not asking for anyone's approval and i am not in the age difference relationship.....it is just a question on my mind.....and i'd like to know the views of you guys and gals out there.....
when more minds react, you can comprehend the issue better!

12/1/2005 5:37:21 PM

it has more to do with maturity than physical age.

12/1/2005 5:38:02 PM

no, the rules don't change. age doesn't determine who pays the check. it is perfectly fine to go dutch or to take turns paying tho (like any relationship).

friend of mine is dating a guy 4 years younger and has dated up to 6 yrs younger. but she is 33 (looks 27) and he is 29 so that is a little different than a 16 yr old and a 12 or a 10 yr old ya know.

it all depends on each individuals maturity level and if you share common interests. i see no issue with a 40yr old and a 30 yr old. but obviously a 20 yr old and a 10yr old aren't acceptable. for a 22 yr old guy, i see nothing wrong with a 26 to even 28 yr old depending of course on maturity levels.

12/1/2005 5:39:00 PM

ok....wow....you basically said it all....yeah i am talking about mature stuff not under-age crazy stuff....but here's the thing, say its your first date....so who pays the check?

12/1/2005 5:41:02 PM

traditionally, the guy

12/1/2005 5:50:36 PM

You both pay for your own. At least that's the way I think it should be.

12/1/2005 5:52:06 PM

Man pays... Period... End of story!

Unless it's his birthday. Or if he's broke

But really...age shouldn't be an issue unless it is with your family or her's.

[Edited on December 1, 2005 at 6:20 PM. Reason : age*]

12/1/2005 6:17:33 PM

In my experience, in relationships with a large age difference, disagreements are usually about money. While your business professional girlfriend is trying to figure out what color her new car should be, you're digging through your parents couch for enough change to put a gallon of gas in your car. I'm exagerating, but I don't care.

12/1/2005 7:36:58 PM

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"If it feels right, go with it, forget the rest"

Is that what those older teachers said when they fucked underage kids?

12/2/2005 1:11:19 AM

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"Man pays... Period... End of story!"

Why can't the woman pay for her own dinner? She's got money, so why should I spend mine?

[Edited on December 2, 2005 at 1:26 AM. Reason : ..]

12/2/2005 1:25:57 AM

ok i think you are esgargs again

12/2/2005 2:03:47 AM

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"In my experience, in relationships with a large age difference, disagreements are usually about money. While your business professional girlfriend is trying to figure out what color her new car should be, you're digging through your parents couch for enough change to put a gallon of gas in your car. I'm exagerating, but I don't care. "

I have this problem and we're a year apart.

12/2/2005 2:06:01 AM

Why is that, DNL? I really don't care anymore. I've proven several times now that I'm not esgargs, state409c, or anyone else. I am Protostar, the Supreme Being.

12/2/2005 2:18:01 AM

ok how bout a guy 2 years younger, so 19 and 21..... sophmore and sr?

12/2/2005 2:20:00 AM

I like 28~30 right now

12/2/2005 2:25:54 AM

i dont even mess with younger girls anymore

12/2/2005 2:31:37 AM

well since you are like 18

I would hope you aren't messing with girls who are much younger than you

12/2/2005 2:45:40 AM

Well I'm 21, gf is 24


she's gonna get her masters before i get my bachelors (by one semester)


you find other things to worry about. she didn't believe I was as young as I was when we met (I'd just turned 20) and I didn't believe she was as old as she was (about to turn 23). When you find someone you click with, age just becomes referential.

12/2/2005 2:57:04 AM

I much prefer older women (even though I'm dating a 17 year old, go figure). I'm 26, oldest I've been with is 42. Watch out for the mid-30's girls, if you fall in love you nonetheless have to deal with the issue that one day you'll be 40 and her 50 which dosen't work out so well and makes for a very sad breakup. As far as sex goes, I'd recomend it! I haven't gotten a chance to try out women in their 50's yet so I can't comment that far out...

12/2/2005 8:55:44 AM

my brother is 26, his wife is 27...not much age difference there really but still older v younger

but you'd be surprised how common an older woman/younger man relationship is...may december relationships are what they're called

even vice versus of older male/younger female relationships...if you look up "may december relationships" on google you'll get a ton of hits of articles and blogs of just such a thing...and i wanna say CNN had an article recently on may december relationships and looked at hollywood for such an example--they're tons. susan sarandon and tim robbins pop into my head besides ashton and demi

and this is right on IMO

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"it has more to do with maturity than physical age."

12/2/2005 9:00:59 AM

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"I much prefer older women (even though I'm dating a 17 year old, go figure). I'm 26"

I'm not judging you or anything, but what do her parents think about it? I'm pretty sure that they would think you were just creepy...

12/2/2005 9:04:05 AM

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"ok how bout a guy 2 years younger, so 19 and 21..... sophmore and sr?"

OMG NOT TWO WHOLE YEARS

STFU

this is clearly not what shes talking about

I'm 24 and would feel comfortable dating anywhere from probably 19-29
once you're out of college its a lot harder to meet people, so this namby pamby "OMG 2 YEARS DIFFERENCE" shit is secondary to things like "OMG I'M GONNA DIE ALONE"

12/2/2005 9:11:46 AM

i've never meet a single woman over 30 that didn't have some sort of psychological problem.


FYI from amsterdam, K.

12/2/2005 9:13:54 AM

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"once you're out of college its a lot harder to meet people, so this namby pamby "OMG 2 YEARS DIFFERENCE" shit is secondary to things like "OMG I'M GONNA DIE ALONE""

I have a hard enough time meeting people now. You're saying it will get harder?

12/2/2005 9:24:37 AM

My ladyfriend is a bit younger than I, but she's more mature than me so it evens out.

12/2/2005 9:33:47 AM

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"I much prefer older women (even though I'm dating a 17 year old, go figure). I'm 26"

if you are not high school age
and are dating a girl high school age

that shit is just creepy

12/2/2005 9:50:37 AM

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"I have a hard enough time meeting people now. You're saying it will get harder?"

more than likely

especially if you make the mistake i've made and move to a small fucking town

i'm starting to think young people should never live in a town with less than 75,000 people...

12/2/2005 9:56:19 AM

Creepy is this 30 year old guy dating some 18 year old girl that I know

12/2/2005 10:33:07 AM

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""I have a hard enough time meeting people now. You're saying it will get harder?""

AHAHAHAHAHA. Dude. Enjoy the good life while you can.

12/2/2005 10:34:31 AM

Last year with i was 18, i kinda dated, but more or less just hooked up with a grad student who was 22. Kinda odd, but no biggy.

Normally i date girls that are like a year younger

12/2/2005 10:42:28 AM

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"well since you are like 18 I would hope you aren't messing with girls who are much younger than you "

i was referring back to my high school days...when i was a sophmore, i dated a freshman
that was pretty much the extent it

12/2/2005 10:43:54 AM

I've dated a 2 girls 4 years older than me, and then a few my age, and then a few 4 years younger than me...

first girl was 26 when I turned 21... we got along really really well I was poor and she knew it so she would pay most of the time... I made a poor choice and its one of my life regretts with her...

next I was 22 and she was 27... She had so much baggage from her previous LONG term relationship she was super insecure... I really liked her but she was hypercritical on "what I meant" by every little thing I said or did, totally insecure. broke up with her. We alternated who paid b/c we made the same ammount of money, we liked that better than going dutch...

Its nice dating somebody your age b/c your pretty much at the same place in life and looking for the same things... but you NEVER know what life is going to throw at you...

the girls that are 4+ years younger than me are still in the freshmen range, They are awesome (full of energy) but they are still discovering life and your along for the ride

it comes down to a maturity/experience thing... I feel that whoever is in the best financial position should pay... Thats swung both ways in my case and it hasn't bothered me either way...

12/2/2005 11:55:18 AM