traditionally or in australia. They both cost about the same amount, but the stress of planning a traditional wedding has already begun.....which would you do????

11/18/2005 12:34:08 PM

australia. it's more memorable.

11/18/2005 12:34:32 PM

& honeymoon combo. or you could do another honeymoon in the states.

11/18/2005 12:35:05 PM

australia
they won't notice your ring is CZ

11/18/2005 12:35:35 PM

yeah, it is more memorable but, I would not be able to share it with friends and family. It would just be the two of us. Also consider the fact that everyone else in my family was married at the court house

11/18/2005 12:36:13 PM

Australia seems to be the obvious answer here

if you're gonna do it, go all out




make it something to tell the kids about

11/18/2005 12:38:11 PM

I dunno, getting married is a huge deal for family as well. I would get married on the beach or somewhere cool, and then go to Austrailia.

11/18/2005 12:41:09 PM

^Beach weddings are the shit. That's what I'm doing.

11/18/2005 12:43:31 PM

Personally I would do the Australia thing. I can't even begin to imagine how stressful a traditional one would be.

11/18/2005 12:48:00 PM

sandals all inclusive

11/18/2005 12:51:09 PM

i'd say get married traditionally and then honeymoon in australia

11/18/2005 12:52:15 PM

From hearing other people talk about it, get married here. Honeymoon in Australia if you want, but I've heard lots of stories of families taking it personal not being able to see the wedding.

11/18/2005 12:53:44 PM

very true.

we were gonna get married in antigua but the family got involved for that reason and we ended up having a small ceremony locally for the fam, then honeymoon @ what was gonna be our wedding.

11/18/2005 12:56:45 PM

for me, a wedding would be more about the people around me celebrating the occassion.

Not necessarily the ceremony. While Australia (well, certain parts of it) would be a nice place to have a wedding, consider the people that you'd like to invite. Not all of them could take the time and expense to fly over there to be with you and your sig.other.

11/18/2005 12:59:43 PM

Wedding in paradise, reception party back home a few weeks later = best of both options.

11/18/2005 1:21:53 PM

JUST Don't get gangbanged and left for dead in Aruba, K.

11/18/2005 1:34:13 PM

yeah those fucking dutch people and their den of iniquity.

11/18/2005 1:35:51 PM

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"i'd say get married traditionally and then honeymoon in australia"

11/18/2005 1:44:54 PM

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"for me, a wedding would be more about the people around me celebrating the occassion."

same here. if i had mine anywhere but the east coast or the midwest, i'd spend toomuch time worrying about those who couldn't make it

11/18/2005 1:46:44 PM

Fuck the family, it is your wedding and it should be the way you want it.

11/18/2005 2:03:55 PM

some people like their family

11/18/2005 2:07:09 PM

why wouldnt you be able to share with family and friends???

my brothers old roommate got married in italy over the summer and ALL his friends and family came

11/18/2005 2:17:53 PM

You could get married there and go through the motions here as well. A couple I know lived here but their families are back in their respective countries. I have no idea how much it all cost, but they had 3 ceremonies to cover everyone.

Family wants to see the ceremony. Friends want to see the recption. The reception here alone wouldn't cut it.

[Edited on November 18, 2005 at 2:20 PM. Reason : .]

11/18/2005 2:18:40 PM

^ Oh yeah, because everyone can just at the drop of a hat, fly to somewhere in the world and attend a wedding. Not everyone's family is rich.

Plus, if I found out one of my friends was getting married in australia, I'd tell them that I'd be happy to attend if they bought me a ticket to get over there. I'm sure as shit not flying 18 hours for a 15 minute ceremony.

11/18/2005 2:20:31 PM

thats what PLANNING is for...when you plan a wedding you plan way in advance...if your family cant save up a couple hundred dollars over a years time to see you get married in australia then they probably wouldnt want to go to the wedding even if it was in the states

it has nothing to do with being wealthy

11/18/2005 2:30:07 PM

my family is def. not wealthy. I am paying for some, my fiance is paying for some and his family is too. I would never ask my family and friends to fly to australia...hence thats why I said that trip would be just for the two of us.

11/18/2005 2:35:31 PM

^^ Depends on the family. If a lot of them have kids the cost rises greatly. If its mostly couples then it might be more of a possibility.

A lot of times families are clustered anyhow, so a large portion wouldn't need hundreds of dollars for a more local wedding.



[Edited on November 18, 2005 at 2:39 PM. Reason : .]

11/18/2005 2:36:22 PM

If you want your friends and family there (and I promise that is so memorable and special)...I would have a traditional wedding.

My friend got married at St.Barts and we all traveled there (if you know your family and friends will travel then no harm no foul go all out and get married there)!

11/18/2005 2:37:33 PM

someday I hope to involve the wolfweb in the planning of my wedding

then I will know that I've won in life

11/18/2005 2:37:38 PM

Screw the family, you're getting married for yourself. Do whatever the hell you want.

11/18/2005 2:42:31 PM

Well, I'm Greek, you can't just say screw the family, well you could..but life would be hell.

11/18/2005 2:43:44 PM

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"thats what PLANNING is for...when you plan a wedding you plan way in advance...if your family cant save up a couple hundred dollars over a years time to see you get married in australia then they probably wouldnt want to go to the wedding even if it was in the states"

2 people, RDU to brisbane, is $4000 for flights alone, in october of next year (searched as far out as i could)
if i gave my parents a years notice, they sure as hell couldn't come up with 4K, in addition to my sister's ticket.
but if i decided to get married in, say, colorado, they would probably figure out a way.

Q - i personally like the idea of your wedding and honeymoon in australia, and a reception for folks here. just make sure you get good photogs and videographers. folks might rag on you for it, but just remind them it's you getting married, not them.

11/18/2005 2:48:58 PM

^ Your problem is searching that far out. Don't plan plane tickets too far out. My wife-to-be and I are going for 2 weeks in Hawaii (honeymoon) next August. I started looking for tix as soon as those dates opened up, and over the past month or so, they've steadily decreased. I bet ~6 months out is the primetime to buy.

But I'd go w/ normal wedding...it's just not the same w/o the family all there, stress and all.

11/18/2005 2:51:17 PM

Treat her right. South of the Border has the honeymoon suite ready to go.


http://www.pedroland.com/hotels_camping.html

11/18/2005 4:46:34 PM

Traditionally, the entire idea of a wedding was to present the couple to the community and ask for their support(donations/furniture/job offers/etc) Newlyweds were poor back then). It wasn't the bride's "special day" and it didn't cost much more than a pig-picking.

Of course these days no one knows their neighbors or stays in one place for more than a year, so fuck 'em and go spend your money on yourself down under.

11/18/2005 8:28:58 PM

do it in the states


i aint flyin to australia to sing in ur wedding

11/18/2005 8:32:50 PM

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"2 people, RDU to brisbane, is $4000 for flights alone, in october of next year (searched as far out as i could)"

k i didnt realize it was that expensive...i take that back

11/18/2005 8:48:44 PM

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"Traditionally, the entire idea of a wedding was to present the couple to the community and ask for their support(donations/furniture/job offers/etc) Newlyweds were poor back then). It wasn't the bride's "special day" and it didn't cost much more than a pig-picking."

Newlyweds are poor now! My husband and I had to buy ALL of our furniture ourselves (every stick of it) because neither of us had any. We have to pay for our own wedding, too. Our first wedding wasn't my special day, and the second wedding is so we can get married in his church, so it's not my idea of a good time. I wish our wedding wouldn't cost more than a pig-picking. In fact, I'm trying to convince him that we should just have a kegger for our reception.

11/18/2005 9:43:07 PM

go somewhere else...

or does princess have her heart set on australia

11/18/2005 11:38:54 PM

I was also the first in my immediate family to have a traditional wedding. We considered going to the mountains with my sister and his parents as witnesses to the marriage but the wedding won out, probably mostly because of the above reason, but also because I figured I would wonder what a wedding would have been like. I would personally suggest having a wedding here and honeymoon there when you get the money for it, and in the meantime do a weekend thing here if you don't have the money for something more. We're hoping to go to Scotland in a year. I don't and won't regret having the wedding. There was a lot of stress in the week leading up to it but the day of was the best day I've ever had.

If you set enough time aside for the planning it won't become overwhelming. Plus if you keep it to your interests rather than giving in to everyone else that may barge in with their ideas, it'll be easier. My husband and I also paid for about half of ours, and his family pitched in for the rest. So we accepted their ideas/suggestions of course, with our input, but my own family didn't force anything on us and provided support in other ways. We managed to put everything together in about four months.

Plus there are checklists and guides in bridal magazines or you could buy a wedding planning book to help you know where to start or where you should be at that point, and will help you remember something you may otherwise forget.

But if you decide not to do the wedding and instead go to Australia, you could always have a ceremony for family later, like on your first anniversary.

[Edited on November 19, 2005 at 9:28 AM. Reason : ]

11/19/2005 9:27:27 AM

Friend of mine ran into a similar situation with her family here and his in Japan. What they did was have a wedding here for this family then have a Japanese ceremony over there. They spent a little under $20,000 for everything. Tickets to Japan, both ceremonies etc and honeymoon.

11/19/2005 9:35:30 AM

I think we are pretty much set to have our wedding at Highgrove in Fuquay. Its a nice plantation house with a lake in the backdrop. We are having mimosas at the reception which is def a plus+++! Thanks for all the advice. Australia is still a dream of mine, but something we will have to save up for!! Its like 10 grand to visit for about 2 weeks.

11/19/2005 11:01:09 AM

'When' I get married, I'm going to get married here. The church I've attended my whole life.




I'm glad you decided to get married where your whole family can attend... For me... it's so important for those close to you to share such an important moment in your life.

Best Wishes!!!

11/21/2005 2:43:00 PM

elope nigga

11/21/2005 2:51:46 PM